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All other things being equal Halachically, if you have two people with Yahrtzeits one for a mother and one for a father, who has priority with regards to getting an Aliyah (and/or davening for the amud and/or saying kadish), and why?

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@msh210 Kadish? Why should there need to be a priority? Unless you're referring to places where only one person says the Kadish? – yydl Jul 1 '11 at 21:06
@yydl, it could still apply to the question of who says kaddish after the reading of the Torah. I've never seen that one shared by two or more people. – Alex Jul 1 '11 at 23:15
@yydl, I was referring to places where one person says each kadish. – msh210 Jul 1 '11 at 23:17

The halacha does not differntiate between one mourning for a mother or a father in terms of priority for any of the chiyuv davening activities. In fact, Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 26:16 states that even one who is mourning for both a mother and a father does not get priority over one mourning for another relative.

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From sefer shraga hameir the one after the father has precedence. Since the father needs more zechusim in the next world since he had a harder time in this world. He has more mitsvot to keep and his yetser hora in sexual matters is a lot stronger like MZL which a woman does not have.

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