When a person attains adult status according to halacha, and becomes obligated in mitzvot. For boys, it is at age 13 ("bar mitzvah"); for girls, age 12 ("bat/bas mitzvah").

learn more… | top users | synonyms (1)

1
vote
1answer
54 views

What's a common blessing given to people at a bar mitzvah?

What is a common blessing given to the bar mitzvah boy when attending his bar mitzvah? What is a common blessing given to the friends and family of the bar mitzvah boy when attending a bar mitzvah?
3
votes
2answers
67 views

who makes brocha by bar mitzva if no dad?

If someone's father passed away, who makes the brocha of baruch shepotrani when he gets his aliya at the torah by his bar mitzva?
0
votes
2answers
29 views

Book suggestion for Bat Mitzva gift [closed]

I am looking for a suggestion for a good Jewish book (english) for a somewhat observant Bat Mitzva girl. Something which will teach her more about Judaism at her level.
1
vote
0answers
21 views

Sources for a Pshetel on the topic a kattan washed and ate a seudah and became a gadol during the seudah [duplicate]

I am trying to work with my son on his Pshetel on the topic: If a 12 year old boy washed for a seudah and during the seduah it became night and now the boy is 13 and is a gadol, may he lead the ...
9
votes
1answer
165 views

Implications of gradual gender change at age 12

In the village of Salinas, Dominican Republic, about 2% of the females (as determined by external genitalia) gradually morph into males at age 12.[​1][​2] If such a child was Jewish and accepted as ...
2
votes
1answer
68 views

Bar mitzvah boy joining a zimun on the night of his bar mitzvah, having started the meal during the day

(This question could probably be made better if someone answers What time does a bar mitzvah come into effect?, but for now i'll just use the earlier or later time, as applicable.) Let's say a boy's ...
9
votes
1answer
385 views

What happens at an Orthodox Bat Mitzvah?

My cousins are Orthodox (black-hat/yeshivish/live in Passaic) and one of them is having a Bat Mitzvah in November. I have never attended an Orthodox Bat Mitzvah, so I don't really know what to expect. ...
5
votes
2answers
214 views

Is tachanun said at a bar mitzvah?

Is tachanun said at a bar mitzvah boy's aliyah latorah that takes place on a day when tachanun is normally said (basically Monday and Thursday)? I've been to a few of these, and seen different cases. ...
1
vote
1answer
87 views

How to explain the start of Parsha Pinchas to bar/bat mitzva kids

How do you go about dealing with the adult nature of the beginning of the Parsha Pinchas to kids aged 12 or 13? Any on-line material you suggest, suitable for kids this young, on that part of the ...
1
vote
0answers
61 views

What time does a bar mitzvah come into effect?

At what halachic time does a boy having his bar mitzvah become chayav b'mitzvot? It seems to me that the most likely times are either shkia or tzeit.
3
votes
1answer
122 views

Attending a Bar Mitzvah at a Reform Synagogue

Do any contemporary Orthodox poskim discuss the matter? What potential problems could arise from attending, or from not attending, if the Bar Mitzvah boy is a close relative?
10
votes
1answer
1k views

Where does the custom of a second “bar mitzvah” at 83 come from?

I have noticed more 83 year old men celebrating their second bar mitzvahs, and cannot find any source for this. Is it a new custom? Does it have any basis in pre-20th century practice?
0
votes
1answer
74 views

If you travel back in time, would you be obligated in Mitzvot?

Let's say time travel is possible, Time-Turner style. You are age 31. You travel back 20 years to when you are 11 years old, before your Bar Mitzvah. At that time period, you were not Chayav ...
3
votes
1answer
517 views

What is this medallion?

This was given to me on my bat mitzvah several years ago, and I have no idea what it's about. Can you please explain/translate what this is? Does it have an official name? I'd like to read more about ...
4
votes
1answer
192 views

When did the bar mitzvah ceremony originate, and when did it take on its current form?

In the extract of David Rosenberg's book An Educated Man that I've looked at out of curiosity, he makes mention of Jesus of Nazareth presumably undertaking bar mitzvah studies and chanting the ...
2
votes
0answers
73 views

Bar Mitzvah Meal Before Becoming 13

Mishne Berura, I believe, writes that a Bar Mitzvah seudah (meal) is conferred the status of a seudas mitzvah if either it is held on the day of the boy's becoming 13 (i.e. his birthday) or, he ...
2
votes
2answers
82 views

Chabad custom not to have bar mitzva aliya shabbat morning

According to this question, the Annotated Tehillat Hashem Siddur (a Chabad siddur) encourages the Bar mitzvah boy to get his first aliya on Monday, Thursday, or Shabbat Mincha or Rosh Chodesh. This ...
4
votes
1answer
130 views

Bar Mitzvah and reading curses (tochicha)

Should a Bar Mitzvah--who is reading the rest of the parsha-- read the curses (tochicha) in Ki Tavo? I have heard of some traditions that suggest someone else should read it, but I'm beginning to ...
5
votes
2answers
201 views

Renting a simcha hall from a church

Is there a halachic problem with renting a hall that belongs to a church for a bar mitzvah?
5
votes
1answer
110 views

Bat mitzvah gift from non-Jew

Would it be offensive for my daughter to give her friend a Star of David necklace for her Bat Mitzvah? We are not Jewish but my daughter wants to recognize her friend in a meaningful way. Thank you.
4
votes
2answers
409 views

If one makes a party for Bar Mitzvah during the 9 Days, can he serve meat?

As I understand, there is no mitzvah to make a se'udah for a Bar Mitzvah, unlike what occurs for a Brit, Pidyon Haben, Wedding or Siyum Masechta. Assuming that there is no siyum done, can a person ...
-2
votes
2answers
231 views

Is it okay to skip a bar mitzvah?

In the popular TV show Arthur, there is an episode wherein Francine Frensky, the Jewish girl, faces a tough dilemma - going to her cousin's bar mitzvah or helping her team win a game. Alan (aka "The ...
3
votes
1answer
140 views

Happiness for a Bar Mitzvah

I heard in the name of the Chasam Sofer that the first mitzvah of a bar mitzvah boy is that of simcha (happiness). Does anyone know where I could find the original source of this? I searched Google ...
4
votes
2answers
139 views

When a Bar Mitzvah boy says “Y'chalelu et Shem Hashem” instead of “Y'Halelu”, should someone correct him?

Perhaps, the title of my question sounds amusing, but I see this happen in my shul a bit too often for me to laugh at it any more. Many of the Bar Mitzvah boys in my shul can barely read Hebrew. but, ...
5
votes
1answer
145 views

Is having a Bat Mitzvah girl recite a section from Ketuvim in a shul a problem of Kol Isha?

A shul that I have gone to has a custom that the Bat Mitzvah girl recites a section from Ketuvim (usually from Divrei Hayamim or Nechemia) in front of the congregation (men and women are there). She, ...
6
votes
3answers
226 views

Why not focus on halacha in elementary education?

From the Mishna B'rura's introduction to the rules of Shabas: …But by what means can we arrive at this level: that one keeps Shabas in all its details? The advice on this is that one urge himself ...
2
votes
1answer
76 views

Putting on Tefilin one month before Bar Mitzva

Rabbi Shimon Eider Zatzal brings in his Sefer that the Minhag is to put on Tefilin from one to three months before the Bar Mitzva. To the best of knowledge there are three different schools of ...
4
votes
1answer
74 views

Counting years according to the solar calendar

I once heard there is an opinion in Rishonim (maybe Gaonim?) that says we count ones years of life according to the solar calender. So for example a boy would become bar mitzvah when he would turn 13 ...
5
votes
2answers
202 views

Only Yetzer Hara until age 13

The Alshich on Ki Tetze teaches that until the age of 13 a person has only an evil inclination. The good inclination comes only at Bar Mitzva. Hence, the yetzer hara is likened to an old seasoned ...
5
votes
2answers
221 views

If the yetzer tov enters the body at bar mitzvah, how do we have well-behaved minors?

There's a notion that the yetzer tov enters the body at the age of bar mitzvah. If this is so how do we see children that behave properly and act kindly towards others?
5
votes
1answer
169 views

Realistic expectations at bar mitzvah age

Being a high school teacher I am interested in better understanding what is realistically expected of boys of the age of bar mitzvah in this day and age. Is, for instance, the non attendance to ...
2
votes
0answers
135 views

Communities that celebrate menarche

Are there traditional communities that have rituals celebrating (or otherwise marking the occurrence of) a girl's first menses? If so, what do those rituals look like? (For purposes here, let's ...
5
votes
1answer
241 views

What is the source for a Bar Mitzva seuda?

What sources are there for our minhag of doing a Bar Mitzva Seuda (meal), and do the sources state that the seuda must specifically be done on the day of the Bar Mitzva (or the night of)? And is this ...
2
votes
1answer
614 views

Bar Mitzvah candle-lighting?

I was recently invited to a bar mitzvah celebration and mention was made of a “candle lighting ceremony”. I’d never heard of such a thing, and Google turns up pretty vague references. Which segments ...
3
votes
2answers
324 views

what's the source for Bar Mitzvah being at 13?

How do we know that a person is not obligated in Mitzvos before the age of 13, and is obligated from that point forward?
6
votes
4answers
330 views

Why does a Bar mitzva boy publicly read from the Torah?

Why do bar mitzva boys publicly read from the Torah for their bar mitzva? Where does the minhag come from?
5
votes
0answers
76 views

How does a recent bar mitzva “complete the weekly portion with the community”

When a person becomes bar mitva during the year, 98% of the time the community has already read 1 or even 50 weekly portions. Does the bar mitzva need to make up those portions? Would it matter if ...
10
votes
1answer
610 views

Bar Mitzvah before Circumcision?

If one was never circumcised can they be called up to the Torah for their bar-mitzvah?
7
votes
2answers
129 views

Bar Mitzva boy taking haircut in Sefira

If a boy becomes Bar Mitzva during Sefira, may he take a haircut for the Simcha - similar to a Bris where the father is allowed to take a haircut in Sefira?
8
votes
3answers
254 views

Bar Mitzva during S'fira

If someone has his bar mitzva during s'firas haomer and said the bracha every night so far, can he still make a bracha? (I will be asking a Rav for the actual P'sak Halacha)
5
votes
2answers
128 views

Saying Baruch Shepatrani for a girl

Do you say Boruch Shepatrani for a girl at her Bas Mitzva? If not, why not?
3
votes
3answers
1k views

Attending non-frum event

Is it permissible to attend a non-frum event, such as a wedding or bar/bat mitzvah of a family member or friend?
2
votes
1answer
88 views

Rabbi Shlomo Zalman said Baruch Shepetarani with Shem UMalchut?

I heard a story about Rabbi Shlomo Zalman Auebuch that he said "Baruch Shepetarani" for his son with Shem UMalchut. Does anyone have a source for this story? Usually we only say Baruch ShePetarni ...
3
votes
1answer
142 views

When to get an aliya for a Bar Mitzvah?

According to the new "Annotated Edition" of the Siddur Tehillas Hashem, a Bar Mitzvah bachur should get his first aliya either on Shabbos Mincha time, Monday, Thursday, or Rosh Chodesh. I assume that ...
4
votes
2answers
96 views

Becoming Bar Mitzva on Chanuka

A boy becomes Bar Mitzva on one of the nights of Chanuka. If he lights the Menorah at the preferred time (appx 15-20 minutes after Shkia to the best of my knowledge) it is not Tzeis HaKochavim yet. ...
7
votes
2answers
277 views

connection of obligation to keep mitzvos and sexual maturity

Does anybody know why a boy is obligated to keep mitzvos after he gains sexual maturity (13 years old)? How is the possibility of fathering children connected to that? Thanks.
7
votes
1answer
1k views

Why does a girl become Bat Mitzvah at 12 years old?

We learn that a Bar Mitzvah is at age 13, since it says in Bamidbar 5:6: Tell the children of Israel: When a man (אִישׁ) or woman commits any of the sins against man to act treacherously against ...
7
votes
4answers
323 views

maftir as an honor

A bar mitzva or bridegroom is usually (in congregation I'm familiar with, or, at least, Ashkenazic ones) given maftir. Why is this, considering that it's the lowliest of all the aliyos? (The question ...
3
votes
2answers
157 views
8
votes
3answers
108 views

Mitzvot for ketanim?

Are there any mitzvot that kids under bar/bat mitzvah are obligated to keep? (not including for "educational purposes")