Questions tagged [bein-adam-lachavero]
Anything and everything related to Judaism's approach to dealing with other human beings.
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Rabbi Akiva's students died because lack of respect, but he said Veahavta Lireacha Kamocha is Klal Gadol?
שנים עשר אלף זוגים תלמידים היו לו לרבי עקיבא ... וכולן מתו ... מפני שלא נהגו כבוד זה לזה
Rabbi Akiva had twelve thousand pairs of students ... and they all died... because they did not treat each ...
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Public Shaming: Cardinal Sin?
Is publicly shaming someone a cardinal sin (a sin which one must die rather than perform), as per the Talmudic statement that it is better to die than to publicly shame someone (Berakhot (43b), Bava ...
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Does Judaism consider women inferior?
According to Orthodox Judaism, women may not be rabbis, be counted as part of a minyan, leyn from the Torah, or study the Talmud. It even says that to teach a woman Torah is to teach her obscenity! (...
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Marital Prenups
In 1993 Rabbi Mordechai Willig, a Rosh Yeshiva at YU and a member of the Beth Din of America, drafted a prenup for use at Jewish weddings to avoid future Aguna/Mesorevet Get problems. The agreement ...
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embarassing an anonymous person online
There is a prohibition to embarass other people (Sanhedrin 99a).
Does this apply also to anonymous online people despite that nobody knows their identity and therefore they should not feel embarassed ...
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Did people ever place actual physical stumbling blocks before the blind?
I know that the prohibition against placing stumbling blocks before the blind has been understood to be a prohibition against misleading or causing people to sin, but the simple meaning of the text is ...
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How to explain to friends/family that one will not attend an intermarriage
Suppose a friend or family member becomes engaged to a non-Jew. For the sake of this question, also assume that a trusted rabbi has been consulted and he has ruled (after considering any relevant ...
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Scrutinising the legitimacy/cause of a charity collector
In many synagogues that I frequent charity collectors come round collecting money for themselves, families or other causes. They often have a certificate declaring the legitimacy of their cause (...
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Minimum Requirement of Love your Neighbor
What is the minimum requirement to not be transgressing the mitzva of "ואהבת לריעך כמוך" "love your fellow as yourself" (Lev. 19:18)?
For example, must one actively try to love others or it is enough ...
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American Idol and HaMalbin Pnei Ḥavero BeRabim
(Inspired by this question)
Is watching televised talent shows, such as "American Idol", which are known to invite contestants to embarrass themselves in front of millions, and even have judges whose ...
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Source for "Ben Adam Lemakom" and "Ben Adam Lechavero"
Where does the concept of Ben Adam Lemakom and Ben Adam Lechavero come from?
I know there is a concept of the first five of the ten commandments being between 'man and his friend' and the second ...
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Olam Haba depends on how you treat your wife
I have heard in the name of Rabbi Chaim Vital that one's olam haba depends largely on how he treated his wife.
anyone know the source (if any) of this statement and what is the logic behind it.
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Keeping your own community's dinim vs. yuhara
My chosen community--like every community, I suppose--has its own body of distinctive minhagim, horaos, chumras, hiddurim, and normative halachas. All, including the hiddurim, are observed with a high ...
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Can one publicize a poor experience with a service provider to discourage others from using him?
Trigger situation for this question: someone asked for a doctor recommendation on a WhatsApp group with 200+ members. When a particular doctor was mentioned, one of the members wrote he had a bad ...
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What are the sources that a husband may beat his wife?
What are the sources, even those that are rejected in the final halachic analysis, that encourage or allow a husband to physically abuse his wife?
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How does Hillel's answer summarize the whole Torah?
In Shabbos 31a, Hillel addresses a potential convert who asks him to summarize the whole Torah, and he says, "What is hateful to you, do not do to others."
This is a nice d'var Torah, but it seems to ...
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How to avoid helping someone sin?
Are there any tips anyone would care to provide to help one avoid (or get out of) a workplace situation in which one has been asked to assist someone do something that violates Halachah?
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Source that those without a genuine need soliciting charity is a good thing
Judaism 101 says (and I have heard it many times):
Judaism acknowledges that many people who ask for charity have no genuine need. In fact, the Talmud suggests that this is a good thing: if all ...
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Sarah's treatment of Hagar and Ishmael
How could Sarah's treatment of Hagar and Ishmael be considered righteous? I intend this as a sincere and serious question. While Hagar was pregnant, Sarah "prevent[ed] her intercourse with Abraham, ...
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Saying Baruch Dayan HaEmeth when you don't know the person
Is it appropriate to say "Baruch Dayan HaEmeth" when you hear of sad news about a person you don't know, or a person you have corresponded with but haven't met?
Does it make a difference if you've ...
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when is shushing in a shul permited, when forbiden and when obligated
In my shul there is someone who shushes people that talk.
He believes that he is obligated to do this.
I understand that there is a prohibition against embarrassing people publicly and that sometimes ...
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Believing 'evil tongue' during elections
On Tuesday, there are municipal elecions here in Israel, and some of the candidates are accusing their competitors of corruption. I am not in a position to check these accusations — I am neither ...
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Source for ויראת מאלקיך because of loss of money
HaKesav VeHaKabbalah (Deuteronomy 10:12) writes:
והנה מצאנו בחמשה מקומות שדברה תורה ממצות שבין אדם לחברו שסיימה בהם ויראת מאלהיך, כמו אל תקלל חרש ויראת מאלהיך, מפני שיבה תקום ויראת מאלהיך, ולא תונו ...
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What is an outsider's obligation if abuse is suspected?
What obligation does an outsider (non-family member) have if she or he suspects that there is abuse in another family? Does it matter if the abused party denies the allegation? What if the abused ...
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Do we stand up for a man or the Torah he learned?
The halacha (SA YD 244:1) is that one should stand up out of respect for a talmid chacham.
I remember hearing a comment (possibly in the name of the Brisker Rov) that one is really standing up for ...
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How to reconcile? I must eradicate the memory of Amalek but I must help the ass of the one who hates me.
It’s Parshas Zochor (Dvarim 25) this Shabbos. “There is a mitzvah in the Torah to remember Amalek and his descendants and to orally recall their iniquity. We are to tell our children in each ...
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What to say to someone on a yahrzeit
Is there a standard expression used to greet or comfort those who are celebrating an anniversary of mourning? (...and why is it said?)
Even if not, what should one say? (...and why?)
We should merit ...
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Definition and origin of the division between interpersonal and God-related Mitzvot
"...for transgressions between a person and God, Yom Kippur atones; however, for transgressions between a person and another, Yom Kippur does not atone until he appeases the other person." ...
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Rebuking someone for something that is not an aveira
Many sources suggest we rebuke so as not to bear a grudge (lo titor). But the Midrash and several meforshim (discussed here) suggest that the main purpose of rebuke is to keep one's fellow, and ...
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Rebuking someone for an old wrongdoing
Let's say someone did something wrong in the past--either an aveira or something that was personally harmful. Should you/must you rebuke them for their old mistake
...if you bear a grudge against ...
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If one wishes to take on chumrot, or segulot, or mystical practices, to what extent is one allowed to negatively impact others to do so?
I have two examples. This starts with an answer from a recent question I asked, where it was mentioned that the Rosh was careful to wash last so that he shouldn't avoid talking or waiting between ...
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Are Hillel and R. Akiva saying the same thing?
Shabbat 31a:
אמר לו דעלך סני לחברך לא תעביד זו היא כל התורה כולה ואידך פירושה הוא זיל גמור
[Hillel] said to him: "That which is hateful to you do not do to another; that is the entire Torah, ...
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Is Offending Jews forbidden?
I heard that it is forbidden to offend Jews
Is this true?
And until what level, (how much should we need to know what offends people (it is in their head))?
If yes, Is it forbidden to ...
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