marriage, marrying, the state of being married; more specific tags are `wedding` and `intermarriage`

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Honey on Hallah for Newlyweds?

A friend stumped me with this question: What is the earliest reference to the custom of having newlyweds dip their hallah in honey? My guess is that it's an extension from the custom of honey on Rosh ...
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Conservative procedures for avoiding intermarriage?

Conservative rabbis are prohibited from performing intermarriages (e.g., http://www.rabbinicalassembly.org/sites/default/files/public/ethical_guidelines/Code%20of%20conduct-2011-public.pdf). Is ...
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Is there a source for a man not addressing his wife by her first name?

I know a man who when addressing his wife calls her [for example] Mrs Doe as opposed to 'Jane' or 'Honey' [he does this when he is home too]. This person is very religious and what some might call ...
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Shomer Negiyah- negated by Mikvah?

If a woman in an unmarried relationship goes to Mikvah, does that allow for freedom of touching in any way, besides for actual intercourse or spilling of seed in vain, between said couple (both ...
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Should the groom say what the ketuba says he says? If not, are the witnesses that sign it lying?

Should the groom SAY the statement in the kesuba to his bride on the day the kesuba is being written? the statement in the kesuba On the day .... the bridegroom ... said to this [...] daughter of ...
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What does לְפִי כְּבוֹדוֹ (according to his honor) mean? how is it calculated?

In shulchan aruch even ezer a few times (64.4, 89.1, 94.5) the amount of financial responsibility/obligation is based on the husband's/groom's or wife's/bride's level of "respect", and in yorah daiya ...
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Are two biological brothers allowed to marry two biological sisters?

Are two biological brothers allowed to marry two biological sisters? Are there any halachically issues involved with such a marriage? I do recall hearing something about it but not sure what it was.
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Can a bride's father call off a wedding? [duplicate]

Both in the Torah and various halachick literature, it often appears as though a woman's father has a large role in deciding who she marries. One example is in Shemiras Halashon, it says that if the ...
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Must a man seek 100 rabbis' permission again to take another “second” wife?

In certain cases, a man might receive a heter meah rabbanim (permission from 100 rabbis) to take a second wife. This may happen for a variety of reasons, but I understand that all of the cases involve ...
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Getting married at 18

The Mishna in Avos says that one should get married at 18 , is there a reason for this particular age ?
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Al pi halacha, are descendents from Marranos considered Jewish? [duplicate]

What level of proof would be needed for a person whose ancestors lived in Mexico and who claims to be a descendant of the Marranos to be considered Jewish for the sake of marriage? Or are all such ...
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Should one go out of his way to give his wife all the money and gifts she wants?

In the Garden of Peace, Rabbi Shalom Arush says that a man should give his wife all the money she needs and not worry her about any financial issues you are experiencing. To me, this seems a bit ...
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Should lust for one's wife be curbed?

According to Judaism illicit relations are forbidden. I always thought that the way one can control his lustful desires is by marrying. In the Garden of Peace, Rabbi Shalom Arush says that a man ...
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Marriage of a Cohen to a woman with a non-Jewish father: Are the sons Cohanim?

Asking because it is not answered here: If, as suggested in the linked question, a Cohen may b'dieved (but not l'chatchila) marry a woman whose father is a non-Jew, will the sons from such a marriage ...
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Kol Isha Yabia Omer 1:6

Chacham Ovadia writes in Yabia Omer 1:6(end of section 7) different opinions on listening to a woman's voice without knowing what she looks like. He brings the gemara in Berachos 57b that says: three ...
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How to reconcile a wife's cooking with the Zohar's definition of husband and wife?

According to the Zohar the man is the "giver" and the woman is the "receiver" within the context of a marriage. With that being the case how can one understand the traditional role of a wife to cook ...
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What's the reason for silver spoon at yichud door?

At a wedding, according to Chabad custom, a silver spoon is placed at the entrance to the yichud room. The chosson walks in first by stepping over it with his right foot first. What is the ...
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What information, if not shared before the wedding, can invalidate the marriage?

I know that under certain situations, if you didn't share certain information prior to marriage, the marriage could be nullified and not even require a get. What sort of witheld information qualifies ...
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Parents mix in to marriage until 24 years old

I was once told that parents have a bigger say regarding who you (maybe only male) marry before you are 24 years old Is this true? if yes sources please (The only thing I saw that changes after the ...
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How did a marriage officially commence among Hebrew people 2000 years ago?

About 2 thousand years ago how was a new marriage registered among Hebrew people? Was it registered at all? How did a man and a woman officially become married? Was it just a kind of public ...
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Who can be the Mesader Kiddushin?

The mesader kiddushin at my wedding did not conduct any classes with me, did not read the ketuba out loud, did not recite any of the brachot. While he gave a speech under the chupah and explained ...
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Yevamot Relationship Chart

I remember seeing a Web 1.0ish website with a great chart with ALL of the relationships described in Mesechet Yevamot. This website also had a click through tour of diagrams of the Beit Hamikdash. I ...
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Why is the daughter of a married woman permissible?

A person's wife is permissible to him, yet the daughter of his wife is forbidden to him. Should it not stand to reason a fortiori (by kal vachomer) that the daughter of a married woman, who (the ...
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a girl marrying against her parents wishes

i understand that a man can marry a girl against his parents wishes Shulchan_Arukh, Yoreh De'ah 240 25 הַגָּה: וְכֵן אִם הָאָב מוֹחֶה בַּבֵּן לִשָּׂא אֵיזוֹ אִשָּׁה שֶׁיַּחְפֹּץ בָּהּ הַבֵּן, ...
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Status of person with two different DNAs

Well, simple this is not. Some people can be made of "two" different DNAs. It basically happens that two embryos fuse making one health adult with two different DNAs, also known as a chimera. If such ...
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Evil Eye from one's own wife?

Is it possible that one's own wife creates an "evil eye" or something of the sort, knowingly or unknowingly and ends up causing financial and health trouble? Is there any sort of "contract" couples ...
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May a normally impotent Jewish man marry if he can use Viagra?

This is a question regarding the marriageability of a Jewish man who knows he has ED. Does the Law say he must still be naturally capable of sexual intercourse without chemical assistance in order to ...
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Is a pilegesh the same as a handmaiden?

I'm confused as to whether what the actual relationship to a man a pilegesh actually has in Jewish Law. I've seen conflicting sources: (1) Hebrew school taught a pilegesh is a secondary wife ...
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What is kabolas ponim on a wedding

I understand that the groom has kabolas ponim before the bedekin And the bride when she comes to the hupa (by said Boruch habo) Is this correct? what is the requirements of the kabolas ponim? ...
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Are Pilgashim used as “place holders” in a man's life?

Is it normal for a Jewish man to have a pilegesh to take care of physical needs when he is not yet married? By "pilegesh" I mean a woman who is temporarily monogamous with him for the purpose of sex, ...
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Are there any recent statistics showing the “marriage longevity” rate for shidduch arranged marriages?

There has been a "local" campaign in my neighborhood, recently, suggesting that young singles should only use shidduchim (matchmakers) when seeking to become married. Part of the "ad" campaign ...
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Do the Orthodox still Use Matchmakers?

I recently read an article about Jewish matchmaking. I was not aware that such a thing still existed. Is this a universal Orthodox method? Is it enforced? Does a person have to accept the match made ...
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How often should one have marital intercourse with his wife?

What is the frequency of marital intercourse prescribed by Halacha? I am confused as the Talmud in Ketubot 61b says that for men of independent means it is every day. But the Rambam in Mishneh ...
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Wife's conjugal rights [duplicate]

I understand that a wife has a conjugal rights depending on the occupation of the husband (2 times a week, 1 time a week, on Friday night, one time a month, 1 time in 6 months, 1 time a year) And ...
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Is Sikhism Compatible with the 7 Laws of Noah [closed]

I am an observant Noahide looking to get married. Could you please let me know if Sikhism is compatible with the 7 Laws of Noah? Is there a rabbi you could refer me to for discussing this further? ...
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For the recent approval of pilegesh in the circumstance of a married man unable to procreate, is kiddushin required?

Recently a Rabbinical Court in Jerusalem approvied a pilgesh in certain situations where a man cannot reproduce with his wife. The Vilna Gaon and others (including Jerusalem Talmud, possibly Bavli ...
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What belongs to a married woman and what can she do with it

Please correct me if I am wrong. Everything a wife brings into her marriage (belonged to her before the marriage), and the Kiddushin object (he gives it to her as a complete present) belongs to ...
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we often talk about men's strong sexual desires but i have never heard someone speak about women. [duplicate]

if a married women has unusually strong needs, should she try to control them or are they perfectly acceptable? is it ok for her to masturbate with or without her husband's presence?
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What is the role of a wife towards her husband according to Jewish thought?

What does the Torah, encompassing all of the Jewish works, say about the duties and responsibilities of a wife towards her husband? I would like some sources on the matter.
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What is the role of a husband in a marriage according to Jewish thought?

What does the Torah, encompassing all of the Jewish works, say about the duties and responsibilities of a husband? I would like some sources on the matter.
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Why “lest another man take her” and not betroth?

Deuteronomy 20:5–7 (with the Judaica Press translation), describing the lead-up to a battle: And the officers shall speak to the people, saying, What man is there who has built a new house ...
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The hupa itself, people holding or self standing, square or circle

I was told it is a segula to hold the 4 sticks of the hupa (square) so it seems it is preferred But now I see a new (to me) minhag that they have fancy self standing ones, sometimes in the shape of a ...
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Is a gentile obliged to get married and multiply?

We all know that a Jew is obliged to get married and have children. It's considered that a man is not complete until he gets married. I am not sure if a Jew won't have a share in Olam HaBa if he/she ...
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Is it forbidden to have a wedding by the koisel (western wall)?

Someone told me that I can't get married by the koisel. Is this true? If yes what is the reason, (religious (then sources please) or practical...)?
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what is the source that Shadchan is an acronym of Sheker Dover Kesef Notel

what is the source that שדכן is an acronym of שקר דובר כסף נוטל (translation "marriage broker" is an acronym of "says" "lies" "takes" "money" (in a different order)) someone told me it is from the ...
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Translation please Yiddish and roshai taivois about getting married fast

Please help me translation (understand) Igres kodesh 24 pg 227 (second paragraph) I understand the last line that "whoever shortens the time between the decision (to get married) and the marriage ...
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Married women uncovering their hair in the presence of gentiles

Is there a halachic difference of a married women covering her hair in the presence of Jews or Gentiles? Even if you hold like the chasam sofer who says that it's Deoraisa?
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Is it acceptable under Judaism to never marry?

Is it acceptable for Jews or those who live a Jewish lifestyle to become bachelors? I know of the New Testament verses that inspire my view but am wondering if Jews are commanded to marry and have ...
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Should Jews worry about whom non-Jewish governments recognize as “married”? [duplicate]

It says in Pirqei Avoth 2:3 "hawwu nizhirin be-reshuth" "Be wary of the [non-Jewish] government..." Lately, I have read alot of commentary from religious Jews in America about the Supreme Court's ...
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Does Judaism have anything on maiden names?

A recent NY Times article describes a rising trend in women's choices in keeping their maiden names, instead of (more traditionally) taking their husband's last name. I've wondered what opinions ...