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Blind and Marriage

The Gemara tells us that a man may not marry a woman without first seeing her because if she turns out to be displeasing to him then he will transgress the mitzvah of "Ve'ahavtah lerei'acha ...
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Can the daughter of two people who could not marry a Cohen marry a cohen?

Can a woman whose father's father isn't Jewish, but whose father's mother is a regular Jew, and whose mother is the child of two converts marry a Cohen? On the one hand she isn't purely from ...
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Chamisha Asar B'Av - when did the Minhag stop?

The Gemara Taanis 31. says אמר רבן שמעון בן גמליאל לא היו ימים טובים לישראל כחמשה עשר באב וכיוה"כ שבהן בנות ירושלים יוצאות ... וחולות בכרמים ומה היו אומרות בחור שא נא עיניך וראה מה אתה בורר לך אל תתן ...
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Getting married at 18

The Mishna in Avos says that one should get married at 18 , is there a reason for this particular age ?
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Saying loshon hara to a spouse or close relative

Are there any relationships within which loshon hara is permitted? I guess I mean loshon hara that is said for a purpose--but perhaps not purposes which would meet the strict halachic criteria for ...
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Does a marriage last beyond death?

Looking for some sources as to the connection (if any) between husband and wife in the afterlife, at least in the simple case where neither remarried.
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Hatoras Nedarim for wife taking her husband's Minhagim

According to Minchas Yaakov 112:2 and Darchei Teshuva 112:94, one who is always careful with Pas Yisrael and now wants to start eating Pas Paltar would have to be Matir Neder. Suppose a girl who was ...
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How do those rabbis opposed to the RCA (“Rabbi Willig's”) prenup feel about the Nachlas Shiva document?

Many American rabbis will refuse to perform a wedding unless the couple has a specialized prenup regarding halachic divorce. This is known as "The RCA prenup" or "Rabbi Willig's prenup." From what I ...
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Why was Hosea acceptable to the people if he took his adulterous wife back?

Hosea is described by Rabbi Yochanan in Pesachim 87a as the greatest of the four major prophets. At G-d's command (Hosea 1:2), he married a prostitute, Gomer, and fathered children, although there ...
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How old were Er and Onan when they died?

Based on the implication that Yehuda got married after Yosef was sold, and that it was 22 years later that Yaacov and the family come down to Egypt, during that time Yehuda has his 3 children by the ...
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Can a 9 year old do Yibbum?

Back then was a 9 year old and 1 day boy allowed to do yebam to his dead brothers wife?
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Should Ya'akov have married Rachel?

Every year, I see questions and answers regarding how could Ya'akov marry two sisters, etc. but it struck me this year that one thing I've never seen is the question whether Ya'akov was right to marry ...
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Laws regarding excessive conversation while dating

In speaking with a friend regarding conversation between men and women who are dating, this is what they said: So I asked someone who knows about these things and she said that it originates from ...
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Can a man miss tefilah with a minyan because his wife is overwhelmed with the children?

Assume a scenario where a man's wife requires extra help at home during a busy part of the day and requests that her husband skip minyan (and daven alone) in order to help her. (For example, let's say ...
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Dealing with an asexual wife

Inspired by this question Many orthodox singles do not know about intimacy until right before the wedding. An asexual girl may of course choose not to get married, however, without prior experience ...
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Is there dancing at a divorcee's wedding

When a divorcee gets remarried, is there dancing at the wedding or is this prohibited?
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Mamzer from non-Jew

If a Jewess married to a Jew has a child from a non-Jew is that child a mamzer? Is there agreement amongst the poskim about this?
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Sources for Hassidic views on marital celibacy/asceticism?

My understanding is the traditional view of Ger Hassidism was that marital celibacy was a good idea, once all procreative needs had been met. My impression is that Chabad-Lubavitch never advocated an ...
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Why did Avraham arrange Yitzchak's marriage?

According to Rashi Yitzchak was 37 at the time of the akeida. If that is the case why did Avraham have to arrange for Eliezer to find a wife for Yitzchak? Why couldn't Yitzchak find a wife himself?
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Did women get married before age three and have relations?

I'm almost certainly misreading something here. However: I was reading Insights to the Daf for Yevamos 34, and in response to a question that implies a Misnha on 33b contradicts a Gemara that says ...
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Marriage of a Cohen to a woman with a non-Jewish father: Are the sons Cohanim?

Asking because it is not answered here: If, as suggested in the linked question, a Cohen may b'dieved (but not l'chatchila) marry a woman whose father is a non-Jew, will the sons from such a marriage ...
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May Conversative man “up-convert” to marry Orthodox girl?

I'm writing a story where a young man raised in a devout Conservative family risks suicidal odds to rescue an Orthodox girl who fell onto the subway tracks hurting her ankle, who is about to be ...
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Tribe of the son of a Kohen and a convert

Kohanim are not allowed to marry a convert. However, if such a case happens (where there is a fully valid conversion), what is the status of the child? On one hand, they would be chalal, but would ...
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Can a man marry a woman with the same name as his mother? (Or vice-versa?) How?

Rabbi Yehudah Hechassid wrote in his testament (Testament of R. Yehudah Hechassid, sec. 23) that a man should not marry a woman whose name is the same as his mother’s, and a woman should not marry a ...
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How did a virgin decide upon her marriage in Israel 2000 years ago?

About 2000 years ago in Israel, was a virgin free to choose her future husband (or even to decide whether to marry or not marry at all) or she was absolutely submitted to the will of her father?
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Status of person with two different DNAs

Well, simple this is not. Some people can be made of "two" different DNAs. It basically happens that two embryos fuse making one health adult with two different DNAs, also known as a chimera. If such ...
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Are civil divorces not recognized by Orthodox rabbis?

A Jewish couple gets a civil divorce. The wife remarries, and has children with her new spouse. Are the children of this second marriage, which was performed without a get having been issue, ...
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Can a Jew have a non-Jewish “bashert” or vice-versa?

Follow-up to "Do non-jews have soul mates?": Can a Jew have a non-Jewish "bashert" (Divinely designated soul-mate) or vice-versa?
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Does the she’hechiyonu brocho apply in any way to getting married?

A man getting married has a new suit to put on, on the day of his wedding. He will make the she’hechiyonu brocho. Should he have the “acquisition” of his wife in mind in addition when he pronounces ...
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Do non-jews have soul mates?

We know that Jews have soul mates: people whom they are destined to marry. Do non-Jews have people they are destined to marry?
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Did Tamar marry a third time, and if so whom?

B'reishit 38:26 says: וַיַּכֵּר יְהוּדָה וַיֹּאמֶר צָדְקָה מִמֶּנִּי כִּי עַל כֵּן לֹא נְתַתִּיהָ לְשֵׁלָה בְנִי וְלֹא יָסַף עוֹד לְדַעְתָּהּ: Then Judah recognized [them], and he said, "She ...
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Parents mix in to marriage until 24 years old

I was once told that parents have a bigger say regarding who you (maybe only male) marry before you are 24 years old Is this true? if yes sources please (The only thing I saw that changes after the ...
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Is Sikhism Compatible with the 7 Laws of Noah [closed]

I am an observant Noahide looking to get married. Could you please let me know if Sikhism is compatible with the 7 Laws of Noah? Is there a rabbi you could refer me to for discussing this further? ...
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What is the source for the prohibition on marrying gentiles?

I have often heard that religious and traditional Jews are very concerned with intermarriage with non-Jews and strongly discourage it. But halachically, what is the support for the prohibition? I am ...
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Are both witnesses and the verbal “Harei At” declaration required elements of the Chuppa ceremony?

A doctor was interrupted in the middle of his own chuppah because someone in the audience had an emergency that required the doctor's help. The emergency occured at the point where the groom was ...
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What's so special about Leah?

The torah documents the positive attributes of Sarah, Rifka and Rochel. Chazal then expound in greater detail about these righteous women. But from the torah and chazal there doesn't appear to be any ...
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Emotional abuse between spouses in Judaism? [closed]

How does Judaism regard emotional abuse in a marriage? (More focused form of this question.)
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Why does the Rambam (Maimonides) equate all sex outside marriage as prostitution?

Shalom told me about it in his answer to this question: What does adultery mean in the 7th commandment? That Si'naf in 7 commandments means only having sex with someone else' wife. However, judaism ...
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(Mekach Toyus) Mistaken purchase - in a marriage

There is a concept of Mekach Toyus (mistake-based deal) in a marriage. What would be considered Mekach Toyus? Suppose when the bride or groom figured out that this was a Mekach Toyus and remained ...
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Respecting your wife get you blessing/riches?

לעולם יהא אדם זהיר בכבוד אשתו שאין ברכה מצויה בביתו של אדם אלא בשביל אשתו וכך אמרו חכמים לבני דורם כבדו את נשותיכם כדי שתתעשרו (Shulchan Aruch Harav, Laws of paining and theft of knowledge, 32) ...
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Giyores marrying a cohen and their offspring [closed]

If a Cohen married a giyores (convert), they had children born after the conversion of their mother, and the children had to do a geirus lechumra because the mothers' conversion was not done by ...
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Do sefardim need to get genetic testing?

Some ashkenazim carry genes that could lead their children to develop Tay-Sachs disease. For this reason many ashkenazim get genetic testing - I believe that this is dictated by halacha. Do sephardim ...
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Evil Eye from one's own wife?

Is it possible that one's own wife creates an "evil eye" or something of the sort, knowingly or unknowingly and ends up causing financial and health trouble? Is there any sort of "contract" couples ...
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May a Kohen marry a giyores?

Is it permissible for a Kohen to marry a giyores (convert)?
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need for civil marriage license in the frum world [closed]

I spoke with a Rabbi in Far Rockaway NY who indicated that in the frum world civil marriage license is not required. Just the religious ketubah is necessary?
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Can a כהן marry a גרושה בתולה under 3

A cohen may not marry a woman who was divorced (Leviticus 21:7). So too in a case where a woman got married then got divorced but never had relations. However what about a case where a woman got ...
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Marriage to a non Jew [closed]

Can a Rabbi, marry two people, in the United States,where one is not Jewish, and have this to be valid to receive a marriage certificate by state, and also rabinnical standards. I looked through the ...
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Is Sex Outside Marriage Still a Sin After the Invention of Paternity Tests?

I asked something like this. The reasoning if I can remember: You should not sell your daughter as prostitute. Rambam said that all sex outside marriage is prostitution. Therefore sex outside ...