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What customs does a divorced/widowed woman follow? (Ashkenazi/Sfardi — hers or her ex-husband's?)

When a woman gets married, she takes on her husband's customs. Thus, an Ashkenazi woman marrying a Sfardi man gets to eat rice on Pesach (and vice versa). But what happens if she gets divorced, or if ...
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Why “lest another man take her” and not betroth?

Deuteronomy 20:5–7 (with the Judaica Press translation), describing the lead-up to a battle: And the officers shall speak to the people, saying, What man is there who has built a new house ...
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How does the kohein gadol's substitute wife work?

The first mishna of Yoma1 explains that before Yom Kippur, a substitute wife is prepared for the kohein gadol lest his wife die -- because the torah says he makes atonement for himself and "his ...
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The hupa itself, people holding or self standing, square or circle

I was told it is a segula to hold the 4 sticks of the hupa (square) so it seems it is preferred But now I see a new (to me) minhag that they have fancy self standing ones, sometimes in the shape of a ...
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Is a gentile obliged to get married and multiply?

We all know that a Jew is obliged to get married and have children. It's considered that a man is not complete until he gets married. I am not sure if a Jew won't have a share in Olam HaBa if he/she ...
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Is a rabbi required to be married?

I have heard (I honestly cannot remember where...) that to be a rabbi a man must be married. Is there any truth to this? I am more interested in knowing if this was true in the first century C.E. ...
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Wife and techiyas hameisim

Someone is married for 50 years and his wife passes away. He get remarried 2 years later. By techiyas hameisim (resurrection of the dead), would he be required to divorce his second wife?
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Is a Cohen who had a vasectomy allowed to perform Birkat Kohanim?

Is Cohen who had a vasectomy allowed to Bless the congregation? Also marry? What happens if he does marry?
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Cohen and Vasectomy Marrying a women who wants to have children

If it is prohibited for a women who want's to have children to marry a a man who had a vasectomy and the man told her before the wedding that he had the vasectomy and she had in mind to get invitro ...
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Is it forbidden to have a wedding by the koisel (western wall)?

Someone told me that I can't get married by the koisel. Is this true? If yes what is the reason, (religious (then sources please) or practical...)?
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Promised to name son Shimon - now husband is Shimon?

A woman who desperately wanted to get married traveled to Meron, the burial place of Rebbi Shimon bar Yochai, and vowed that if she found her match, she would name her first son Shimon in his merit. ...
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When would a man have married multiple women on the same day?

The mishna at the bottom of Ketubot 93b talks about paying ketubot when a man with several wives dies. (They're paid in order of marriage, which from context means order of kiddushin.) It then ...
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what is the source that Shadchan is an acronym of Sheker Dover Kesef Notel

what is the source that שדכן is an acronym of שקר דובר כסף נוטל (translation "marriage broker" is an acronym of "says" "lies" "takes" "money" (in a different order)) someone told me it is from the ...
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Paying a Shadchan

The Minhag in Klal Yisroel is to pay a Shadchan for introducing husband and wife. #1 - What is considered the norm to pay a Shadchan? #2 - Suppose a Shidduch breaks. Does the Shadchan have to return ...
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Translation please Yiddish and roshai taivois about getting married fast

Please help me translation (understand) Igres kodesh 24 pg 227 (second paragraph) I understand the last line that "whoever shortens the time between the decision (to get married) and the marriage ...
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Is it acceptable under Judaism to never marry?

Is it acceptable for Jews or those who live a Jewish lifestyle to become bachelors? I know of the New Testament verses that inspire my view but am wondering if Jews are commanded to marry and have ...
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Married women uncovering their hair in the presence of gentiles

Is there a halachic difference of a married women covering her hair in the presence of Jews or Gentiles? Even if you hold like the chasam sofer who says that it's Deoraisa?
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Does Judaism have anything on maiden names?

A recent NY Times article describes a rising trend in women's choices in keeping their maiden names, instead of (more traditionally) taking their husband's last name. I've wondered what opinions ...
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What is the halachic source for objection to gay (civil) marriage?

New York State is considering legalizing gay (civil) marriages, so tonight on our answering machine we received a message urging us to pray that it doesn't pass because gay civil marriages were, you ...
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Should Jews worry about whom non-Jewish governments recognize as “married”? [duplicate]

It says in Pirqei Avoth 2:3 "hawwu nizhirin be-reshuth" "Be wary of the [non-Jewish] government..." Lately, I have read alot of commentary from religious Jews in America about the Supreme Court's ...
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May one hang Torah passages or ketubah in the marital bedroom?

I understand that one is not supposed to store holy books in one's marital bedroom, unless they are covered. I gather that this is due to the fact that marital relations occur there, and there is a ...
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Unmarried man teacher of children

I see from The Shulchan Aruch Even Ezer 22.20 and from Shulchan Aruch Harav, Hilchois Talmud Torah, perek 1 halocho 13 that single man should not be a teacher of children (under 13) becouse of the ...
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Are Jewish women permitted to use birth control that stops menstruation?

Is there any reason that a Jewish woman who has permission from her Rabbi to use birth control could not choose a pill that stops her from menstruating? Although certain birth control pills are ...
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If a Kohan married a giyeurit by orthodox rabbi, is it a legitimate marriage?

If a Kohan was married to a giyuerit by an observant ("orthodox") rabbi, and if the rabbi wasn't aware that he was marrying a Kohan and not an Israelite, is the marriage legitimate? Sources requested ...
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Difference in law between male and female adultery [duplicate]

If a man has an extramarital affair he may continue to sleep with his wife whereas if a woman has an extramarital affair she may no longer stay married. There are other differences as well which are ...
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Sidra question about Samson

Why did Samson the holiest ever person at birth 'degrade' himself and 'marry' a philistine woman and how did she cause his 'downfall'. What made him tell her his 'precious' secret. Did that he came ...
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What is the status of a married woman without a kesuba?

If a married woman loses her kesuba, may she continue to sleep with her husband? Is she still legally considered married? If she sleeps with someone else, has she committed adultery?
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What is the source for the prohibition on marrying gentiles?

I have often heard that religious and traditional Jews are very concerned with intermarriage with non-Jews and strongly discourage it. But halachically, what is the support for the prohibition? I am ...
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Saying “I love you” during nidda

While a woman is nidda and she and her husband are observing harchakot, is it permitted for them to tell each other, "I love you," or is that too suggestive of a statement for the nidda period?
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What's the leading medical explanation for the “woman whose husbands keep dying” (“katlanit”) phenomenon?

The Gemara says that if a woman gets married, then her husband dies; then marries another guy and is widowed from him; then once more; we then assume something about her is causing her husbands to die ...
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How to verify Jewish identity

I've seen a few questions related to this, but not the specific nature of the question: What are the standard requirements for verifying one's Jewish identity. Obviously, one's mother must be Jewish, ...
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Leaving a mate behind in egypt

Did any husbands leave behind wives, or any wives leave behind husbands in Egypt during the Exodus? If so did this qualify a divorce of sorts?
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Is a Jew required to be married? [duplicate]

Is there a halacha that says a Jew must get married? How serious is it? What if a Jew is not married and remains a bachelor all their life, having sex? Please support your answers from Tanach and ...
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Were there restrictions on marrying members of other tribes?

In ancient Israel, when there were clear differences between members of different tribes, were there restrictions on members of one tribe marrying a members of another tribe? If yes, what would ...
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Not to marry a divorcée

I remember hearing in a daf yomo shiur And I want to find were is it written Something similar to that it is preferable not to marry a divorced woman (if her ex husband is still alive) because it ...
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Do any various “orthodox” groups forbid marriage to other groups?

Out of the various "Orthodox" groups, i.e. Litvish, Chassidim, Sephardim, Yemenites, etc., do any of them forbid marriage to the other?
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Do any poskim recommend giving a conditional divorce?

For someone who married without a halachic pre-nuptual agreement, are there any halachic authorities who recommend giving a conditional get (bill of divorce) which stipulates that it would go into ...
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Explain halachic purposes of parts of Jewish marriage

I am trying to understand the purposes of these parts of the Jewish wedding: Tana'im (Some document is read and the 2 moms break a plate) ketubah kiddushin (chatan places ring on kalah's finger) ...
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Does repentance remove effects of prior sexual assault?

Within the Laws of marriage in the Religious world, if someone was to be sexually abused or assaulted, however has done and experience properly the 5 stages of appropriate and acceptable Teshuvah does ...
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Aside from the Mitzvah “to be fruitful and multiply” why else should a Jewish person want to get married?

What does the Torah say regarding the reasons that one should get married? I am looking for sources such as "ein simcha beli isha" and other philosophical intrinsic reasons for finding a mate.
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What's the difference between נכסי צאן ברזל and נכסי מלוג?

What's the difference between נכסי צאן ברזל and נכסי מלוג? Is there more than one difference. When asking a prior question for what the Hebrew term for "living trust" was i got those two as a response ...
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Breaking a “engagement” (shiduch)

I heard that breaking off an engagement to marry is bad. Is this true? I see that there are reasons that allow one to break an engagement: Chelkas Yaakov (EH 80) So is it not permitted to break it ...
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How does a husband make a neder on his wife

How does a husband make a neder on his wife? From shulchan aruch, even ezer: 115.10 (not to talk to someone (maybe only men?)) אם השביע אשתו שלא תדבר עם פלוני ועברה ודברה עמו עוברת על דת היא ...
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Getting back together with a girlfriend after she has dated other guys?

Suppose a young Jewish couple, Bob and Jane dated, and had sex. (Yes, I realize premarital sex isn't ideal under orthodox Judaism, but I am interested in the halachic and spiritual implications given ...
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What is the prohibition of intermarriage?

The Gemara says that there's no kiddushin between a Jew and a non-Jew, yet the only way to violate the prohibition of intermarriage is through marriage (stam biya is only assur derabanan)! So what ...
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why kiddushin and nisu'in are done in the same day (no big space)

Why are kiddushin and nisu'in done on the same day, with no big space in between? I understand from the mishna: מסכת כתובות ה,ב = נותנים לבתולה שנים עשר חודש משיתבע לה הבעל, לפרנס את עצמה; כשם ...
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Can fiances take on each other's customs before marriage?

Can two people who are engaged take on each other's customs before marriage? At what point in the marriage process do they take on each other's customs?
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Kohen marrying a giyoress

Can a widowed or divorced kohen who already has children marry a woman convert who cannot have children (eg, because of a hysterectomy or being postmenopausal)?
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How does an engaged person find a chosson/kallah (pre-marriage) class teacher?

How does an engaged person find a chosson/kallah (pre-marriage) class teacher? Preferably a good one? Is it "just ask around"? Ask a rabbi? Is there any good way to compare different people, or is ...
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In adultery, why is a wife is guilty, and a husband not?

Why is a wife who engages in extramarital relations guilty of adultery, while a husband who does the same is not?