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Assume a scenario where a man's wife requires extra help at home during a busy part of the day and requests that her husband skip minyan (and daven alone) in order to help her. (For example, let's say the woman recently gave birth and is very overwhelmed, and she requires extra help getting the children ready for school).

What considerations would be relevant to determining whether a man may skip prayer with a minyan under such a circumstance?1

Please provide sources that allow/prohibit this.

1 For example: (1.) Whether this is a case of a mitzva that cannot be handled by someone else. (1a.) If it can be handled by someone else, but only for a price. (2.) How this will affect harmony in the household. (3.) How it will affect the children's education if you help them go to school. (3a.) How it will affect the children's education if you show them that you will continue going to minyan under the circumstances. (4.) Whether the man lives in close proximity to a minyan. (5.) Whether the man would be the tenth person at the minyan, or is the only person that can perform some essential function, such as Torah reading, at the minyan.

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Ask your Rabbi... – sam Jul 8 '14 at 17:04
I don't know how old the kids are, but even if you find this heter (which I bet you will), you should remember that your kids will see you coming/going from Minyan and learn from example that Minyan is important. That's an invaluable opportunity you have to impart good Jewish values. – Double AA Jul 8 '14 at 17:44
related judaism.stackexchange.com/q/28081/759 – Double AA Jul 8 '14 at 17:47
R PE Falk writes that dealing with kids exempts one from Tefillah Bezmanah, and I would think all the more so from Tefillah Betzibbur (which is less important than Tefillah Bezmanah). – Double AA Jul 8 '14 at 18:01
@DoubleAA Regarding R' Falk, he's talking about women. And although the rationale about ability to concentrate after sof z'man t'filla could apply to men, in this particular case the corresponding issue would be whether he will only be able to concentrate if he davens alone (in which case Sha'arei T'shuva OC 52:1 states he should daven alone); thus the issue of dealing with children is (at most) extrinsically and indirectly relevant to this point. | Re. imparting good values: If it is halachically appropriate to stay home under the circumstances, doing so would best impart good values. – Fred Jul 8 '14 at 19:06

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