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Does the practice of 20+ year-old single men not in yeshiva violate halacha? For not getting married at 18 like it is prescribed in Avos? What is the age limit where you can push it off before it becomes a violation?

It says in Shulchan Aruch (EH 1:3) (loose translation) That a person should not stop learning torah to find a wife if he is worried that he will have to work for bread and parnasa. (Source from Fred): Shulchan Aruch (EH 1:3): ומיהו אם עוסק בתורה וטרח בה ומתיירא לישא אשה כדי שלא יטרח במזונו ויתבטל מן התורה מותר להתאחר

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20 is in the Shulhan Aruch and in the Tur, at the very beginning of Even Haezer. However I believe accommodations have been established by contemporary authorities, given the larger amount of time it take to be able to find work. –  Baby Seal Jul 18 at 1:13
    
What does Yeshiva have to do with it? What about having money to support your wife? That's a mitzva deoraita, you know. –  Double AA Jul 18 at 1:14
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@DoubleAA See Shulchan Aruch (EH 1:3): ומיהו אם עוסק בתורה וטרח בה ומתיירא לישא אשה כדי שלא יטרח במזונו ויתבטל מן התורה מותר להתאחר. However, see Sotah (44a): תנו רבנן אשר בנה אשר נטע אשר ארש לימדה תורה דרך ארץ שיבנה אדם בית ויטע כרם ואח"כ ישא אשה. –  Fred Jul 18 at 1:22
    
@Fred Yes, but I'd rather he say that in the question. –  Double AA Jul 18 at 1:23
    
Is this good now? –  user5224 Jul 18 at 1:24

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