marriage, marrying, the state of being married; more specific tags are `wedding` and `intermarriage`
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Will marriages continue when mashiach comes?
If you are married to a girl and mashaich comes, wil you be married to her in the world to come or you start all over?!?
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Why do some Jews get married at night?
In images and other media I have seen of Jewish weddings, there seems to be a trend to get married in the evening or night time. Is this a Jewish custom a halachic requirement and what is the origin ...
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Is Kel Malei Rachamim (memorial prayer) said under the chuppah at a wedding?
I'd seen a book on wedding practices and customs that said if desired in appropriate cases, a memorial prayer ("El/Kel Malei Rachamim") could be said under the chuppah, e.g. a bride/groom who lost a ...
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Must a couple get divorced if they have no children after 10 years?
I recall learning, but am unsure of the source, that a couple who has been married for 10 years but has no children either should get divorced. What is the source and reason for this? Is it an ...
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Mamzer from non-Jew
If a Jewess married to a Jew has a child from a non-Jew is that child a mamzer?
Is there agreement amongst the poskim about this?
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If a woman converts, marries, and divorces — how is she identified in her next ketubah?
If a woman converts, marries, and divorces -- how is she identified in her next ketubah? Matrachta (divorcee) or Giyorta (convert-ess)? Does it matter? Is there a convention which term is used for ...
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Sheva Berachot at third meal
If sheva brachot occur at a seudah shlishit which finishes after sunset, is one allowed to drink the wine even though it is prior to making havdala? If yes, who specifically would be allowed to drink ...
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Is marriage without ketubah considered marriage, concubinage, or kiddushin she’einah re’uyah le’biah (marriage that cannot be consummated)?
Is marriage without ketubah considered marriage, concubinage, or kiddushin she’einah re’uyah le’biah (marriage that cannot be consummated)? I have read a number of different things suggesting each of ...
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Sheva Brachos at a Bris
If a Chosson & Kallah during the first week they got married attended a Bris, should the assembled recite Sheva Brachos after Bentching?
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Language of a ketubah for marriage
Can I write a ketubah in English or possibly in Hebrew? Or must it be in Aramaic? The problem is that my friends and I do not speak Aramaic any longer. Our Babylonian-Jewish ancestors did, but we ...
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How old were Avraham and Sarah when they got married?
How old were Avraham Avinu and Sarah Imeinu when they got married?
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Is a Kohen required to marry a virgin?
In a recent conversation with several friends regarding ba'alei teshuva marrying Kohanim (specifically college students), one person present said that a Kohen can only marry a virgin. I contested this ...
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Halachic permissibility of a vasectomy
What are the halachic concerns surrounding vasectomies? Are vasectomies permitted by halacha under any circumstances?
The issues that I could see as possibly being connected would be chavala ...
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Correct procedures for Shidduchim
What are the correct Jewish procedures for finding someone to marry? Like does "dating" have any Jewish connection?
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Meaning of 5th of the Sheva Brachos
One of the Sheva Brachos we say is:
שמח תשמח רעים האהובים, כשמחך יצירך בגן עדן מקדם. ברוך אתה ה', משמח חתן וכלה.
Grant perfect joy to these loving companions, as you did your creations in ...
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How many factors did Esav need to prompt him to marry Machalas?
At the end of parashas Toldos (28:6-8), the pesukim indicate factors in Esav's decision to add Machalas, who was not a Canaanite, as a spouse:
א וַיִּקְרָא יִצְחָק אֶל-יַעֲקֹב, וַיְבָרֶךְ אֹתוֹ; ...
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How was Er considererd to be married to Tamar?
The gemarah (yevamos 34b) indicates that Er slept with Tamar sh'lo k'darka. If this is the case how was Er ever married to Tamar if the injunction of the pasuk וְדָבַק בְּאִשְׁתּוֹ (Bereshis 2:24) is ...
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What's the etymology of the Hassidic term “b'sho'oh” for a chaperoned quasi-date?
I've heard in the Hassidic world, if two families decide that one's young fellow should meet the other's young lady, the couple has a brief, chaperoned, meeting, known as a b'shoh (spelling?), to ...
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Is there dancing at a divorcee's wedding
When a divorcee gets remarried, is there dancing at the wedding or is this prohibited?
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When are you allowed to touch your (newly married) wife?
At what point is a man allowed to touch a woman that he has just married. Can they touch after he has placed the ring on her finger and said "harei at..." before the 7 blessings are completed? Are ...
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How widespread is the belief that Adam had a first wife?
I have heard of that the idea that Adam had a wife before Eve comes from Jewish tradition, and also about the idea that this wife was Lilith. From what I can tell the story of Lilith and the story of ...
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Husband deciding how his wife should cover her hair
Issues of Shalom Bayis (peace in the home) and any other deciding factor aside, does the husband have any "right" or "privilege" (from a halachic standpoint) to decide how his wife will cover her hair ...
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How did a virgin decide upon her marriage in Israel 2000 years ago?
About 2000 years ago in Israel, was a virgin free to choose her future husband (or even to decide whether to marry or not marry at all) or she was absolutely submitted to the will of her father?
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Paying a Shadchan
The Minhag in Klal Yisroel is to pay a Shadchan for introducing husband and wife.
#1 - What is considered the norm to pay a Shadchan?
#2 - Suppose a Shidduch breaks does the Shadchan have to return ...
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What is a Shabbos Kallah?
A common tradition that I have observed is for a kallah to have a "Shabbos Kallah" on the shabbos before her wedding. What exactly is a shabbos kallah and why do people have them?
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How is hataras nedarim (annullment of vows) done one behalf of one's wife?
I've heard:
Just have her in mind
State it outright "this is for my wife too"
Today I saw someone do the whole thing in the plural -- "any vow that we vowed .. we hereby regret ..."
Any input on ...
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Sources for supporting a married couple
The way I understand, it has become common in recent times for the parents of the girl, to offer a monthly stipend for a period of time after marriage. Is there a source for doing this?
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Children of Converts and Specific halachos
The Pri Megadim in OC Siman 156 Ashel Avraham Sif-Katan 2 writes that a child that was conceived in kedusha (sanctity) and born in kedusha to a mother and father that had both converted (i.e. these 2 ...
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Is it permissible to create a prenuptial agreement regarding nonmonetary issues?
Is it permissible to create a prenuptial agreement that includes clauses about things other than money? For example, it is common in the United States for a marrying couple to come to an agreement ...
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Must a woman cover her hair in bed when she is niddah?
Must a woman cover her hair in bed when she is niddah? I assume it is standard for a married woman who is niddah to carry the rules of tzniut into the bedroom; that is, to wear modest sleepwear, etc. ...
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What Hebrew date requires the most space to spell out in a Ketubah? [closed]
What Hebrew date requires the most space to spell out in a Ketubah?
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Do non-jews have soul mates?
We know that Jews have soul mates: people whom they are destined to marry.
Do non-Jews have people they are destined to marry?
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What is the original source that a soul is split in half before conception?
Does anyone knew of the original source (from a sefer) for the idea in this quote: "According to Jewish thought, a husband and wife were originally one soul before birth, split into two halves when ...
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Kibbud for wife
There is no Torah obligation (as far as I am aware) for kibbud for a wife; however, in my experience, husbands tend to show a special honor for their wives. An example where this is frequenetly ...
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Can a man marry a woman with the same name as his mother? (Or vice-versa?) How?
Rabbi Yehudah Hechassid wrote in his testament (Testament of R. Yehudah Hechassid, sec. 23) that a man should not marry a woman whose name is the same as his mother’s, and a woman should not marry a ...
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If someone had a family tradition that he came from an Edomite, would he be allowed to marry a Jew?
An Edomite cannot marry a Jew for three generations.
Nowadays (since the time of Sancheiriv, who mixed all nations together), this law no longer applies as we no longer know who is an Edomite. ...
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How do I write in Hebrew for a Ketbuah, “On the first day of the week, the thirtieth day of Adar I in the year fifty-seven seventy one”
Question was asked by Stephen Spiegel, I'm just posting it here as its own question instead of a comment.
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Did Tamar marry a third time, and if so whom?
B'reishit 38:26 says:
וַיַּכֵּר יְהוּדָה וַיֹּאמֶר צָדְקָה מִמֶּנִּי כִּי עַל כֵּן לֹא נְתַתִּיהָ לְשֵׁלָה בְנִי וְלֹא יָסַף עוֹד לְדַעְתָּהּ:
Then Judah recognized [them], and he said, "She ...
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Hanging the kesubah on the wall?
I've heard from some people that there is a problem with hanging/displaying ones kesubah on the wall. Others have told me that it's good to display the kesubah as a reminder to the husband to fulfill ...
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Why does the Rambam (Maimonides) equate all sex outside marriage as prostitution?
Shalom told me about it in his answer to this question:
What does adultery mean in the 7th commandment?
That Si'naf in 7 commandments means only having sex with someone else' wife. However, judaism ...
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(Mekach Toyus) Mistaken purchase - in a marriage
There is a concept of Mekach Toyus (mistake-based deal) in a marriage. What would be considered Mekach Toyus? Suppose when the bride or groom figured out that this was a Mekach Toyus and remained ...
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Does Judaism permit sexual relationships outside of marriage?
I am eager to know more about different religions from Islam to Judaism. Furthermore, how different religions look at women and comparing their kinds of approaches to the matter of gender and ...
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Many mamzerim today?
In modern times, we go out of our way to make sure that we never find out that someone is a mamzer. For example, courts in Israel are very reluctant to order paternity tests for children for fear of ...
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Rashi: Caleb married Miriam
I remember reading a rashi on Chumash that quoted a Chazal (I believe sota 12) that says that Caleb married Miriam. Anyone know where this rashi is
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What Chasam Sofer writes in regards to a Kohen Gadol marrying a Basuleh
The Chasam Sofer in Toras Moshe Parsha Emor writes the following:
A cohen should marry a basuleh (virgin). The Ramabm counts this as a Mitzvas aseh (positive commandment). However one could have ...
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Giving a slave multiple wives
The posuk says I can provide my Jewish servant with a slavewoman to make me children-slaves. Can I give him multiple wives?
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Did Yishai sin?
Did Yishai sin? The gemarah (shabbat 55b) states pretty clearly that he did not; however, the midrash (Yalkut HaMakiri, cited here) seems to indicate that he separated from his wife for an extended ...
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Emotional abuse between spouses in Judaism? [closed]
How does Judaism regard emotional abuse in a marriage? (More focused form of this question.)
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Halachic extension of the Giving of the Torah and marriage analogy
The sages frequently liken the Giving of the Torah at Mount Sinai to a chuppah (wedding ceremony), where Hashem is symbolized by the chosson (groom) and the Knesses Yisroel is symbolized by the kallah ...
