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Why “lest another man take her” and not betroth?

Deuteronomy 20:5–7 (with the Judaica Press translation), describing the lead-up to a battle: And the officers shall speak to the people, saying, What man is there who has built a new house ...
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Conservative procedures for avoiding intermarriage?

Conservative rabbis are prohibited from performing intermarriages (e.g., http://www.rabbinicalassembly.org/sites/default/files/public/ethical_guidelines/Code%20of%20conduct-2011-public.pdf). Is ...
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Sources for Hassidic views on marital celibacy/asceticism?

My understanding is the traditional view of Ger Hassidism was that marital celibacy was a good idea, once all procreative needs had been met. My impression is that Chabad-Lubavitch never advocated an ...
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Shomer Negiyah- negated by Mikvah?

If a woman in an unmarried relationship goes to Mikvah, does that allow for freedom of touching in any way, besides for actual intercourse or spilling of seed in vain, between said couple (both ...
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Is there a source for a man not addressing his wife by her first name?

I know a man who when addressing his wife calls her [for example] Mrs Doe as opposed to 'Jane' or 'Honey' [he does this when he is home too]. This person is very religious and what some might call ...
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What customs does a divorced/widowed woman follow? (Ashkenazi/Sfardi — hers or her ex-husband's?)

When a woman gets married, she takes on her husband's customs. Thus, an Ashkenazi woman marrying a Sfardi man gets to eat rice on Pesach (and vice versa). But what happens if she gets divorced, or if ...
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How does the kohein gadol's substitute wife work?

The first mishna of Yoma1 explains that before Yom Kippur, a substitute wife is prepared for the kohein gadol lest his wife die -- because the torah says he makes atonement for himself and "his ...
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Should the groom say what the ketuba says he says? If not, are the witnesses that sign it lying?

Should the groom SAY the statement in the kesuba to his bride on the day the kesuba is being written? the statement in the kesuba On the day .... the bridegroom ... said to this [...] daughter of ...
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What is the role of a wife towards her husband according to Jewish thought?

What does the Torah, encompassing all of the Jewish works, say about the duties and responsibilities of a wife towards her husband? I would like some sources on the matter.
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What do I need to make a Jewish wedding?

What do I need to make a Jewish wedding?
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What is the point of having a rapist marry the woman he raped?

Deuteronomy 22:28-29 (JPS) 28  If a man find a damsel that is a virgin, that is not betrothed, and lay hold on her, and lie with her, and they be found; 29 then the man that lay ...
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What does לְפִי כְּבוֹדוֹ (according to his honor) mean? how is it calculated?

In shulchan aruch even ezer a few times (64.4, 89.1, 94.5) the amount of financial responsibility/obligation is based on the husband's/groom's or wife's/bride's level of "respect", and in yorah daiya ...
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Are there any Jewish groups that check for a newly married woman's virginity?

This question follows from: What are “the tokens of virginity”? Are there any Jewish groups then and now that check for a woman's virginity say by laying out a garment when marriage is first ...
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Are two biological brothers allowed to marry two biological sisters?

Are two biological brothers allowed to marry two biological sisters? Are there any halachically issues involved with such a marriage? I do recall hearing something about it but not sure what it was.
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Does casual sex establish a marriage?

Do premarital sexual relations effect Kiddushin (betrothal/first step of Jewish marriage) if there is no intention of getting married? If so, is the physical act itself determinative of whether or ...
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Can a bride's father call off a wedding? [duplicate]

Both in the Torah and various halachick literature, it often appears as though a woman's father has a large role in deciding who she marries. One example is in Shemiras Halashon, it says that if the ...
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Must a man seek 100 rabbis' permission again to take another “second” wife?

In certain cases, a man might receive a heter meah rabbanim (permission from 100 rabbis) to take a second wife. This may happen for a variety of reasons, but I understand that all of the cases involve ...
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Getting married at 18

The Mishna in Avos says that one should get married at 18 , is there a reason for this particular age ?
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When would a man have married multiple women on the same day?

The mishna at the bottom of Ketubot 93b talks about paying ketubot when a man with several wives dies. (They're paid in order of marriage, which from context means order of kiddushin.) It then ...
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What's the reason for silver spoon at yichud door?

At a wedding, according to Chabad custom, a silver spoon is placed at the entrance to the yichud room. The chosson walks in first by stepping over it with his right foot first. What is the ...
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Al pi halacha, are descendents from Marranos considered Jewish? [duplicate]

What level of proof would be needed for a person whose ancestors lived in Mexico and who claims to be a descendant of the Marranos to be considered Jewish for the sake of marriage? Or are all such ...
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Would a baalat teshuva need a get from each previous sexual relationship?

Would a baalat teshuva need a get from each previous sexual relationship? In light of the idea that marriage can be contracted solely through bi'ah/public knowledge of the couple's relationship (as ...
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Must a couple get divorced if they have no children after 10 years?

I recall learning, but am unsure of the source, that a couple who has been married for 10 years but has no children either should get divorced. What is the source and reason for this? Is it an ...
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Should lust for one's wife be curbed?

According to Judaism illicit relations are forbidden. I always thought that the way one can control his lustful desires is by marrying. In the Garden of Peace, Rabbi Shalom Arush says that a man ...
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Should one go out of his way to give his wife all the money and gifts she wants?

In the Garden of Peace, Rabbi Shalom Arush says that a man should give his wife all the money she needs and not worry her about any financial issues you are experiencing. To me, this seems a bit ...
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requirement for Chabad shluchim to be married?

I heard that Chabad instituted a requirement for shluchim to be married because Zalman Schachter-Shalomi went off the derech. Is this historically accurate, and are Chabad shluchim required to be ...
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Marriage of a Cohen to a woman with a non-Jewish father: Are the sons Cohanim?

Asking because it is not answered here: If, as suggested in the linked question, a Cohen may b'dieved (but not l'chatchila) marry a woman whose father is a non-Jew, will the sons from such a marriage ...
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Kol Isha Yabia Omer 1:6

Chacham Ovadia writes in Yabia Omer 1:6(end of section 7) different opinions on listening to a woman's voice without knowing what she looks like. He brings the gemara in Berachos 57b that says: three ...
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Shalom Bayis story to share at a Chuppah speech

I am supposed to give a speech on a chuppah next week BSD. I am totally blank! Have had a few ideas to talk about, focusing on Shalom Bayit, but I cannot pick a nice one so everyone present can learn ...
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How to reconcile a wife's cooking with the Zohar's definition of husband and wife?

According to the Zohar the man is the "giver" and the woman is the "receiver" within the context of a marriage. With that being the case how can one understand the traditional role of a wife to cook ...
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Aside from the Mitzvah “to be fruitful and multiply” why else should a Jewish person want to get married?

What does the Torah say regarding the reasons that one should get married? I am looking for sources such as "ein simcha beli isha" and other philosophical intrinsic reasons for finding a mate.
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Do married men stop saying a bracha on their *tallit katan*?

This question concerns the Ashkenazic practice. I was always told that the tallit katan (worn under clothing, every day, starting in preschool years) got the bracha of al mitzvat tzitzit, but the ...
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What information, if not shared before the wedding, can invalidate the marriage?

I know that under certain situations, if you didn't share certain information prior to marriage, the marriage could be nullified and not even require a get. What sort of witheld information qualifies ...
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Can marooned Jewish couple marry in G-d's eyes alone and start a family?

Supposing there are a Jewish man and woman who are the only survivors of a crash landing near a deserted island, and their respective families have written them off for dead. Over time as they ...
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Parents mix in to marriage until 24 years old

I was once told that parents have a bigger say regarding who you (maybe only male) marry before you are 24 years old Is this true? if yes sources please (The only thing I saw that changes after the ...
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How did a marriage officially commence among Hebrew people 2000 years ago?

About 2 thousand years ago how was a new marriage registered among Hebrew people? Was it registered at all? How did a man and a woman officially become married? Was it just a kind of public ...
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Yaakov Marrying Two Sisters

According to those that say the Avos kept the Torah beforehand (here), how was Yaakov allowed to marry two sisters? (Yes, I'm aware that there are many answers)
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Why doesn't dam chimud (seeing each other at the wedding) ban relations the first night?

The Gemara said that when someone asks another to marry, there's a concern for dam chimmud. That's why chosson & kalla shouldn't see each other during the week before the wedding. But they see ...
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Who can be the Mesader Kiddushin?

The mesader kiddushin at my wedding did not conduct any classes with me, did not read the ketuba out loud, did not recite any of the brachot. While he gave a speech under the chupah and explained ...
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What does a marriage proposal look like?

Most of us are familiar with the (American? Secular?) image of a proposal. The man kneels and says "will you marry me?" and so on. But what does an Orthodox proposal look like? I'm interested in any ...
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Yevamot Relationship Chart

I remember seeing a Web 1.0ish website with a great chart with ALL of the relationships described in Mesechet Yevamot. This website also had a click through tour of diagrams of the Beit Hamikdash. I ...
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Why is the daughter of a married woman permissible?

A person's wife is permissible to him, yet the daughter of his wife is forbidden to him. Should it not stand to reason a fortiori (by kal vachomer) that the daughter of a married woman, who (the ...
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a girl marrying against her parents wishes

i understand that a man can marry a girl against his parents wishes Shulchan_Arukh, Yoreh De'ah 240 25 הַגָּה: וְכֵן אִם הָאָב מוֹחֶה בַּבֵּן לִשָּׂא אֵיזוֹ אִשָּׁה שֶׁיַּחְפֹּץ בָּהּ הַבֵּן, ...
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May a normally impotent Jewish man marry if he can use Viagra?

This is a question regarding the marriageability of a Jewish man who knows he has ED. Does the Law say he must still be naturally capable of sexual intercourse without chemical assistance in order to ...
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Status of person with two different DNAs

Well, simple this is not. Some people can be made of "two" different DNAs. It basically happens that two embryos fuse making one health adult with two different DNAs, also known as a chimera. If such ...
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Is a pilegesh the same as a handmaiden?

I'm confused as to whether what the actual relationship to a man a pilegesh actually has in Jewish Law. I've seen conflicting sources: (1) Hebrew school taught a pilegesh is a secondary wife ...
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Evil Eye from one's own wife?

Is it possible that one's own wife creates an "evil eye" or something of the sort, knowingly or unknowingly and ends up causing financial and health trouble? Is there any sort of "contract" couples ...
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why kiddushin and nisu'in are done in the same day (no big space)

Why are kiddushin and nisu'in done on the same day, with no big space in between? I understand from the mishna: מסכת כתובות ה,ב = נותנים לבתולה שנים עשר חודש משיתבע לה הבעל, לפרנס את עצמה; כשם ...
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What is kabolas ponim on a wedding

I understand that the groom has kabolas ponim before the bedekin And the bride when she comes to the hupa (by said Boruch habo) Is this correct? what is the requirements of the kabolas ponim? ...