Questions relating to children vis à vis their parents in Jewish law or Jewish thought. Also questions relating to parenting approaches and advice in Jewish thought.

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Should a torah scholar be cruel to his family?

Eiruvin(21b-22a): His locks are curled (Shir HaShirm 5:11). Mar Ukva says that teaches us that we are to make many interpretations on every point of the letters of the Torah. black as a raven – With ...
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Should one say amen to an unnecessary bracha made by a child on the autism spectrum?

If a very verbal (often too verbal) 12 year old child on the autism spectrum has trouble speaking appropriately and particularly likes to say a bracha when he wants to and not necessarily when it's ...
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Tehillim for success in child-rearing

I have often been given the parenting advice, in addition to everything else done to care for and teach a child, to pray for the successful raising of the child to be righteous. As Tehillim is often ...
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Can a Zerah Yisrael that converts use his father's Hebrew name for aliyot?

If boy was born to a Jewish father and a non-Jewish mother and later converted in his life, would he obliged to call himself "ben Avraham" when called up for an aliyah, or would he be allowed to take ...
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Consistency vs. Forgiveness

Both as a responsible parent and as a Jew, I want to be consistent with my children. As a parent, in order to teach them that the rules are the rules and give them a sense of predictability to rely ...
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How should parents divide wedding expenses with their child's future in-laws

Today there are many different practices that have been "adopted" (not formally though) among the various Jewish communities on how the parents of an engaged couple divide up the expenses of the ...
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Shehecheyanu at a Graduation

I recently attended a college graduation, and one of the parents decided to recite shehecheyanu to celebrate the occasion. I have never heard of someone doing this -- is there any basis for saying it? ...
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Did Mordechai have children?

Megillas Esther ends by saying: וְדֹבֵר שָׁלוֹם לְכָל־זַרְעוֹ - and speaking peace to all his seed. I realize Rashi applies this to the previous clause, of all the nation, but perhaps there are ...
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What does the Bible say about a father walking his daughter down the aisle at her wedding?

I believe a father's walking his daughter down the aisle at her wedding came about as a Jewish tradition. If so, why is this done and what does it symbolize? Is it a biblical tradition? What is the ...
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paying for an apartment

I recently came across an article describing the situation in Israel where in order to finalize an engagement, the parents have to pay for an entire apartment (not just a down payment, the whole ...
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What does it mean for atheists to raise their children 'Jewish'?

I was reading the book Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mom by Amy Chua. In this book she mention that her Jewish husband is not religious in the slightest but still when they got married insisted that the ...
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Named a male by mistake with a female name

Suppose a person's wife goes to the hospital to give birth and the husband remained home with the rest of the children. They made up that the nurse will call and let the phone ring once if it is a boy ...
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Godparents in Judaism

Does Judaism have any tradition resembling the Christian practice of assigning godparents? Godparents are a man and a woman entrusted by the birth parents to take care of their child spiritually and ...
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Why only ten? Why not all of Haman's children?

According to the Gemara Megila 15b Haman had 208 children. Why did they only hang 10 of them?
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Encouraging a young boy to wear his yarmulke

I imagine this is a common issue. Parents decide that it is time for their son to start wearing a yarmulke. He, being in the range of 2-4, doesn't recognize the value of having something on his head ...
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Aveilus for an adoptive parent

Are there any dinim of aveilus for a child that was adopted when his adoptive parents pass away? Are there any poskim that spoke about this?
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Why are children from a gentile wife not considered Jewish with a Jewish father?

Why are children who have a Jewish Father and gentile mother not considered Jewish?
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Tribe of the son of a Kohen and a convert

Kohanim are not allowed to marry a convert. However, if such a case happens (where there is a fully valid conversion), what is the status of the child? On one hand, they would be chalal, but would ...
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Is a father empowered to truly give ownership of something to his young child?

I know that a child's things really belong to his father (although help with a source would be appreciated). However, the same is generally true of a wife's property/income belonging to her husband, ...
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Why does “ateres roshi” mean “my parent”?

The phrase "עטרת ראשי" (ateres roshi == my head's crown) appears in many Hebrew texts to refer to respectable individuals. I heard in a shi'ur recently that it specifically refers to the father of the ...
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Is there no such sin as a wayward daughter? If so, why not?

The mitzvot and sins are not equal in their distribution. Some are only applicable to men, some to women, some to Kohanim, to Kings, etc. In the case of a wayward (or rebellious) son who is described ...
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Must a Reform convert raise prior children Jewish?

I am contemplating joining a Reform synagogue up the street from where I live. I have been once before and would like to start attending though I'm not sure yet about conversion. I am agnostic but ...
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Did Yitzchak not Fulfill the Mitzvah of “Be Fruitful and Multiply”?

According to the understanding of many commentators "pru u'revu" (be fruitful and multiply) is a positive commandment which is not fulfilled unless a man has both a son and daughter as offspring. ...
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How did a virgin decide upon her marriage in Israel 2000 years ago?

About 2000 years ago in Israel, was a virgin free to choose her future husband (or even to decide whether to marry or not marry at all) or she was absolutely submitted to the will of her father?
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Halakhot of raising babies

I don't think I've ever encountered halakhot that pertain to interacting with newborns, but as any new parent knows, such interactions take up a great deal of one's time, during the day, at night, ...
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Marriage of a Cohen to a woman with a non-Jewish father: Are the sons Cohanim?

Asking because it is not answered here: If, as suggested in the linked question, a Cohen may b'dieved (but not l'chatchila) marry a woman whose father is a non-Jew, will the sons from such a marriage ...
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Eating in a non-kosher household [duplicate]

I am a converted Jew (mother is not Jewish, father is) who has recently began keeping Kosher. My mother is an excellent cook, and I greatly enjoyed eating what she made growing up. I still would like ...
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Why is the son of אסנ״ת משגע״ח called a sinner?

The Bavli, N'darim 20:2, reads: וברותי מכם המורדים והפושעים בי אמר רבי לוי אלו בני תשע מדות בני אסנ״ת משגע״ח בני אימה בני אנוסה בני שנואה בני נידוי בני תמורה בני מריבה בני שכרות בני גרושת הלב בני ...
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Why two genders?

Why did G-d make it that all animals need both genders to procreate? Couldn't He just make one kind of animal per species and give it the ability to produce children on its own?
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Questions on Breshit 50:8 - Who went to Ya'akov's funeral?

Breishit 50:8 lists regarding who went to Ya'akov's funeral and all the house of Joseph, and his brethren, and his father's house; only their little ones, and their flocks, and their herds, they ...
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Are there any sources for parents respecting children

BSD Are there any sources in any Torah literature of the importance of a parent respecting their child. I am referring to a parent understanding their child. For example a parent not caring about his ...
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Living a sheltered lifestyle

I often hear the argument that living a 'sheltered life' could be considered to be statistically justified i.e. the likelihood of your children 'veering from the correct' path is lower. By ...
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What teshuvot address educating children on inappropriate touch? [closed]

A friend of a non-observant family shared a story which inspired this question. Two cousins were playing together. The boy was about 7 years old. The girl was about 3 years old. Early on, the mother ...
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How could Yaakov make Menashe and Efraim like his sons?

We find in the last part of Bereshit that, just before Yaacov Avinu passed away, he blessed Yosef sons and made them his sons. How do we understand that a grandson becomes a son? Can we apply it in ...
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Children's “Little Gemarah”?

My family enjoys this English language Little Midrash series. Does something like an English language 'Little Gemarah' (ie introduces reasoning logic) exist for children 6-12 years old?
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Sources for supporting a married couple

The way I understand, it has become common in recent times for the parents of the girl, to offer a monthly stipend for a period of time after marriage. Is there a source for doing this?
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Is it permissible to create a prenuptial agreement regarding nonmonetary issues?

Is it permissible to create a prenuptial agreement that includes clauses about things other than money? For example, it is common in the United States for a marrying couple to come to an agreement ...
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Are you yoitze the Mitzva of Pirya Verivya with children born out of wedlock

I know there is a machlokes Rishonim (rambam / Rosh) if Kedushin is a Mitzva or Hecsher Mitzva for Pirya Verivya. Say one has children out of wedlock, is that Mitzva fulfilled or do we say its a ...
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Yitzchok falls for Eisav's tricks?

The Posuk says: ויהי עשיו איש יודע ציד וגו' (בראשית כה, כז)‏ Translated as: ... and Eisav was a man who knew how to hunt ... Rashi comments: יודע ציד, לצוד ולרמות את אביו בפיו ...
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What is the prayer uttered by Michael Ginberg's dad in Mad Men?

In the second last scene of episode 5x03 of Mad Men, Michael Ginsberg (one of the Jewish characters on the show) comes back home from the grocer's to be greeted by his dad. The latter encourages ...
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How to teach the Purim story to children?

As a parent raising a small child, I find it difficult explaining the story of Megillat Esther. Are there any methods (rabbinic precedence or otherwise) of explaining to a young child the violent ...
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Is the child of a convert, conceived after she converted, Jewish?

If a woman converted before she conceived any children are they considered Jewish? Even with a non-Jewish father? I understand that non-Jewish mothers with Jewish husbands do not have Jewish children ...
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Why did David ask Uriah to go back to Betsheba?

David had relations with Bathsheba. Bathsheba got pregnant. David then told Uriah to return to Bathsheba. Uriah refused and latter David technically lawfully kill Uriah. See II Samuel 11. A rabbi ...
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Do women need to cover their hair if they have had children without being married?

Do women need to cover their hair if they have had children without being married? Some explanations for hair covering relate it to modesty in light of the supposed attractive power of hair, which ...
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Can one carry a child outside an eruv on Shabbat?

If one is on a walk on Shabbat with a small child in an area without an eruv, and the child gets tired, is one allowed to carry the child? For the purpose of answering this question, assume that the ...
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Father's Obligations to Children

What are a father's obligations or responsibilities to his children? Is there any guidance on what happens to those obligations or responsibilities after a divorce? Is there any guidance on what a ...
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When an adopted child is called to the torah, how are they named?

When an adopted child is called up for an aliyah, how are they referred to? Are they called ben-(adopted parents' name) or something else? Are there any qualifiers involved? I'm given to understand ...
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Why don't we salt newborns, per Ezekiel?

If* salting newborns is a good thing, why don't we do it anymore? This is not a "Why don't we follow the Sages' medical advice?" question. If, in fact, Ezekiel 16:4 is emphasizing how neglected we ...
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Bonim Talmidei Chachamim

The Gemara is Shabbos(Chuf gimel amud beis) says: Haragil Bner Havin Lei Bonim Talmiday Chachamim (very loosely translated) A person who is studious with the mitzvah of lighting will have children ...
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What is mandatory for the second seder?

I have tried looking up the answer to this question, I hope someone here can give me an answer! My mother-in-law had heard somewhere that because the second seder outside Israel is of rabbinic ...