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How to verify Jewish identity

I've seen a few questions related to this, but not the specific nature of the question: What are the standard requirements for verifying one's Jewish identity. Obviously, one's mother must be Jewish, ...
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Leaving a mate behind in egypt

Did any husbands leave behind wives, or any wives leave behind husbands in Egypt during the Exodus? If so did this qualify a divorce of sorts?
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Is a Jew required to be married? [duplicate]

Is there a halacha that says a Jew must get married? How serious is it? What if a Jew is not married and remains a bachelor all their life, having sex? Please support your answers from Tanach and ...
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Not to marry a divorcée

I remember hearing in a daf yomo shiur And I want to find were is it written Something similar to that it is preferable not to marry a divorced woman (if her ex husband is still alive) because it ...
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Do any various “orthodox” groups forbid marriage to other groups?

Out of the various "Orthodox" groups, i.e. Litvish, Chassidim, Sephardim, Yemenites, etc., do any of them forbid marriage to the other?
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Is a kinyan (acquisition) based on vague knowledge considered valid?

I am using the example of the ketubah. As stated here, The Act of Acquisition (Kinyan). In order to seal all of the stipulated obligations, and to assure that the document is not asmakhta ...
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Explain halachic purposes of parts of Jewish marriage

I am trying to understand the purposes of these parts of the Jewish wedding: Tana'im (Some document is read and the 2 moms break a plate) ketubah kiddushin (chatan places ring on kalah's finger) ...
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When would a man have married multiple women on the same day?

The mishna at the bottom of Ketubot 93b talks about paying ketubot when a man with several wives dies. (They're paid in order of marriage, which from context means order of kiddushin.) It then ...
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Aside from the Mitzvah “to be fruitful and multiply” why else should a Jewish person want to get married?

What does the Torah say regarding the reasons that one should get married? I am looking for sources such as "ein simcha beli isha" and other philosophical intrinsic reasons for finding a mate.
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Breaking a “engagement” (shiduch)

I heard that breaking off an engagement to marry is bad. Is this true? I see that there are reasons that allow one to break an engagement: Chelkas Yaakov (EH 80) So is it not permitted to break it ...
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What's the difference between נכסי צאן ברזל and נכסי מלוג?

What's the difference between נכסי צאן ברזל and נכסי מלוג? Is there more than one difference. When asking a prior question for what the Hebrew term for "living trust" was i got those two as a response ...
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How does a husband make a neder on his wife

How does a husband make a neder on his wife? From shulchan aruch, even ezer: 115.10 (not to talk to someone (maybe only men?)) אם השביע אשתו שלא תדבר עם פלוני ועברה ודברה עמו עוברת על דת היא ...
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Getting back together with a girlfriend after she has dated other guys?

Suppose a young Jewish couple, Bob and Jane dated, and had sex. (Yes, I realize premarital sex isn't ideal under orthodox Judaism, but I am interested in the halachic and spiritual implications given ...
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What is the prohibition of intermarriage?

The Gemara says that there's no kiddushin between a Jew and a non-Jew, yet the only way to violate the prohibition of intermarriage is through marriage (stam biya is only assur derabanan)! So what ...
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why kiddushin and nisu'in are done in the same day (no big space)

Why are kiddushin and nisu'in done on the same day, with no big space in between? I understand from the mishna: מסכת כתובות ה,ב = נותנים לבתולה שנים עשר חודש משיתבע לה הבעל, לפרנס את עצמה; כשם ...
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Can fiances take on each other's customs before marriage?

Can two people who are engaged take on each other's customs before marriage? At what point in the marriage process do they take on each other's customs?
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Kohen marrying a giyoress

Can a widowed or divorced kohen who already has children marry a woman convert who cannot have children (eg, because of a hysterectomy or being postmenopausal)?
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Full Niddah separation after be'ilat mitzvah?

I was looking at Sefer HaRaavyah with regard to a couple of subjects pre-Pesah. As I was paging through, I saw that he seems to be poseq that the halakhah regarding be'ilah rishonah (the initial act ...
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Marital conversion - Muslim man and Jewish woman [closed]

I am a Muslim, now going to marry a Jewish woman. As we know, it is not permissible1 for a Jewish woman to marry a Muslim man. So we, are planning to do a marital conversion. Could any one let me know ...
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What customs does a divorced/widowed woman follow? (Ashkenazi/Sfardi — hers or her ex-husband's?)

When a woman gets married, she takes on her husband's customs. Thus, an Ashkenazi woman marrying a Sfardi man gets to eat rice on Pesach (and vice versa). But what happens if she gets divorced, or if ...
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Process for a rebellious wife?

In the talmud the Rabbis discuss a "rebellious wife" who refuses to sleep with her husband. The husband is given recourse to deduct from her ketubah (marriage contract). This is discussed in tractate ...
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How much freedom in the ketuba writing [duplicate]

What is the minimum words of the ketuba (mandatory husband insurance) to have it be halochakli kosher lichathila (date, place, name, 200/100 zuz, witnesses) And sources please And please were can I ...
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Is it permissible to marry a non-religious Jewish women?

Is it permissible to marry a non-religious Jewish women? How it is possible or how is it not-possible?
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Couple's showing affection in public

Is there any specific prohibition that forbids to show affection with one's spouse in public? For example kissing on the forehead or holding hands, not more extreme affection actions of course.
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married men wearing a ring on their finger [duplicate]

Under the chupah the choson puts the ring on the kallah's finger. However, here and there I noticed that some men who are married where a ring on their finger as well. Is it chukas hagoyim, a minhag ...
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Saying loshon hara to a spouse or close relative

Are there any relationships within which loshon hara is permitted? I guess I mean loshon hara that is said for a purpose--but perhaps not purposes which would meet the strict halachic criteria for ...
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Prohibition on relations with a gentile woman

In this question, I hastily posted that I thought "a Gentile woman is at least as forbidden to a Jewish man as another man's wife would be." In light of the discussion here -- is this true? (It would ...
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Does a maidservant have the right to refuse marriage to her master or his son when the time for it comes?

We learn from Mishpatim that a father can sell his daughter into the service of a master. This master then designates her as a future bride for himself or his son. At what age is the maidservant ...
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kissing in the yichud room

After a jewish couple gets married and they go to the yichud room, is the choson allowed to kiss the kallah?
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Would looking away help a Cohen stay Married to his wife?

I read recently about a Jewish woman raped in France at home in front of her husband. If Chas VeChalilah a wife of a Cohen is raped, they have to get divorced. Would it be advisable for an ...
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What is the case of “ishus”? (Gittin 83a)

The gemara discusses various ways to disprove the opinion of Rabbi Eliezer, that גירושי חוץ/גירושין על מנת (either a divorce that does not work for one person, or a divorce that's made on condition ...
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Is the matrilineal descendant of a convert Jewish? [duplicate]

A woman converted to Judaism to marry a man who was a practicing Jew and Jewish by birth. Their great-grandchild recently learned this. Is that great-grandchild considered a Jew according to ...
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what is the mother's obligation to raise children (if she is not obligated to educate (chinuch) them)

igres moshe 4.49 כי סתם נשים בעולם אינם עשירות ועליהן מוטל גידול הילדים והילדות translation from link the average woman is not wealthy and has responsibility to raise sons and daughters. ...
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Is going on a pre-marriage 'stag' problematic

Assuming that the activities and setting (etc.) are considered kosher, is there a problem of 'not going in their ways' (or other related issue) by attending a stag party for a man who is getting ...
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Marriage: invalidity versus prohibition

I apologize if this is a very elementary question, but I'm having trouble finding an answer to it. As we all know, there are many kinds of marriages which one can generally term "halachically ...
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Prishus in Jewish Marriage

I know that there is a concept of prishus (going beyond the letter of the law, and abstaining from things that are really allowed) within Jewish marriage, but what exactly does this constitute, and ...
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married couples never sleeping in the same bed

I have heard that many Orthodox married couples never sleep in the same bed, even during the times that they are permitted to each other. Coming from a non-Orthodox background, this seems shocking to ...
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Should single men not sit at corner of the table?

I heard that there some say that single men should not sit at the corner of the table, because it could lead to someone staying single forever. Is there a source for this idea?
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May my wife wear my jacket to keep warm?

The Sefer HaChinuch #564 writes that it’s forbidden for a woman to wear men’s clothing. If it’s cold outside, is a woman allowed to wear a man’s coat to keep warm? If #1 is a problem, are any ...
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Enslavement to mekarev the intermarried

A Jewish slave (Eved Ivri) is allowed to marry a non-jewish slave (Eved Kenani). If a Jew is married to a non-jew (lets say they have children), rather than demanding that they split up or the other ...
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Why didn't Yaakov divorce Leah?

It would appear that Yaakov did not intend to marry Leah. If so, why did he simply not divorce her either immediately after the wedding, or at any later point? Related: 1, 2
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Why doesn't dam chimud (seeing each other at the wedding) ban relations the first night?

The Gemara said that when someone asks another to marry, there's a concern for dam chimmud. That's why chosson & kalla shouldn't see each other during the week before the wedding. But they see ...
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chosson, kallah and yichud room

Does the kitzur shulchan aruch, shulchan aruch or mishnah berurah gives us the details as to what the chosson and kallah do in the yichud room?
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What does a marriage proposal look like?

Most of us are familiar with the (American? Secular?) image of a proposal. The man kneels and says "will you marry me?" and so on. But what does an Orthodox proposal look like? I'm interested in any ...
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Are there any Jewish groups that check for a newly married woman's virginity?

This question follows from: What are “the tokens of virginity”? Are there any Jewish groups then and now that check for a woman's virginity say by laying out a garment when marriage is first ...
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Should Ya'akov have married Rachel?

Every year, I see questions and answers regarding how could Ya'akov marry two sisters, etc. but it struck me this year that one thing I've never seen is the question whether Ya'akov was right to marry ...
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discrepancy between parashat emor and yechezkel regarding if it is possible for a kohen to be mitame for a spouse

In parashat Emor (Vayikra 21:2) it is written כִּי, אִם-לִשְׁאֵרוֹ, הַקָּרֹב, אֵלָיו: לְאִמּוֹ וּלְאָבִיו, וְלִבְנוֹ וּלְבִתּוֹ וּלְאָחִיו.כא,ג וְלַאֲחֹתוֹ הַבְּתוּלָה הַקְּרוֹבָה אֵלָיו, אֲשֶׁר ...
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If a Cohen slept with non-Jews, may he marry a Jewish woman who has done the same?

Suppose a Cohen is dating a Jewish girl, and both parties have had relations with non-Jewish people. Normally, a woman who's had relations with non-Jews is forbidden to a Cohen. Does the fact that he ...
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Is un-pedigreed Jew assumed mamser for marrage to Orthodox girl even after he becomes Orthodox?

This is a clarification of the "up-conversion" questions I asked recently. According to the many sources on the internet many Orthodox rabbis hold the general presumption that declared and observant ...
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May Conversative man “up-convert” to marry Orthodox girl?

I'm writing a story where a young man raised in a devout Conservative family risks suicidal odds to rescue an Orthodox girl who fell onto the subway tracks hurting her ankle, who is about to be ...