a rite marking the end of the sabbath and major festivals

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Bootstrapping problem: havdalah ends shabbat (for one who didn't daven ma'ariv) but lighting the candle is melacha?

This answer to a question about melacha before havdalah notes that in that situation one should say "baruch hamavdil bein kodesh l'chol" first. Does that apply to lighting the havdalah candle? I ...
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Why do we say Layehudim Hayta Orah aloud?

In Havdalah, I noticed a virtually universal custom: when the one who is saying Havdalah reaches the Passuk of Layehudim Haytah Orah (ליהודים היתה אורה ושמחה...), those who are being Yotzei Havdalah ...
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How does laughing confuse the Satan?

Sefardim have a practice (custom?) to laugh during habdalah. When I asked the reason for this practice I was told that it was "to confound the satan". I assume it has something to do with ...
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How does a blind person make havdalah if he has to benefit from the light?

Per this answer, the one making havdalah must benefit from the light. How does a blind person make havdalah, assuming there is not another Jew present to do it for him? Does he omit the blessing ...
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Dipping fingers in Havdalah Wine

What is the source or origin of the custom to dip one's fingers in the wine poured over the candle to extinguish it at the conclusion of Havdalah? As a side note, and a reason I'm tagging it this ...
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Yom Kippur havdalah

Why are there no besamim used at havdalah at the conclusion of Yom Kippur?
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Drinking Havdalah Wine during the 9 Days

What are the different Minhagim you or other people have with the drinking of the wine at havdala during the "9 Days"? Do you drink it yourself, or do you use Chamar Medinah (a non-wine substitute)? ...
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How seriously do we take the finger-inspection in Havdala?

After saying the blessing over fire during Havdala, we do something (customs vary) involving looking at our fingers by the light of the Havdala candle. I'm wondering how seriously we take this part of ...
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Ata Chonantanu after havdala

Should one say ata chonantanu if they have already heard havdala at home? I don't know that there is a problem with it necessarily (it is not its own bracha, which is the point after all) but should ...
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Must the electrical lights be dimmed or turned off while saying “Borei Me'orei Ha'Esh”?

As a follow up to an answer given in Havdalah and fingers which says: The Mishnah in Berachos 51b writes that one should not make the blessing of "Bore Moerei Ha'esh" should only be made if one ...
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Why Doesn't Rasag Mention Spices As Part Of Havdalah?

In his siddur, Rav Sa`adya haGaon (Rasa"g) goes through the entire service for havdalah and never mentions besamim. He also doesn't mention it when discussing havdalah for Mossa'ei Yom Tov and what is ...
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Stuffed nose and havdallah

If I have a stuffed nose and cannot smell besamim, can I make havdallah? Do I still say borei minei besamim even though I can't consciously smell them, with the assumption that I'm still benefiting ...
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Do besamim (spices) for Havdalah need to be kosher?

Suppose there is a pack of mixed spices that does not have a reliable hechsher, but looks like it would be good for besamim. Would it be OK to use them for havdalah since you have no intention of ...
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When did the spice box get it's classical shape?

All Havdala Bsamamim boxes I have ever seen are in the shape of a tower. Why (and when) did it take on that classical shape (rather than just a silver box)?
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Hefsek between hagafen and drinking during havdallah

Why does everybody (at least that I have ever seen), say "borei pri hagefen" first of all during havdallah, but not drink the wine until all of the other brachos have been said? Is saying the other ...
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Pre existing flame for Havdala after Yom Kippur

Doe anyone know the reasoning for the requirement to use a flame that was lit over Yom Kippur for Havdala?
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Rubbing the Havdalah wine

Is there any source for the practice of not only dipping one's fingers into the Havdalah wine that was used to extinguish the fire and rubbing the eyes with it, but also spreading it around onto other ...
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All these verses to say before havdala

Before saying the blessings relevant to havdala on motzei shabbos, we (Ashkenazim) include a bunch of p'sukim: "הִנֵּה אֵל יְשׁוּעָתִי אֶבְטַח וְלֹא אֶפְחָד כִּי עָזִּי וְזִמְרָת יָהּ יְהוָה וַיְהִי ...
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Opinions concerning using other beverages for kiddush and “cups of blessing”

What are the major rabbinic opinions today concerning the suitability of substituting another beverage for wine (or grape juice) for kiddush and other "cups of blessing," e.g., havdalah or Passover ...
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Can women be motsi Sephardic men in havdalah?

According to Sepharadim, women are chayavot in havdalah. Can they also be motsi men? Looking for a Sephardic answer.
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Hefsek in being yotzei besamim in havdallah

This past motzei Shabbos, in the Shul where I davened, there were a number of young men who were lining up to be included in the communal havdallah done at the end of Maariv. The person making ...
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Making Kiddush/Havdalah Twice

Is it okay to say kiddush or havdalah twice in order to be Motzi someone else (e.g. wife)?
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Making Kiddush/Havdala if I did not keep Shabbos

Lately I have stopped being fully Shomer Shabbos, spending Shabbos afternoons in the bedroom surfing the internet on my phone and texting non-Jewish friends. My wife and children think I'm sleeping ...
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Havdallah after Tisha B'Av

When Tisha B'Av immediately follows Shabbos (either because the 9th of Av is Shabbos or because the 9th of Av is Sunday), how and when do we make havdallah?
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If Yom Kippur hypothetically fell on Sunday, would you make havdalah?

I was curious about this hypothetical situation. If Yom Kippur would fall on Sunday, Motzei Shabbat, so immediately when Shabbat ends, Yom Kippur starts. Would there be some sort of separation, בין ...
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Sheva Berachot at third meal

If sheva brachot occur at a seudah shlishit which finishes after sunset, is one allowed to drink the wine even though it is prior to making havdala? If yes, who specifically would be allowed to drink ...
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Cinnamon for Bisamim

Can you use cinnamon for Bisamim at havdalah? Which is better: ground cinnamon or whole sticks?
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Havdalah: mistake in the bracha

If a person saying havdalah began the last bracha (benediction) without mentioning sheim umalchus (God's name and dominion) i.e. he said ברוך אתה השם המבדיל בין קודש לחול וכו׳, skipping אלוקינו מלך ...
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Pre-Havdalah Melacha [duplicate]

Possible Duplicate: Bootstrapping problem: havdalah ends shabbat (for one who didn't daven ma'ariv) but lighting the candle is melacha? After nightfall before Marriv, or after ...
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Lady drinking Havdalah wine

Many times I have heard that a lady should not drink the wine from Havdalah as it will make her grow a beard. If a lady drank from the Havdalah wine will she really grow a beard? Is there a source ...
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Why do we not use oil for the havdalah candle?

Generally it seems to be perferable (mehudar) to use an oil based candle for mitzvot. Why doesn't anyone use an oil based candle for havdalah?
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Forgot atah chonantanu in maariv, but have to say tashlumin

If someone doesn't daven shemoneh esrei for certain reasons, he is able to make it up by davening two shemoneh esreis at the next davening ('tashlumin). The second one is the exact same as the first, ...
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Why put water into the havdallah wine?

I have seen people (mainly sefardim) put a few drops of water into the wine before havdallah. Why do they do this?
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Missed Maariv Motzai Shabbos - when to say Ata Chonantanu

Suppose one wakes up Sunday morning and realizes they never prayed Maariv Motzai Shabbos. As per "Ata Chonantanu after havdala", there is still a requirement to say Ata Chonantanu even if one heard ...
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Why do we say havdala if we already said ata chonantanu?

Based on my question here and the sources given by Double AA here it would seem logical that if ata chonantanu was the original havdala (and that is why we would say it even if we had already heard ...
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Can one eat on Sunday

Can one eat on Sunday if he hasn't heard Havdalah yet? If not, what happens if he already ate: should he say Havdalah?
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What is the qualification for chamar m'dina ? [duplicate]

The Shulchan Aruch mentions in a few places that if wine is not available then one may use chamar m'dina (a national drink), for bentching, kiddush, and havdala. chamar m'dina is also permitted if one ...
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Height of havdalah candle = height of spouse?

I have seen havdalah ceremonies where a unmarried person is charged with holding the havdalah candle and is told to hold it at the height that s/he would want their spouse to be. What is the source ...
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Is seeing the fire a requirement for havdala? [duplicate]

Possible Duplicate: How seriously do we take the finger-inspection in Havdala? Is it necessary to see the fire for havdala? In shul, people usually crowd around whoever is holding the ...
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Why extinguish the havdala candle in wine?

My family's custom is that, on motzae Shabas, someone making havdala, after drinking from the cup, pours some of the wine into the saucer (which, note, already had wine, because we overflow the cup on ...
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What to do with the candles during Havdalah

What is the proper procedure after saying the Brocho בורא מאורי האש? I understand you "look," but at what?
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Besamim Motzei Shabbos Chol HaMoed

Update: After speaking to the person who originally asked the shailo I have since updated the question to reflect what their original kavana was. When Yom Tov comes out Motzei Shabbos when we make ...
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What Should One Do If He Forgot to Say “VeYiten Lekha” on Saturday Night

According to those who observe the custom of reciting the passage of VeYiten Lekha on Motzaei Shabbat before or after Havdalah, what should one do if s/he forgot to recite it? I have never seen ...
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Megilah or Havdalah, which is done first? Why?

When Megilah reading is Motza'ei Shabbos (Saturday Night) what is said first, Havdalah or Megilah and why?
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Speaking in the middle of Havdallah

Someone was making havdallah and, after saying the bracha on besamim (spices) and then smelling them, exclaimed "Ah! A mechayah!". Is this considered a hefsek (interruption) in the havdallah? Meaning ...
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Bracha Lesheiv B'Suka when making Havdala

When one makes Havdala in the Succa, does one say the Bracha of Lesheiv Basuka?
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Is shogeg beyond my control?

In havdalla in chonein hada'as of motzai shabbos maariv, we say "חשוכים מכל חטא [ופשע] ומנוקים מכל עון" חשוכים means to be prevented from, as in ואחשוך גם אנכי אותך מחטוא לי (Bereishis 20:6). The ...
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overflowing cup and kos pagum

Is there any minhag to fill a cup of wine to the point where it overflows? Do some people overflow their cup because of Kos Pagum or does Kos Pagum apply to a cup which is not filled near enough to ...
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When exactly does Havdala in Maariv effect a permission to perform Melacha?

Can you perform Melacha on Saturday night immediately when you finish אתה חוננתנו in Maariv motzei Shabbat, when you finish the bracha of חונן הדעת, or when you finish Shmoneh Esrei? It seems that אתה ...
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Lighting candles on Yom Tov that falls out on Motzei Shabbos

Before a woman lights candles for Yom Tov that falls out on Motzei Shabbos does it say anywhere that she needs to say "HaMavdil" first? (Since the kedushas are different -- on Shabbos it was ossur to ...