Questions relating to children vis à vis their parents in Jewish law or Jewish thought. Also questions relating to parenting approaches and advice in Jewish thought.

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Is there no such sin as a wayward daughter? If so, why not?

The mitzvot and sins are not equal in their distribution. Some are only applicable to men, some to women, some to Kohanim, to Kings, etc. In the case of a wayward (or rebellious) son who is described ...
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Name two kids the same name?

Is one allowed to name two of his children (of the same sex) by the same name, so that the entire Jewish name of one child is the same as that of the other? I have never heard of any prohibition. On ...
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Promised to name son Shimon - now husband is Shimon?

A woman who desperately wanted to get married traveled to Meron, the burial place of Rebbi Shimon bar Yochai, and vowed that if she found her match, she would name her first son Shimon in his merit. ...
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Matrilineal Descent

I have heard that matrilineal descent (i.e. having Judaism passed down through the mother) comes from the Roman period when women were raped by Roman soldiers and the babies were then said to be ...
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Paternity of Peretz, with regards to Yehudah's act of “Yibbum”

In Parshat Vayeishev, the Torah records the lineage of Yehudah. Er, his eldest, is married to Tamar and then dies without offspring. The same occurs with Onan. Yehudah then has children with Tamar ...
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What does it mean for atheists to raise their children 'Jewish'?

I was reading the book Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mom by Amy Chua. In this book she mention that her Jewish husband is not religious in the slightest but still when they got married insisted that the ...
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Child from the relations Yael had with Sisra

According to Shoftim 5:27, per the explanation found in Yevamos 103a (in the name of רבי יוחנן), Yael had relations with Sisra. אמר רבי יוחנן שבע בעילות בעל אותו רשע באותו היום שנאמר בין רגליה ...
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How do I explain my heritage to my son? (as someone who has left Judaism at a young age)

My mother was raised as Jewish, and I was given a Bris as a child and was exposed to some culture in the form of songs and food and celebrating Jewish holidays (mainly at home or with my more ...
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Religiously sensitive guidance on when to tell your child about human reproduction

A boy in cheder who has no internet at home, no tv, etc, is not exposed to human reproduction in the way that others are. It's therefore up to the parents to explain to him how children are born. ...
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Are there any sources that prohibit childhood vaccinations?

The consequences of depressed childhood vaccination rates in some American communities, in the form of a building measles outbreak, have been in the news lately. All public schools and most private ...
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Does baby toothpaste need a hashgacha?

According to Rav Yisrael Belsky (and based on the reasoning of Rav Yaakov Kaminetsky) toothpaste which contains non-kosher ingredients (such as animal-derived glycerin) is only kosher when the ...
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Books or Shiurim on practical divorce law/practice

What books (seforim) or lectures (Shiurim) (audio/video recordings) have practical "get" information? — not only how it is written and given but also how the estate (money (ketuba) and children) ...
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If your parent changes their name, does your name change too?

Imagine your parent changes his or her (Hebrew) name--either by converting to Judaism and getting a name, by taking on a second name, or simply changing his/her name for whatever reason. (Not sure ...
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Can a parent “victim” forgive a child due the death penalty?

There are two capital offences against parents: cursing a parent or striking a parent (and causing an injury). If someone did this in front of 2 witnesses with a warning etc. so they were due the ...
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Why two genders?

Why did G-d make it that all animals need both genders to procreate? Couldn't He just make one kind of animal per species and give it the ability to produce children on its own?
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Why did David ask Uriah to go back to Betsheba?

David had relations with Bathsheba. Bathsheba got pregnant. David then told Uriah to return to Bathsheba. Uriah refused and latter David technically lawfully kill Uriah. See II Samuel 11. A rabbi ...
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Can a Zerah Yisrael that converts use his father's Hebrew name for aliyot?

If boy was born to a Jewish father and a non-Jewish mother and later converted in his life, would he obliged to call himself "ben Avraham" when called up for an aliyah, or would he be allowed to take ...
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Children saying Divrei torah at the Pesach seider [duplicate]

Are there any Gedolim who oppose the concept of children saying Divrei torah to their parents at the Pesach Seider?
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Can one adopt a non-Jewish child and not convert him/her?

Take this hypothetical situation: A Jewish couple which has fulfilled the requirements of peru urevu wants to adopt an additional child but (perhaps due to the immense cost of Jewish day school) does ...
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Should one make a bracha on food if only a child is eating?

I think it is common to make a bracha (blessing) when giving a small child food so that they learn the common brachot and learn to say "amen". Is this appropriate to do if you are not eating the food ...
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Parents teaching children or children teaching parents?

Regarding והגדת לבנך, and you shall tell to your children (Shemos 13:8), on Pesach night: 1) What is the mitzvah of והגדת לבנך and how does one fulfill it according to halacha? 2a) Why do yeshivos ...
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Mother was adopted into Jewish family and raised Jewish, and she raised me as a Jew… Will my children be Jewish? [duplicate]

My mother was adopted, raised as a reform Jew and became Bat Mitzvah, continued with her Jewish studies through Confirmation...but I do recall her finding out one day that her parents never officially ...
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What is the parent's role in Jewish tradition on the matter of raising a child? [closed]

The Jews are known to have a culture that places great emphasis on learning and scholarship, and the children are taught to value learning and read books since young. In this regard the Jews are quite ...
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What is the prayer uttered by Michael Ginberg's dad in Mad Men?

In the second last scene of episode 5x03 of Mad Men, Michael Ginsberg (one of the Jewish characters on the show) comes back home from the grocer's to be greeted by his dad. The latter encourages ...
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Daddy, is this story true?

My daughter was reading a parsha book and came across a certain medrash which seemed unbelievable prompting her to ask me 'daddy, is this story real?' Being that she is only nine I took the cheap way ...
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Is a convert obliged to honor his parents?

Is a convert obliged to honor his parents? I understand that a convert loses all halakhic relationship to his parents upon being "reborn." Therefore, does the mitzvah of kibud av va'eim still apply?
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Why only ten? Why not all of Haman's children?

According to the Gemara Megila 15b Haman had 208 children. Why did they only hang 10 of them?
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How to teach the Purim story to children?

As a parent raising a small child, I find it difficult explaining the story of Megillat Esther. Are there any methods (rabbinic precedence or otherwise) of explaining to a young child the violent ...
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Recomendation for Good Books To Read to a 2-Year-Old Child

Any recommendations on books I can read with my 2 year old to help introduce her to Torah or other Judaism concepts? She can't read, but she copies everything I say and shows me things so I think ...
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Questions on Breshit 50:8 - Who went to Ya'akov's funeral?

Breishit 50:8 lists regarding who went to Ya'akov's funeral and all the house of Joseph, and his brethren, and his father's house; only their little ones, and their flocks, and their herds, they ...
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what is the mother's obligation to raise children (if she is not obligated to educate (chinuch) them)

igres moshe 4.49 כי סתם נשים בעולם אינם עשירות ועליהן מוטל גידול הילדים והילדות translation from link the average woman is not wealthy and has responsibility to raise sons and daughters. ...
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Eating in a non-kosher household [duplicate]

I am a converted Jew (mother is not Jewish, father is) who has recently began keeping Kosher. My mother is an excellent cook, and I greatly enjoyed eating what she made growing up. I still would like ...
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Must a couple get divorced if they have no children after 10 years?

I recall learning, but am unsure of the source, that a couple who has been married for 10 years but has no children either should get divorced. What is the source and reason for this? Is it an ...
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Is “peru eruvu” a mitzva that means to specifically include a male and female child?

There is a commandment of "Peru urevu," which can be fulfilled (or the person made exempt) by having "two children." Does that mean that one must have a male and female child, or is it any 2+ number ...
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Requirement to Divorce an Infertile Wife or Marry a Second Wife

In the Mishneh Torah הלכות אישות פרק טו, ב Rambam requires a man to who hasn't had a male and female child and whose wife has not given birth for ten years since their marriage to either take a second ...
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What side is a newborn supposed to nurse from first?

I have heard that there is a gemara that discusses what side a newborn is supposed to breastfeed from first. If this is true, where is this gemara and what's the idea behind it?
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Why was Pharaoh displeased?

In Parshas Mikeitz (Beraishis 41), Pharaoh receives an interpretation for this two dreams from necromancers. Rashi (41:8) says that they told Pharaoh that “You will beget seven daughters, and you will ...
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Do women need to cover their hair if they have had children without being married?

Do women need to cover their hair if they have had children without being married? Some explanations for hair covering relate it to modesty in light of the supposed attractive power of hair, which ...
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How do you explain tzniut to a little girl?

Some Jewish schools have attire guidelines starting in first grade. What is the best way to explain the concept of tzniut to a very young (say first grade) girl without explaining sexuality? Please ...
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Should one reprimand a child if the parent might be embarrassed?

I was at shul on Sunday, not during a service, but during a meeting. A parent and child were sitting in front of me. The small child's legs were far too short to reach the floor, and her feet were ...
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Covering eyes when saying Shema for children

When a child is too young to say the bed-time Shema for himself, the custom is that parents say it for them as they go to bed. Should the parent cover their own eyes, the child's eyes, or perhaps ...
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Explaining to children why we don't celebrate Halloween

Without delving into the Pagan origins of Halloween (or even discussing it altogether - as it may not be allowed l'halocho), how would you encourage Jewish children who've celebrated Halloween in the ...
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Woman Bringing their little girls to shul

The Birkei Yosef states (regarding bringing children to shul) that “It’s prohibited [for a father] to sit his young child in front of him during tefillah [davening].” (Mishnah Berurah 96:4) Why does ...
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Explaining Providence and Prayer to Children

When a young child is sick or in pain, and they say something like, "I prayed to HaShem to make it better but he didn't do anything" what's a good way to answer that kind of question?
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Shul, Children and Chinuch

Someone once told me parents should not bring their children (i.e. that are below chinuch – they are not capable of being quiet on their own) to shul if they are going to disturb. It is also better ...
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Can one carry a child outside an eruv on Shabbat?

If one is on a walk on Shabbat with a small child in an area without an eruv, and the child gets tired, is one allowed to carry the child? For the purpose of answering this question, assume that the ...
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Ayin hora - evil eye

I have observed a Phenomenon among older Eurpoean Jewry ( i.e. Yiddishe mammes and bubbes) not to display pictures of their children or grandchildren ( eineklach) in open areas for fear of ayin hora. ...
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What options are there for chanukiah lighting in southern latitudes?

What options are there for lighting chanukiyot in southern latitudes where younger children will be going to bed well before sunset? Adults may stay up for lighting chanukiyot but what options are ...
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Is it permissible to name one's child with a name from the opposite gender?

Is a person allowed to name a boy with a girl's name and vice versa? I remember seeing that one musn't, although in Nach one finds these things a lot. I understand it is not best practice for ...