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Correct procedures for Shidduchim

What are the correct Jewish procedures for finding someone to marry? Like does "dating" have any Jewish connection?
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Relations on Shabbat

It is my understanding that restrictions and prohibitions on the Sabbath more accurately concern "creating" or "destroying" rather than the stereotypical concept of "working". Why is it then ...
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Is a wife allowed to stop going to the mikva?

If a wife no longer wants to have relations with her husband, is it allowed for her to stop going to the mikva, in order to prevent relations?
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Bride and Groom: King and Queen?

I was at a wedding recently where a Rabbi spoke under the Chuppah and said that a groom is like a king and a bride is like a queen. I have heard these sayings a num er of times in the past. What is ...
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Engagement Rings

Do engagement rings have anything to do with Judaism?
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Soulmate for someone who died unwed

I had a friend who was dating a woman. They were close but not "in love". Anyway, he passed away and she moved on. Well, she met someone new and they are in love. My question is, what does G-d do ...
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Many mamzerim today?

In modern times, we go out of our way to make sure that we never find out that someone is a mamzer. For example, courts in Israel are very reluctant to order paternity tests for children for fear of ...
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What's the etymology of the Hassidic term “b'sho'oh” for a chaperoned quasi-date?

I've heard in the Hassidic world, if two families decide that one's young fellow should meet the other's young lady, the couple has a brief, chaperoned, meeting, known as a b'shoh (spelling?), to ...
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Can a man marry a woman with the same name as his mother? (Or vice-versa?) How?

Rabbi Yehudah Hechassid wrote in his testament (Testament of R. Yehudah Hechassid, sec. 23) that a man should not marry a woman whose name is the same as his mother’s, and a woman should not marry a ...
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When are you allowed to touch your (newly married) wife?

At what point is a man allowed to touch a woman that he has just married. Can they touch after he has placed the ring on her finger and said "harei at..." before the 7 blessings are completed? Are ...
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How widespread is the belief that Adam had a first wife?

I have heard of that the idea that Adam had a wife before Eve comes from Jewish tradition, and also about the idea that this wife was Lilith. From what I can tell the story of Lilith and the story of ...
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How did a virgin decide upon her marriage in Israel 2000 years ago?

About 2000 years ago in Israel, was a virgin free to choose her future husband (or even to decide whether to marry or not marry at all) or she was absolutely submitted to the will of her father?
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Paying a Shadchan

The Minhag in Klal Yisroel is to pay a Shadchan for introducing husband and wife. #1 - What is considered the norm to pay a Shadchan? #2 - Suppose a Shidduch breaks does the Shadchan have to return ...
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Structure and form of the ketubah

Where can I find a list of requirements for a ketubah (what it needs say, how it needs to be phrased, and - most importantly - what invalidates it from being a kosher ketubah)?
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What is a Shabbos Kallah?

A common tradition that I have observed is for a kallah to have a "Shabbos Kallah" on the shabbos before her wedding. What exactly is a shabbos kallah and why do people have them?
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How is hataras nedarim (annullment of vows) done one behalf of one's wife?

I've heard: Just have her in mind State it outright "this is for my wife too" Today I saw someone do the whole thing in the plural -- "any vow that we vowed .. we hereby regret ..." Any input on ...
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Any restrictions for the Orthodox sister of a woman who has married a non-Jew?

If a Jewish woman marries a non-Jewish man and has children with him, are there any restrictions related to halacha or minhag on her [Orthodox] siblings' and their families' interactions with her, her ...
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Pregnant and not recommended to get a get

I recently heard of a case where a couple were planning on getting divorced: the wife was pregnant and they were given a psak (via the Beth Din) that the husband can not give her a get until the baby ...
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Marriage post-marriage?

I have a question. I was civilly married, and now I want to do a kosher Chuppa. However, my rabbi said that the chuppa cannot be a chuppas niddah? Why not? It's not a second wedding or anything? ...
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Hanging the kesubah on the wall?

I've heard from some people that there is a problem with hanging/displaying ones kesubah on the wall. Others have told me that it's good to display the kesubah as a reminder to the husband to fulfill ...
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Source of Wedding Veil [duplicate]

So I know it is customary that brides wear veils during the wedding, and the custom of the bedeken comes from the story of Rachel and Lea, but where does the custom of wearing the veil itself come ...
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requirement for Chabad shluchim to be married?

I heard that Chabad instituted a requirement for shluchim to be married because Zalman Schachter-Shalomi went off the derech. Is this historically accurate, and are Chabad shluchim required to be ...
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Death penalty convict status

If a Jewish woman is married to a Jewish man, and she has been sentenced to death or declared a resident of a Rebellious City, but not yet been executed, is she considered technically "dead" to the ...
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Sources for supporting a married couple

The way I understand, it has become common in recent times for the parents of the girl, to offer a monthly stipend for a period of time after marriage. Is there a source for doing this?
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Children of Converts and Specific halachos

The Pri Megadim in OC Siman 156 Ashel Avraham Sif-Katan 2 writes that a child that was conceived in kedusha (sanctity) and born in kedusha to a mother and father that had both converted (i.e. these 2 ...
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Is it permissible to create a prenuptial agreement regarding nonmonetary issues?

Is it permissible to create a prenuptial agreement that includes clauses about things other than money? For example, it is common in the United States for a marrying couple to come to an agreement ...
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What is the prayer uttered by Michael Ginberg's dad in Mad Men?

In the second last scene of episode 5x03 of Mad Men, Michael Ginsberg (one of the Jewish characters on the show) comes back home from the grocer's to be greeted by his dad. The latter encourages ...
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Does being married by an Orthodox rabbi afford certain privileges in today's world? [closed]

Does being married by an Orthodox rabbi — as compared to being married by a rabbi of another denomination — afford certain privileges in today's world? My question pertains to the marriage ...
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Halacha of married women covering their hair

Does a married woman have to cover her hair based on a biblical commandment or a rabinnic decree?
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Can a Jew have a non-Jewish “bashert” or vice-versa?

Follow-up to "Do non-jews have soul mates?": Can a Jew have a non-Jewish "bashert" (Divinely designated soul-mate) or vice-versa?
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Rashi: Caleb married Miriam

I remember reading a rashi on Chumash that quoted a Chazal (I believe sota 12) that says that Caleb married Miriam. Anyone know where this rashi is
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How was Er considererd to be married to Tamar?

The gemarah (yevamos 34b) indicates that Er slept with Tamar sh'lo k'darka. If this is the case how was Er ever married to Tamar if the injunction of the pasuk וְדָבַק בְּאִשְׁתּוֹ (Bereshis 2:24) is ...
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What Hebrew date requires the most space to spell out in a Ketubah? [closed]

What Hebrew date requires the most space to spell out in a Ketubah?
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Sex-less Marriage

Do we allow an asexual man to marry an asexual woman with the understanding that there will be no conjugal relations?* And while we're at it: Does a woman have to go to mikve if her husband is home, ...
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In adultery, why is a wife is guilty, and a husband not?

Why is a wife who engages in extramarital relations guilty of adultery, while a husband who does the same is not?
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If a widow married the brother of her deceased husband

If a widow married the brother of her deceased husband so the deceased husband can have children in the deceased husband's name, then how does the brother have any children in his own name?
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Do non-jews have soul mates?

We know that Jews have soul mates: people whom they are destined to marry. Do non-Jews have people they are destined to marry?
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Kibbud for wife

There is no Torah obligation (as far as I am aware) for kibbud for a wife; however, in my experience, husbands tend to show a special honor for their wives. An example where this is frequenetly ...
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Woman giving away husbands money

The gemorah in Moed Katan Daf 8a says, אמר רב כהנא אמר רב יהודה אמר רב מעשה באדם אחד שכינס מעות לעלות לרגל ובא ספדן ועמד על פתח ביתו ונטלתן אשתו ונתנתן לו ונמנע ולא עלה Rav Kahana said in ...
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If David Commited Adultery, How Could He Remain With Bathsheba?

Samuel II Chapter 11 tells of David committing adultery with Bathsheba. Whether or not she was actually considered to be married is a matter of debate, as sourced here. According to those who say ...
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Making a tanoim/vort for a zivug sheini (2nd marriage)

I have heard from many that there is a minhag (custom) not to make what many call a "tanoim" or a "vort" (the celebration when a couple gets engaged) for 2 people that were once divorced. They base it ...
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Effects of Paternity Fraud on Husband

A Jewish woman had an affair before her marriage. She later married another man. At her wedding she was pregnant from the previous liaison but it was not noticeable. When the baby was born, the ...
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If someone had a family tradition that he came from an Edomite, would he be allowed to marry a Jew?

An Edomite cannot marry a Jew for three generations. Nowadays (since the time of Sancheiriv, who mixed all nations together), this law no longer applies as we no longer know who is an Edomite. ...
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How do I write in Hebrew for a Ketbuah, “On the first day of the week, the thirtieth day of Adar I in the year fifty-seven seventy one”

Question was asked by Stephen Spiegel, I'm just posting it here as its own question instead of a comment.
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When is there a heter to use a condom?

When, if ever, is there a heter for a married couple to use a condom as a form of birth control? Question was inspired by this article
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Is there a tikkun to say/do when your relationship is in danger?

Has anyone come across a tikkun for a spouse during a separation?
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Olam Haba depends on how you treat your wife

I have heard in the name of Rabbi Chaim Vital that one's olam haba depends largely on how he treated his wife. anyone know the source (if any) of this statement and what is the logic behind it.
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Do any poskim recommend giving a conditional divorce?

For someone who married without a halachic pre-nuptual agreement, are there any halachic authorities who recommend giving a conditional get (bill of divorce) which stipulates that it would go into ...
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Does a Man's other children indicate anything about his wife unable to have children for 10 years?

If a man has a child from a previous wife, but has not fulfilled the Mitzvah of Piriah Veriviah and divorces his wife because they were unable to have children for 10 years, does his demonstrated ...
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Did Tamar marry a third time, and if so whom?

B'reishit 38:26 says: וַיַּכֵּר יְהוּדָה וַיֹּאמֶר צָדְקָה מִמֶּנִּי כִּי עַל כֵּן לֹא נְתַתִּיהָ לְשֵׁלָה בְנִי וְלֹא יָסַף עוֹד לְדַעְתָּהּ: Then Judah recognized [them], and he said, "She ...