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How does Judaism reconcile the prohibition against Moabites/Ammonites joining the congreration and their royal lineage?

Wikipedia says that Naamah, wife of Solomon, was an Ammonite. That is the mom of Rehabeam. King of Judah. Ruth is a Moabite. That is one ancestor of David. Okay, so Jews have these prohibition ...
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Should I be giving a get to my girlfriends after a breakup? [duplicate]

I have some knowledge of Jewish law, but it seems ambiguous to me in some areas, either because there are differing opinions, or no one has really explained to me the reasons for the opinions to be ...
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May a woman who has had an affair remain married to her husband?

I recently heard that halacha prohibits a woman who had a (consensual) affair from remaining married to her husband, even if both the wife and husband wish to remain married. Is this correct, and if ...
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40 Days Before Conception

It is written somewhere (I don't remember exactly where) that 40 days before conception, it is called out in Heaven who that person will marry. However, if the person gets married multiple times how ...
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Can the daughter of two people who could not marry a Cohen marry a cohen?

Can a woman whose father's father isn't Jewish, but whose father's mother is a regular Jew, and whose mother is the child of two converts marry a Cohen? On the one hand she isn't purely from ...
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Why does the Kohen Gadol need to divorce his wife in such a complicated manner?

On Yom Kippur, the Kohen Gadol must be married to exactly one wife. We are also concerned about her passing away. So the Gemara suggests that he gives a get to one wife on condition that the other ...
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I need to become kohen eligible for marriage [closed]

I am wondering what the process is to be eligible to marry a kohen. I converted a few years ago and I believe my heritage is Jewish but i have not completed my family history.
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halacha of honoring your Wife

can someone please clarify the halachic side of the topic of honoring one's wife. i.e. what is halachically obligatory (beyond what one is obligated towards other people) and what is just good ...
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What's an elegant way to avoid social contact with untzinius or attractive women?

There's times when women I'm attracted to visit our home or are friends of my wife and I don't feel comfortable completely ignoring them or telling my wife to not invite them. I'm not sure how my wife ...
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Are there any organizations or support groups that help older, unmarried Kohanim?

Since a Kohen is limited in their options for marrying, many older (35 years or more, possibly earlier) Kohanim have a very limited pool of marriage possibilities. This is especially true of a Kohain ...
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Soulmate for someone who died unwed

I had a friend who was dating a woman. They were close but not "in love". Anyway, he passed away and she moved on. Well, she met someone new and they are in love. My question is, what does G-d do ...
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How does a giyur m'safek differ from a giyur l'chumra?

Is there any difference betweeen a giyur m'safek and a giyur l'chumra? In either scenario is a female who undergoes either of these conversions prohibited from marrying a kohein?
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Laws regarding excessive conversation while dating

In speaking with a friend regarding conversation between men and women who are dating, this is what they said: So I asked someone who knows about these things and she said that it originates from ...
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Woman giving away husbands money

The gemorah in Moed Katan Daf 8a says, אמר רב כהנא אמר רב יהודה אמר רב מעשה באדם אחד שכינס מעות לעלות לרגל ובא ספדן ועמד על פתח ביתו ונטלתן אשתו ונתנתן לו ונמנע ולא עלה Rav Kahana said in ...
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What is the status of a man who has one or both testes removed due to cancer or some other condition?

In Ki Teitzei it says (Devarim 23:2) that a man whose testicles have been crushed or has his member injured cannot enter the congregation of G-d. A) Does a man who has had one or both testes removed ...
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Does a Kohen have to be concerned about the surname of a potential mate?

In this question various surnames are explored that are strongly associated with being a Kohein. Some of them are rather unambiguously chosen simply because the chooser wanted to indicate their ...
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Jacob's Dual Names and Wives

The third Patriarch's birth name was Jacob. He is given another name, Israel, in Genesis 32. Jacob had two primary wives; Leah and Rachel. I have heard the idea that the Rachel was the betrothed ...
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Tribe of the son of a Kohen and a convert

Kohanim are not allowed to marry a convert. However, if such a case happens (where there is a fully valid conversion), what is the status of the child? On one hand, they would be chalal, but would ...
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Olam Haba depends on how you treat your wife

I have heard in the name of Rabbi Chaim Vital that one's olam haba depends largely on how he treated his wife. anyone know the source (if any) of this statement and what is the logic behind it.
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Which kind of relations are considered incestuous in Judaism?

Specifically what kind of relationships are defined as incestuous in Judaism? I am guessing that it is forbidden to marry one's parents/children or siblings but what about other relations like first ...
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Kohain marrying divorcee

Can A Kohain marry a woman who had a reform/conservative rabbi officiate her wedding.. but she was divorced by an orthodox rabbi. Thank you so much in advance
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Do 20+ Singles Violate Halachah?

Does the practice of 20+ year-old single men not in yeshiva violate halacha? For not getting married at 18 like it is prescribed in Avos? What is the age limit where you can push it off before it ...
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Can a man miss tefilah with a minyan because his wife is overwhelmed with the children?

Assume a scenario where a man's wife requires extra help at home during a busy part of the day and requests that her husband skip minyan (and daven alone) in order to help her. (For example, let's say ...
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What defines an Almana?

I was learning with a Rabbi today and we came across the following question. An Almana, widow, is not allowed to be married to a Kohen Gadol (see Mishna Yevamos 9:2). However, what defines a widow? ...
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What does this piece of jewelry say?

A classmate showed me a pendant that she recently acquired. It was described to her as representing some sort of blessing for marriage. None of the people who looked at it could figure out what the ...
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Can a Jew have a non-Jewish “bashert” or vice-versa?

Follow-up to "Do non-jews have soul mates?": Can a Jew have a non-Jewish "bashert" (Divinely designated soul-mate) or vice-versa?
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Source of Wedding Veil [duplicate]

So I know it is customary that brides wear veils during the wedding, and the custom of the bedeken comes from the story of Rachel and Lea, but where does the custom of wearing the veil itself come ...
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Relations on Shabbat

It is my understanding that restrictions and prohibitions on the Sabbath more accurately concern "creating" or "destroying" rather than the stereotypical concept of "working". Why is it then ...
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what are the prerequisites for getting married?

What are the prerequisites for getting married according to halachah in terms of income and job security?
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Why do some Jews get married at night?

In images and other media I have seen of Jewish weddings, there seems to be a trend to get married in the evening or night time. Is this a Jewish custom a halachic requirement and what is the origin ...
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Why is Orpah listed first?

In Rus 1:4 it says that Naomi's two sons married to Moabite women, Orpah and Rus. We know that Rus married Machlon (4:10) the older brother and Orpah, Rus's sister (Rus Rabba 2:9) married Kilyon. Why ...
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What is the original source that a soul is split in half before conception?

Does anyone knew of the original source (from a sefer) for the idea in this quote: "According to Jewish thought, a husband and wife were originally one soul before birth, split into two halves when ...
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Is the presence of a rabbi required for an orthodox wedding?

Is it possible for two Orthodox Jews to be married by anyone other than a rabbi?
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Did Moses marry twice?

Did Moses marry a second time? Maybe his first wife died or maybe we don't know for sure? I am wondering if the wife that Miriam and Aaron complained about in parshas Beha'alosecha (Bamidbar 12:1) ...
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Can a כהן marry a גרושה בתולה under 3

A cohen may not marry a woman who was divorced (Leviticus 21:7). So too in a case where a woman got married then got divorced but never had relations. However what about a case where a woman got ...
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Any restrictions for the Orthodox sister of a woman who has married a non-Jew?

If a Jewish woman marries a non-Jewish man and has children with him, are there any restrictions related to halacha or minhag on her [Orthodox] siblings' and their families' interactions with her, her ...
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Aside from the days set aside for impurity, what exactly is a man allowed to do with his wife in regards to intimacy?

A man cannot touch, stare, kiss or have relations with a woman he is not married with. On the days when the laws of impurity do not apply, what exactly can a man do with his wife? Assuming extra ...
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Are both witnesses and the verbal “Harei At” declaration required elements of the Chuppa ceremony?

A doctor was interrupted in the middle of his own chuppah because someone in the audience had an emergency that required the doctor's help. The emergency occured at the point where the groom was ...
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May a couple forgo relations out of convenience?

In my chassan classes I was taught that it is important to have relations on the night a wife returns tahor from the mikvah. I do not know the source of this idea. My question is: May the couple ...
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Is a Kohen required to marry a virgin?

In a recent conversation with several friends regarding ba'alei teshuva marrying Kohanim (specifically college students), one person present said that a Kohen can only marry a virgin. I contested this ...
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How do those rabbis opposed to the RCA (“Rabbi Willig's”) prenup feel about the Nachlas Shiva document?

Many American rabbis will refuse to perform a wedding unless the couple has a specialized prenup regarding halachic divorce. This is known as "The RCA prenup" or "Rabbi Willig's prenup." From what I ...
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Rape for a girl and is looking to get married

If a young Jewish girl was raped, what are the protocols for her getting married? Is there anyone that she can't marry other than the Kohen or Kohen Gadol? What are the halachot for these types of ...
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Shalom Bayit and Chametz [closed]

Although this question certainly needs to be discussed with a personal Rav I would like to hear how others approach the matter. My wife and I come from very different backgrounds and Pesach often ...
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Giving a slave multiple wives

The posuk says I can provide my Jewish servant with a slavewoman to make me children-slaves. Can I give him multiple wives?
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Does being married by an Orthodox rabbi afford certain privileges in today's world? [closed]

Does being married by an Orthodox rabbi — as compared to being married by a rabbi of another denomination — afford certain privileges in today's world? My question pertains to the marriage ...
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Making a tanoim/vort for a zivug sheini (2nd marriage)

I have heard from many that there is a minhag (custom) not to make what many call a "tanoim" or a "vort" (the celebration when a couple gets engaged) for 2 people that were once divorced. They base it ...
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Is a wife allowed to stop going to the mikva?

If a wife no longer wants to have relations with her husband, is it allowed for her to stop going to the mikva, in order to prevent relations?
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What is the source for the idea that a woman can marry any man?

I have heard a few times the idea that a woman can theoretically marry any man (and be happy), as long as she works on herself. Presumably because the happiness of the relationship depends on the ...
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Was Paltiel living with Michal sanctioned?

Michal, daughter of Shaul, was King David's first wife. However, after she later helped David escape from Shaul, Shaul gave her to Paltiel Ben Laish as a wife. The Talmud in Sanhedrin 19b has the ...
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Husband lighting Shabbat candles

If my wife is out of the country for an extended trip, am I required to light Shabbat candles in the house if I am home alone? Does it matter how long she is going to be away? Or that the time ...