marriage, marrying, the state of being married; more specific tags are `wedding` and `intermarriage`
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Chamisha Asar B'Av - when did the Minhag stop?
The Gemara Taanis 31. says אמר רבן שמעון בן גמליאל לא היו ימים טובים לישראל כחמשה עשר באב וכיוה"כ שבהן בנות ירושלים יוצאות ... וחולות בכרמים ומה היו אומרות בחור שא נא עיניך וראה מה אתה בורר לך אל תתן ...
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What's the best way to make ashes (for weddings and/or pre-Tisha B'Av)?
There are times that something calls for ashes, e.g.:
The meal right before Tisha B'Av, you're supposed to eat a hard-boiled egg dipped in ashes.
A groom puts ashes on his forehead shortly before ...
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Prohibition of a Kohen marrying a Zonah
In the prohibition of a Kohen marrying a Zonah (cf. Vayikra 21:7), what defines a woman as a Zonah? Is it just having had relations with a non-Jew, or does it also include having relations out of ...
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Blind and Marriage
The Gemara tells us that a man may not marry a woman without first seeing her because if she turns out to be displeasing to him then he will transgress the mitzvah of "Ve'ahavtah lerei'acha ...
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Having children when both parents are Tay-Sachs carriers
This is an obvious CYLOR question, but I am interested in whatever halachic information is available out there.
Suppose a couple got married without ever getting genetically tested for Tay-Sachs. ...
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Interpreting Song of Songs
Is there any rabbinic commentary/interpretation on Shir HaShirim (the Song of Songs) that emphasizes the holiness of love between a man and a woman?
At least from what I've encountered along the ...
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Does casual sex establish a marriage?
Do premarital sexual relations effect Kiddushin (betrothal/first step of Jewish marriage) if there is no intention of getting married?
If so, is the physical act itself determinative of whether or ...
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Amon and Moav today
The Halacha is that a Jewish woman may not marry a convert of Amon and Moav. Is there any way to know who is a descendant of Amon and Moav today?
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Why was Kozbi not an eshes yefas toar?
Why was Kozbi bas Tzur not considered an eshes yefas toar (a non-Jewish woman who is taken captive during wartime and is permitted to her captor) who would then be permitted to Zimri? This question ...
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Do married men stop saying a bracha on their *tallit katan*?
This question concerns the Ashkenazic practice.
I was always told that the tallit katan (worn under clothing, every day, starting in preschool years) got the bracha of al mitzvat tzitzit, but the ...
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How do those rabbis opposed to the RCA (“Rabbi Willig's”) prenup feel about the Nachlas Shiva document?
Many American rabbis will refuse to perform a wedding unless the couple has a specialized prenup regarding halachic divorce. This is known as "The RCA prenup" or "Rabbi Willig's prenup." From what I ...
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What were the marriage rights of the temporary wives of Rav and Rav Nachman?
According to the gemaras at Yoma 18b and Yevamos 37b, Rav and Rav Nachman (and presumably other chachamin) would send representatives to cities a week before the rebbe intended to visit to find the ...
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Who was Cain's wife?
I saw this problem on reddit today and I think that we cursorily covered this in Tanach class. Who was Cain's wife? In בראשית ד' י"ז it says " וַיֵּדַע קַיִן אֶת-אִשְׁתּוֹ" but it never says who she ...
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Can a man and woman with the same name marry each other?
Suppose you have a man named Simcha. May he marry a woman named Simcha? (sources)
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Were there restrictions on marrying members of other tribes?
In ancient Israel, when there were clear differences between members of different tribes, were there restrictions on members of one tribe marrying a members of another tribe?
If yes, what would ...
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Taharas mishpacha class for men
Many women take kallah classes before getting married in order to be familiar and comfortable with the laws of taharas mishpacha. I have heard that there are similar classes for men, and it makes ...
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Are marriages on yom tov recognized if all other halacha is observed?
I attended a reform Jewish wedding on Shavuot and was wondering if the marriage is acknowledged and what the status of the children of that union are?
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What is the status of a married woman without a kesuba?
If a married woman loses her kesuba, may she continue to sleep with her husband? Is she still legally considered married? If she sleeps with someone else, has she committed adultery?
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How does an engaged person find a chosson/kallah (pre-marriage) class teacher?
How does an engaged person find a chosson/kallah (pre-marriage) class teacher? Preferably a good one?
Is it "just ask around"? Ask a rabbi? Is there any good way to compare different people, or is ...
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Shavuos as a Marriage
There is an idea (which I initially became familiar with in my misspent youth from tamei sources but subsequently have seen it mentioned in tahor one's) that Shavuos is, as it were, a marriage between ...
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Is Cohen who had a vasectomy allowed to Bless?
Is Cohen who had a vasectomy allowed to Bless the congregation? Also marry? What happens if he does marry?
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Why only 100 zuz to a widow/divorcee?
In a Ketubah, the Rabbis instituted that a man should obligate himself to pay his wife, should he chose to divorce her (or he dies). If she had never been married before, he obligates himself to pay ...
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Ceremony to take a woman as a concubine (pilegesh)?
This question sparked a lively discussion and debate on this rather sensitive issue.
One piece of the original question was:
What ceremony / ritual must be performed (if any) to formally ...
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Which rabbi was it who checked a person's identity by asking where he sat in shul?
The story goes something like ...
A few days after his wedding, a man disappeared without a trace. Many years later, a mysterious man showed up back in town, claiming to be him. He looked ...
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How old were Er and Onan when they died?
Based on the implication that Yehuda got married after Yosef was sold, and that it was 22 years later that Yaacov and the family come down to Egypt, during that time Yehuda has his 3 children by the ...
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Is the ketuba enforceable in American law?
The Ketuba is written in Aramaic, so it might not be easily understood by an English-speaking judge; however, it is still a contract. On the other hand, the ketuba is not (necessarily?) signed by ...
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Kiddushin 'Al Tnai and the effect of Nissuin
I just read a comment online asking, in a particular 'Agunah situation, why there was not an agreement before the wedding to allow a rabbinical court to a annul the marriage.
Is this a legitimate ...
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Hatoras Nedarim for wife taking her husband's Minhagim
According to Minchas Yaakov 112:2 and Darchei Teshuva 112:94, one who is always careful with Pas Yisrael and now wants to start eating Pas Paltar would have to be Matir Neder. Suppose a girl who was ...
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Punishment for Polygamy
This question does a great job of explaining the concept of polygamy in Jewish law and normative practice, past and present.
My question is:
What if a married (let's say Ashkenazi) Jewish man, ...
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Taharas hamishpacha practices during pregnancy
I am basing this question on this quote from the Wikipedia page on Hasidic childbirth customs:
At the beginning of pregnancy, a woman's separation behavior depends
on the regularity of her ...
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Are cholim obligated to please their wives?
To me it is clear that if (G-d forbid) a person is sick to the point that it will kill them, or that (G-d forbid) they will get their wife sick, there's obviously no obligation to please their wife ...
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Husband lighting Shabbat candles
If my wife is out of the country for an extended trip, am I required to light Shabbat candles in the house if I am home alone? Does it matter how long she is going to be away? Or that the time ...
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Can a 9 year old do Yibbum?
Back then was a 9 year old and 1 day boy allowed to do yebam to his dead brothers wife?
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Sources for Hassidic views on marital celibacy/asceticism?
My understanding is the traditional view of Ger Hassidism was that marital celibacy was a good idea, once all procreative needs had been met.
My impression is that Chabad-Lubavitch never advocated an ...
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what percentage of Reform Jews are halachically Jewish?
Was there ever a study done on the percentage of Reform Jews who would be considered Jewish according to Halacha?
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What are Jewish conventions regarding honeymoons?
What are Jewish conventions regarding honeymoons? Is a honeymoon taken, and, if so, is it done immediately after the wedding--or later, once the woman is again tehora?
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What is the value of a (Kesuba) marriage contract?
In a regular Kesuba we give total 200 Zekukim Kesef. What is the value of that currently in US dollars? Also do you pay the value when you got married or the value at either death/divorce?
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Simchas Yom Tov for one's wife: what if she otherwise gets clothes etc.?
A husband is supposed to ensure his wife's Simchas Yom Tov by buying her something (new jewelry, clothes, etc.) for the holiday. If she has already received such an item from a different source, and ...
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What are important topics to discuss before marriage?
Eventually, one is required to get married. In the process of selecting a marriage partner, what are important topics to discuss in the dating process?
In particular, I'm looking for topics that will ...
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Definition of Beit Hakneset area [with respect to tachanun]
Shulchan Aruch O"CH 131:4 says that we don't say Tachanun where there is a Chatan in the syagogue: (see also this related question) (Note: I mention here Chatan because it's clearly mentioned, but ...
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Question about Polygamy and Marriage Ceremonies
This is a follow up to my previous question on Polygamy
In Jewish marriages, was it ever common for a man to marry more than one wife in the same ceremony?
The context: I've been looking into ...
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Name of adoptive father in the Ketubah
I know that an adoptive parents is considered as a real parent. But normally the adoptive parents raises the child from a very young age, in this case it is different.
A Jewish father bring up his son ...
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What is the source of the Kallah circling the Chasan 7 times?
What is the source of the Kallah circling the Chasan 7 times?
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Why is the kesuba not written in a native language?
The kesuba (marriage contract) is written in a smattering of Hebrew with Aramaic thrown in. It is possible that onr or both parties may not know what all the words in the kesuba mean. Furthermore it ...
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If a woman converts to Judaism while pregnant, will her child be eligible to marry a Kohen?
If a woman converts to Judaism while pregnant, will her child be eligible to marry a Kohen?
Case #1 -- Assume her husband is a Jew by birth.
Case #2 -- Assume her husband converted to Judaism prior ...
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Why was Hosea acceptable to the people if he took his adulterous wife back?
Hosea is described by Rabbi Yochanan in Pesachim 87a as the greatest of the four major prophets. At G-d's command (Hosea 1:2), he married a prostitute, Gomer, and fathered children, although there ...
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Is a picture of a woman prior to marriage with hair uncovered considered ervah once she gets married?
Another question asks whether pictures of erva are erva. My question assumes, for the sake of argument, that they are, and asks: Once a woman gets married, her hair becomes ervah, so are all pictures ...
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Can the daughter of two people who could not marry a Cohen marry a cohen?
Can a woman whose father's father isn't Jewish, but whose father's mother is a regular Jew, and whose mother is the child of two converts marry a Cohen?
On the one hand she isn't purely from ...
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What did Sephardic Jews do when yibum required taking a second wife?
As I understand it, in the Sephardic world not long ago, the marriage contract would have a steep penalty clause if he took a wife beyond the first one without her permission.
And as I understand it, ...
