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Bat mitzvah gift from non-Jew

Would it be offensive for my daughter to give her friend a Star of David necklace for her Bat Mitzvah? We are not Jewish but my daughter wants to recognize her friend in a meaningful way. Thank you.
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Chabad custom not to have bar mitzva aliya shabbat morning

According to this question, the Annotated Tehillat Hashem Siddur (a Chabad siddur) encourages the Bar mitzvah boy to get his first aliya on Monday, Thursday, or Shabbat Mincha or Rosh Chodesh. This ...
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If one makes a party for Bar Mitzvah during the 9 Days, can he serve meat?

As I understand, there is no mitzvah to make a se'udah for a Bar Mitzvah, unlike what occurs for a Brit, Pidyon Haben, Wedding or Siyum Masechta. Assuming that there is no siyum done, can a person ...
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Happiness for a Bar Mitzvah

I heard in the name of the Chasam Sofer that the first mitzvah of a bar mitzvah boy is that of simcha (happiness). Does anyone know where I could find the original source of this? I searched Google ...
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Is having a Bat Mitzvah girl recite a section from Ketuvim in a shul a problem of Kol Isha?

A shul that I have gone to has a custom that the Bat Mitzvah girl recites a section from Ketuvim (usually from Divrei Hayamim or Nechemia) in front of the congregation (men and women are there). She, ...
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When a Bar Mitzvah boy says “Y'chalelu et Shem Hashem” instead of “Y'Halelu”, should someone correct him?

Perhaps, the title of my question sounds amusing, but I see this happen in my shul a bit too often for me to laugh at it any more. Many of the Bar Mitzvah boys in my shul can barely read Hebrew. but, ...
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What is this medallion?

This was given to me on my bat mitzvah several years ago, and I have no idea what it's about. Can you please explain/translate what this is? Does it have an official name? I'd like to read more about ...
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Putting on Tefilin one month before Bar Mitzva

Rabbi Shimon Eider Zatzal brings in his Sefer that the Minhag is to put on Tefilin from one to three months before the Bar Mitzva. To the best of knowledge there are three different schools of ...
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Where does the custom of a second “bar mitzvah” at 83 come from?

I have noticed more 83 year old men celebrating their second bar mitzvahs, and cannot find any source for this. Is it a new custom? Does it have any basis in pre-20th century practice?
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Is it okay to skip a bar mitzvah?

In the popular TV show Arthur, there is an episode wherein Francine Frensky, the Jewish girl, faces a tough dilemma - going to her cousin's bar mitzvah or helping her team win a game. Alan (aka "The ...
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Bar Mitzvah and reading curses (tochicha)

Should a Bar Mitzvah--who is reading the rest of the parsha-- read the curses (tochicha) in Ki Tavo? I have heard of some traditions that suggest someone else should read it, but I'm beginning to ...
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Counting years according to the solar calendar

I once heard there is an opinion in Rishonim (maybe Gaonim?) that says we count ones years of life according to the solar calender. So for example a boy would become bar mitzvah when he would turn 13 ...
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Realistic expectations at bar mitzvah age

Being a high school teacher I am interested in better understanding what is realistically expected of boys of the age of bar mitzvah in this day and age. Is, for instance, the non attendance to ...
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If the yetzer tov enters the body at bar mitzvah, how do we have well-behaved minors?

There's a notion that the yetzer tov enters the body at the age of bar mitzvah. If this is so how do we see children that behave properly and act kindly towards others?
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Communities that celebrate menarche

Are there traditional communities that have rituals celebrating (or otherwise marking the occurrence of) a girl's first menses? If so, what do those rituals look like? (For purposes here, let's ...
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Only Yetzer Hara until age 13

The Alshich on Ki Tetze teaches that until the age of 13 a person has only an evil inclination. The good inclination comes only at Bar Mitzva. Hence, the yetzer hara is likened to an old seasoned ...
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What is the source for a Bar Mitzva seuda?

What sources are there for our minhag of doing a Bar Mitzva Seuda (meal), and do the sources state that the seuda must specifically be done on the day of the Bar Mitzva (or the night of)? And is this ...
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Bar Mitzvah candle-lighting?

I was recently invited to a bar mitzvah celebration and mention was made of a “candle lighting ceremony”. I’d never heard of such a thing, and Google turns up pretty vague references. Which segments ...
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what's the source for Bar Mitzvah being at 13?

How do we know that a person is not obligated in Mitzvos before the age of 13, and is obligated from that point forward?
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How does a recent bar mitzva “complete the weekly portion with the community”

When a person becomes bar mitva during the year, 98% of the time the community has already read 1 or even 50 weekly portions. Does the bar mitzva need to make up those portions? Would it matter if ...
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Why not focus on halacha in elementary education?

From the Mishna B'rura's introduction to the rules of Shabas: …But by what means can we arrive at this level: that one keeps Shabas in all its details? The advice on this is that one urge himself ...
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Bar Mitzvah before Circumcision?

If one was never circumcised can they be called up to the Torah for their bar-mitzvah?
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Bar Mitzva boy taking haircut in Sefira

If a boy becomes Bar Mitzva during Sefira, may he take a haircut for the Simcha - similar to a Bris where the father is allowed to take a haircut in Sefira?
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Saying Baruch Shepatrani for a girl

Do you say Boruch Shepatrani for a girl at her Bas Mitzva? If not, why not?
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Rabbi Shlomo Zalman said Baruch Shepetarani with Shem UMalchut?

I heard a story about Rabbi Shlomo Zalman Auebuch that he said "Baruch Shepetarani" for his son with Shem UMalchut. Does anyone have a source for this story? Usually we only say Baruch ShePetarni ...
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When to get an aliya for a Bar Mitzvah?

According to the new "Annotated Edition" of the Siddur Tehillas Hashem, a Bar Mitzvah bachur should get his first aliya either on Shabbos Mincha time, Monday, Thursday, or Rosh Chodesh. I assume that ...
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Why does a girl become Bat Mitzvah at 12 years old?

We learn that a Bar Mitzvah is at age 13, since it says in Bamidbar 5:6: Tell the children of Israel: When a man (אִישׁ) or woman commits any of the sins against man to act treacherously against ...
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connection of obligation to keep mitzvos and sexual maturity

Does anybody know why a boy is obligated to keep mitzvos after he gains sexual maturity (13 years old)? How is the possibility of fathering children connected to that? Thanks.
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maftir as an honor

A bar mitzva or bridegroom is usually (in congregation I'm familiar with, or, at least, Ashkenazic ones) given maftir. Why is this, considering that it's the lowliest of all the aliyos? (The question ...
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In which month is it impossible to become Bas Mitzva? [closed]

In which month is it impossible to become Bas Mitzva?
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Mitzvot for ketanim?

Are there any mitzvot that kids under bar/bat mitzvah are obligated to keep? (not including for "educational purposes")
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Becoming Bar Mitzva on Chanuka

A boy becomes Bar Mitzva on one of the nights of Chanuka. If he lights the Menorah at the preferred time (appx 15-20 minutes after Shkia to the best of my knowledge) it is not Tzeis HaKochavim yet. ...
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Tefillin under Bar Mitzvah

Common practice is that a boy begins wearing Tefillin when he reaches Bar Mitzvah age, or perhaps a month (or three) prior. While there should be an obligation even earlier (under the rubric of ...
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What bar/bat mitzva present did you actually want/like/use?

In retrospect, what made a good bar/bat mitzva present? What actually got used? Also: for a less-observant Bar/Bat Mitzvah boy/girl, what's a good gift? How do you achieve the right balance of ...
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Is getting an aliyah and Bar-Mitzvah laining needed

Is it needed to get called up to the bimah and, also is it needed for you to lain from the torah on your Bar-Mitzvah?
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renting a simcha hall from a church

Is there a halachic problem with renting a hall that belongs to a church for a bar mitzvah?
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Why does a Bar mitzva boy publicly read from the Torah?

Why do bar mitzva boys publicly read from the Torah for their bar mitzva? Where does the minhag come from?
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Bar Mitzva during S'fira

If someone has his bar mitzva during s'firas haomer and said the bracha every night so far, can he still make a bracha? (I will be asking a Rav for the actual P'sak Halacha)
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Attending non-frum event

Is it permissible to attend a non-frum event, such as a wedding or bar/bat mitzvah of a family member or friend?