Questions tagged [derech-eretz-manners]
Literally "the way of the land," in this case, "Derech Eretz" refers to good manners.
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Is there a mitzvah not to ignore a person?
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This probably very common sense question although what is the mitzvah that when your with a person you shouldn’t ignore them? What’s the source?
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Where does it say it’s not about the job but rather it’s the merits?
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I heard that it's not about the Job or certain profession that you have rather it's your merits that actually bring you your parnasa if this is an accurate statement according to the Talmud what is ...
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Can you put a pencil as a bookmark in sifrei Kodesh?
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Can you put a pencil in sifrei kodesh as a bookmark?
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Does it say anywhere that the people buried in Kavers don’t like when people put rocks on their kaver
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Does it say anywhere in Torah that the people buried in kavers don’t like it when people put rocks on top of their kevers(like little pebbles like the neshama doesn’t like it)?
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Is there a caution in Torah against leaning on sifrei kodesh
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Is there a worry of leaning on sifrei kodesh like leaning your left elbow on the book while doing something else with your right hand?
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Does it say anywhere in Halacha that a person shouldn’t eat where others Arnt eating?
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Does it say anywhere that a person shouldn’t eat where others are eating so they won’t feel hungry while the person is eating?
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Is there a Halacha that says that you shouldn’t stretch in public?
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Is there a consept in Halacha that says that a person shouldn't stretch in public(ie. to keep it together in public)
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Public nuisance in Halacha
Does Halacha recognize the notion of someone being liable for “public nuisance”? In secular law, a public nuisance is generally defined as someone who is doing something which is significantly ...
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Is there any Halacha that says you should notify the person on the phone he’s on speaker?
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Is there a Halacha that says a person should notify the person who he’s talking on the phone with that he’s on speaker so the other will know?
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When is it acceptable to be impolite or rude
Is it ever ok to be impolite or rude. Say an employee is not doing their job or won’t help you when you paid for a service.
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Derech Eretz with animals?
Is it permitted to eat in front of animals? Eating in front of fellow human beings when they don't have food is considered a breach of Derech Eretz as it might make them hungry, or repulse them, or ...
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Jewish table manners
I want to know if it's proper for a Jew to spit out bones or anything he doesn't want to swallow on top of the table he sits at.
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Sources that support not taking food from the table before the rabbi makes kiddush?
To me this seems like an obvious sense of basic respect to the community but it doesn't seem like everyone thinks as I do and looking for sources that support that this is a practice that should not ...
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Maintaining A Convert's Privacy
Bava Metzia 58b one is not allowed to remind a convert that they converted. However, they are given the name "Ben Avraham Avinu/bat Sarah Immenu" which makes them stand out and is a constant ...
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Can wearing big tefillin be seen as yuhara?
I am interested in getting 4x4 tefillin in order to have more mehudar parshiyot, but I'm worried about wearing them in a kehila where they wear smaller tefillin. I'm especially concerned about wearing ...
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Are men allowed to refer to another man's wife by her first name?
I heard a halacha a long time ago that men are not allowed to use the first name of a married woman who is not their wife. The suggestion I heard was to refer to her as Mrs. So-and-so.
Does anyone ...
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Halacha of not biting into a sandwich when someone else is eating with you
I have heard several times (including here) of a halacha (I believe I heard it is mentioned in a gemara) that discusses not taking a bite out of a sandwich when eating with others, as it may make them ...
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Halacha of saying bracha while someone else has food in their mouth
I have heard it is forbidden to recite a bracha (loudly) when someone nearby has food in their mouth. I heard the reason is because they might choke when trying to say amen. I would also like to know ...
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Accepting blame for someone else?
This is connected to my other question about malicious compliance, but a bit different. Imagine something goes wrong, and for whatever reason the blame falls on you even though it wasn't you, but you ...
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Spitting on the ground
In an essay on how seeing others sin makes the sin seem acceptable to you, I read that when 20th-century Rabbi Elya Lopian first came to Eretz Yisrael, he refrained from spitting on the ground (as was ...
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Bowing at the royal coat of arms
In British Magistrate and Crown Courts the royal coat of arms is located behind the bench where the magistrates or judge sit. It is etiquette for solicitors/barristers and anyone giving evidence to ...
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Why is mitzvah 611 not in The Six Constant Mitzvot? [duplicate]
Mitzvah 611 according to the Sefer HaChinuch is to walk in HaShem's ways. Sefaria writes:
"The commandment to walk in - and make oneself similar through - the ways of God, may He be blessed:"...
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Blocked Mailbox in Halacha
Someone lives on a busy street and often people park in a way that makes his mailbox inaccessible. Parking on that street is not illegal. However there is a clear sign at the mailbox that they ignore. ...
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One shouldn't drink water in front of others - but other drinks are OK - why?
Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 42:12 writes
When you drink water, you should not drink in the presence of others,
rather, turn your face away; but when drinking other liquids, you need
not turn your face away....
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What is the source for non-literal understanding of V'Chai Bahem?
The concept of V'Chai Bahem - "do the mitzvos to live by them" (Vayikra 18:5) - is usually understood to refer to one's physical existence (i.e. the mitzvos should not be performed if they ...
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Lack of refinement – sourced examples other than eating in the market
Rav Wolbe in Alei Shur, p 396, speaking about the refinement needed for accepting the Torah quotes the gemoro in Kiddushim 40b that someone who eats in the marketplace is compared to a dog and some ...
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Can a fiance sleep at his in-law's?
Seems to be a minhag that a fiance shall not sleep at his future in-law's house. Even just as a guest for one night. And obviously, even if there is no problem of yichud.
Is there a reference in ...
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"Laughing at" prominent rabbonim? [duplicate]
I encountered an interesting sugya today (Bava Qama 102b), in which we are told that, "in the west", the rabbonim laughed at the interpretation of Rabbi Yohanan. Presumably, this is a reference to ...
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Should a congregational rabbi resign based on "common public" accusations?
Last night, I found numerous articles published in many newspapers over the course of about the past decade regarding several students accusing a former Yeshiva principal who sexually abused them. The ...
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Doesn't the Torah set the standard of politeness?
Two of the curses in Ki Tavo are:
-You shall betroth a wife, and another man will rape her. [Deut. 28:30]
-The Lord will strike you with... hemorrhoids. [Deut. 28:27]
But the Talmud instructs us to ...
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Book on Derech Eretz
As manners and etiquettes are also an important part of Judaism, are there websites or online books in English that discusses in detail all the important derech eretz laws?
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Lighting Menorah in remembrance of our dear Jewish friend
We lost someone whom we loved dearly and we are also honoring the family's way of grieving. However, we'd like to light the Menorah we recently purchased in his memory this Dec 2nd. With much respect ...
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What should one do if he're not sure he counts toward the minyan?
Ploni is a convert or descendant of a female convert from denomination A. He wishes to join a minyan of denomination B, which is stricter. He is not sure whether the congregation considers the ...
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How are we supposed to interpret "Derech eretz kadma l'Torah"?
I'm having a lot of trouble understanding how we should interpret the pseudo-midrash "דרך ארץ קדמה לתורה", ~~ "Derech eretz should come before Torah."
The actual text of the ...
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Is there a problem of גניבת דעת (deception) when one is served a food and he dislikes the taste, and he says "This tastes delicious!"?
Is there a problem of גניבת דעת (deception) when one is served a food and he dislikes the taste, and he says "This tastes delicious!"?
Although there is no absolute delicious, and to someone else it ...
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Is there any rabbinical precedent, ancient or recent, to tell somebody that they are Jewish?
Is there any rabbinical precedent, ancient or recent, to tell somebody (for any reason) that they are Jewish (if such a person is unaware and does indeed have matrilineal Jewish descent)?
Scenarios ...
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For the Sake of an Argument?
In the Mishna, Miqvaos 7:1, Rabbi Akiva quotes Rabbi Ishmael as having declared that snow does not count towards the completion of a mikva, but the people of Meibeba then testify that Rabbi Ishmael ...
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Title to use when addressing a rav
When speaking to the rav of a community, what title should one use? "Hello, Rabbi X" would surely be acceptable for someone with regular semicha, but perhaps not for a person who is referred to as "...
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Mipne'i Sevah Taqum for potential Jew killer
There is a Biblical commandment to stand before the wise or elderly. Nevertheless, one full of sins is considered to have forfeited his honor and one is therefore absolved of the requirement to stand ...
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"Anyone who saves a life is as if he saved an entire world": Jewish life or any life?
I am puzzled by the Mishnah's original text of the famous Jewish idea that "whoever saves one life [...] saves an entire world" (Sanhedrin 4:5). The English from sefaria.org reads thus:
"It was for ...
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why shuckel when davening? [duplicate]
When we are davening we are speaking to Hashem, Malchei Hamlachim. How is it appropriate to shuckel and/or swing ones hands? One is executed for motioning in front of the King.
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Star of David necklace [duplicate]
My mother went to Israel and just came back. She's Catholic and went to Israel to see the Holy Land. She came back and gave me a star of David. She said it was blessed. I am Catholic myself and ...
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If I have behaved badly, should I hide the fact that I'm Jewish?
If, G-d forbid, a Jew should behave badly in public (anything from simply doing something quite embarrassing, to being rude, to making a scene/causing a disturbance, to actually [ch"v] committing a ...
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How do I refuse nonreligious guest's salad?
I invited a non-religious guest over for a meal. I insisted that they don't need to bring any food with them. But they said they're going to bring a salad. I told them it isn't necessary but they ...
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Is it acceptable to make someone feel uncomfortable because they have inadvertently done something that you consider undesirable?
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This question was inspired by the comments (now deleted) under another question.
My sister in Williamsburg Brooklyn noticed that Orthodox male strangers were glaring at her for unknown ...
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Washing for bread at work: how to avoid interruptions
I occasionally bring a sandwich to eat for lunch at work. The company has a small kitchen where I go to wash my hands, and then I generally eat at my desk. Whenever I have bread, I always try to wait ...
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Is it permissible to cheat at board games?
Board games have absolutely no value - there is nothing won and nothing lost.
In such a situation is it permissible according to halakhah to cheat?
I am asking, not to find a reason to be deceitful ...
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Is it permitted to eat boogers?
I apologize for the question. but is it permitted to eat ones boogers?
possibility of blood? is it Baal Teshakzu? totally permitted similar to nail biting?
and would it be forbidden on shabbos?
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When one is home alone, does the Torah discourage the eating of bizarre food mixtures?
Note: If you're going to be eating a meal soon, you might not want to read this question, and you (especially) might not want to click through to the "Secretive food concocting" Wikipedia article. Why?...
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Photography of synagogues on Shabbat?
Recently, I was on vacation in Asia, and was walking through a district on a Saturday afternoon. I noticed that there was a synagogue in the area, which appeared to have some architectural features ...