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Are non-Orthodox marriages recognized by Orthodox rabbis?

Let's suppose a couple was married by a Reform rabbi in a standard reform ceremony (with egalitarian ketubah, and many other modifications to traditional kiddushin). If the couple later become baalei ...
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How widespread is the belief that Adam had a first wife?

I have heard of that the idea that Adam had a wife before Eve comes from Jewish tradition, and also about the idea that this wife was Lilith. From what I can tell the story of Lilith and the story of ...
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Is the matrilineal descendant of a convert Jewish? [duplicate]

A woman converted to Judaism to marry a man who was a practicing Jew and Jewish by birth. Their great-grandchild recently learned this. Is that great-grandchild considered a Jew according to ...
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what is the mother's obligation to raise children (if she is not obligated to educate (chinuch) them)

igres moshe 4.49 כי סתם נשים בעולם אינם עשירות ועליהן מוטל גידול הילדים והילדות translation from link the average woman is not wealthy and has responsibility to raise sons and daughters. ...
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What are the sources that a husband may beat his wife?

What are the sources, even those that are rejected in the final halachic analysis, that encourage or allow a husband to physically abuse his wife?
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Why was Hosea acceptable to the people if he took his adulterous wife back?

Hosea is described by Rabbi Yochanan in Pesachim 87a as the greatest of the four major prophets. At G-d's command (Hosea 1:2), he married a prostitute, Gomer, and fathered children, although there ...
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Marriage: invalidity versus prohibition

I apologize if this is a very elementary question, but I'm having trouble finding an answer to it. As we all know, there are many kinds of marriages which one can generally term "halachically ...
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Is going on a pre-marriage 'stag' problematic

Assuming that the activities and setting (etc.) are considered kosher, is there a problem of 'not going in their ways' (or other related issue) by attending a stag party for a man who is getting ...
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Prishus in Jewish Marriage

I know that there is a concept of prishus (going beyond the letter of the law, and abstaining from things that are really allowed) within Jewish marriage, but what exactly does this constitute, and ...
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Should single men not sit at corner of the table?

I heard that there some say that single men should not sit at the corner of the table, because it could lead to someone staying single forever. Is there a source for this idea?
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Religion in marriage for a God-fearing non-Jew

Does the Jewish religion have any guidelines to help a God-fearing non-Jew choose a spouse? Suppose this person used to be a part of another religion, but left it. Now he/she uses Tanakh as a guide, ...
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May my wife wear my jacket to keep warm?

The Sefer HaChinuch #564 writes that it’s forbidden for a woman to wear men’s clothing. If it’s cold outside, is a woman allowed to wear a man’s coat to keep warm? If #1 is a problem, are any ...
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Enslavement to mekarev the intermarried

A Jewish slave (Eved Ivri) is allowed to marry a non-jewish slave (Eved Kenani). If a Jew is married to a non-jew (lets say they have children), rather than demanding that they split up or the other ...
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Questions about Polygamy in Jewish Law and Culture

I've recently been looking into polygamy (having more than 1 wife), and had a few cultural questions. Was polygamy accepted at the time of David and Solomon? Were there any laws about it? Was ...
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How do I write in Hebrew for a Ketubah, “On the first day of the week, the thirtieth day of Adar I in the year fifty-seven seventy one”

How do I write in Hebrew for a Ketubah, "On the first day of the week, the thirtieth day of Adar I in the year fifty-seven seventy one"? Question was asked by Stephen Spiegel, I'm just posting it ...
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Why didn't Yaakov divorce Leah?

It would appear that Yaakov did not intend to marry Leah. If so, why did he simply not divorce her either immediately after the wedding, or at any later point? Related: 1, 2
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chosson, kallah and yichud room

Does the kitzur shulchan aruch, shulchan aruch or mishnah berurah gives us the details as to what the chosson and kallah do in the yichud room?
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discrepancy between parashat emor and yechezkel regarding if it is possible for a kohen to be mitame for a spouse

In parashat Emor (Vayikra 21:2) it is written כִּי, אִם-לִשְׁאֵרוֹ, הַקָּרֹב, אֵלָיו: לְאִמּוֹ וּלְאָבִיו, וְלִבְנוֹ וּלְבִתּוֹ וּלְאָחִיו.כא,ג וְלַאֲחֹתוֹ הַבְּתוּלָה הַקְּרוֹבָה אֵלָיו, אֲשֶׁר ...
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Minhag of married women shaving during marriage

The custom for married women to shave their heads is, evidently, a fairly widespread custom that exists at least amongst (certain) Hasidim. I have heard a variety of supposed, non-authoritative ...
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Yibum & Chalitzah: Questionable hekesh with wife's sister

In Yevamoth 3b, we learn that the reason for exempting fourteen women (of the fifteen enumerated in mishna 1:1) and their co-wives from yibum (levirate marriage) and chalitzah (the decision not to do ...
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May one propose with an engagement ring?

Are there any Halachic issues with giving a girl a ring while asking her to marry him? Are there any sources that discuss the sha'alah of safek Kiddushin, etc?
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Should Ya'akov have married Rachel?

Every year, I see questions and answers regarding how could Ya'akov marry two sisters, etc. but it struck me this year that one thing I've never seen is the question whether Ya'akov was right to marry ...
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Why should one have marital relations as if forced by a demon?

The gemarah (nedarim 20b) mentions that one of the reasons for having beautiful children is due to having relations "as if forced by a demon". Rashi there explains the term as either indicating that ...
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If a Cohen slept with non-Jews, may he marry a Jewish woman who has done the same?

Suppose a Cohen is dating a Jewish girl, and both parties have had relations with non-Jewish people. Normally, a woman who's had relations with non-Jews is forbidden to a Cohen. Does the fact that he ...
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Is un-pedigreed Jew assumed mamser for marrage to Orthodox girl even after he becomes Orthodox?

This is a clarification of the "up-conversion" questions I asked recently. According to the many sources on the internet many Orthodox rabbis hold the general presumption that declared and observant ...
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May Conversative man “up-convert” to marry Orthodox girl?

I'm writing a story where a young man raised in a devout Conservative family risks suicidal odds to rescue an Orthodox girl who fell onto the subway tracks hurting her ankle, who is about to be ...
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Jewish Marriage and Pleasure

The perspective of a Jewish Marriage is to have children. However, is one allowed to have intercourse for pleasure?
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Yibum and Chalitzah: stringency or leniency?

In Yevamoth 8a, we discuss a group of women (enumerated in mishna 1:1) with whom neither yibum (levirate marriage) nor chalitzah (the rejection of levirate marriage) takes place. According to the ...
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Yitzchak Avinu and Eretz Yisrael

I remember reading somewhere that the reason Yitzchak did not go to see Rivkah before engaging/marrying her (even though you are supposed to see the girl before engaging/marrying her per gemara ...
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Can one do Nisuyin through a shliach?

One can do Kiddushin through a Shliach. Can one do Nisuyin through a Shliach? Can one acquire a room and have the Shliach bring the bride into it?
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Are civil divorces not recognized by Orthodox rabbis?

A Jewish couple gets a civil divorce. The wife remarries, and has children with her new spouse. Are the children of this second marriage, which was performed without a get having been issue, ...
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Why did Avraham arrange Yitzchak's marriage?

According to Rashi Yitzchak was 37 at the time of the akeida. If that is the case why did Avraham have to arrange for Eliezer to find a wife for Yitzchak? Why couldn't Yitzchak find a wife himself?
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How does Judaism reconcile the prohibition against Moabites/Ammonites joining the congreration and their royal lineage?

Wikipedia says that Naamah, wife of Solomon, was an Ammonite. That is the mom of Rehabeam. King of Judah. Ruth is a Moabite. That is one ancestor of David. Okay, so Jews have these prohibition ...
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Should I be giving a get to my girlfriends after a breakup? [duplicate]

I have some knowledge of Jewish law, but it seems ambiguous to me in some areas, either because there are differing opinions, or no one has really explained to me the reasons for the opinions to be ...
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May a woman who has had an affair remain married to her husband?

I recently heard that halacha prohibits a woman who had a (consensual) affair from remaining married to her husband, even if both the wife and husband wish to remain married. Is this correct, and if ...
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40 Days Before Conception

It is written somewhere (I don't remember exactly where) that 40 days before conception, it is called out in Heaven who that person will marry. However, if the person gets married multiple times how ...
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Can the daughter of two people who could not marry a Cohen marry a cohen?

Can a woman whose father's father isn't Jewish, but whose father's mother is a regular Jew, and whose mother is the child of two converts marry a Cohen? On the one hand she isn't purely from ...
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Why does the Kohen Gadol need to divorce his wife in such a complicated manner?

On Yom Kippur, the Kohen Gadol must be married to exactly one wife. We are also concerned about her passing away. So the Gemara suggests that he gives a get to one wife on condition that the other ...
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I need to become kohen eligible for marriage [closed]

I am wondering what the process is to be eligible to marry a kohen. I converted a few years ago and I believe my heritage is Jewish but i have not completed my family history.
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halacha of honoring your Wife

can someone please clarify the halachic side of the topic of honoring one's wife. i.e. what is halachically obligatory (beyond what one is obligated towards other people) and what is just good ...
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What's an elegant way to avoid social contact with untzinius or attractive women?

There's times when women I'm attracted to visit our home or are friends of my wife and I don't feel comfortable completely ignoring them or telling my wife to not invite them. I'm not sure how my wife ...
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Are there any organizations or support groups that help older, unmarried Kohanim?

Since a Kohen is limited in their options for marrying, many older (35 years or more, possibly earlier) Kohanim have a very limited pool of marriage possibilities. This is especially true of a Kohain ...
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Soulmate for someone who died unwed

I had a friend who was dating a woman. They were close but not "in love". Anyway, he passed away and she moved on. Well, she met someone new and they are in love. My question is, what does G-d do ...
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How does a giyur m'safek differ from a giyur l'chumra?

Is there any difference betweeen a giyur m'safek and a giyur l'chumra? In either scenario is a female who undergoes either of these conversions prohibited from marrying a kohein?
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Laws regarding excessive conversation while dating

In speaking with a friend regarding conversation between men and women who are dating, this is what they said: So I asked someone who knows about these things and she said that it originates from ...
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Woman giving away husbands money

The gemorah in Moed Katan Daf 8a says, אמר רב כהנא אמר רב יהודה אמר רב מעשה באדם אחד שכינס מעות לעלות לרגל ובא ספדן ועמד על פתח ביתו ונטלתן אשתו ונתנתן לו ונמנע ולא עלה Rav Kahana said in ...
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What is the status of a man who has one or both testes removed due to cancer or some other condition?

In Ki Teitzei it says (Devarim 23:2) that a man whose testicles have been crushed or has his member injured cannot enter the congregation of G-d. A) Does a man who has had one or both testes removed ...
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Does a Kohen have to be concerned about the surname of a potential mate?

In this question various surnames are explored that are strongly associated with being a Kohein. Some of them are rather unambiguously chosen simply because the chooser wanted to indicate their ...
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Jacob's Dual Names and Wives

The third Patriarch's birth name was Jacob. He is given another name, Israel, in Genesis 32. Jacob had two primary wives; Leah and Rachel. I have heard the idea that the Rachel was the betrothed ...
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Tribe of the son of a Kohen and a convert

Kohanim are not allowed to marry a convert. However, if such a case happens (where there is a fully valid conversion), what is the status of the child? On one hand, they would be chalal, but would ...