Our son is getting older and still has this wild idea from his 20s and 30s that he will find a model who knows shas! We try to explain that it is getting harder as he gets older, to no avail. There is a single woman that everybody who knows the both of them say they are an ideal couple. Recently I asked him to date her four times with the intention of getting married - I would pick up the tab for the dates. I want him to look at her as a wife, and focus on the good points. Will she be a good mother? Will she give back to the community? Can they agree on how to raise children and how to handle money?
I plan on asking her to do the same (we have been working with her also for marriage). He has been "processing" this request for weeks. So, my question is can I use kibud av v'em to get him to listen to me?