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Follow-up to "Do non-jews have soul mates?":

Can a Jew have a non-Jewish "bashert" (Divinely designated soul-mate) or vice-versa?

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Well, there are multiple instances throughout the Tanach and the Talmud where a non-Jew converted to Judaism and married a Jew (see, for e.g., here). – Fred Jun 19 '14 at 4:33

The idea of Bashert is that soul-mates are actually two halves of a single soul. Jews and non-Jews possess different types of souls. Therefore, a Jew and a non-Jew cannot be two halves of one soul, and cannot be Bashert.

A convert is a different story. When a person converts, he receives in some way a new, Jewish soul. That soul is considered newly born, and can match up with a Jew. Prior to the conversion, the aspiring convert does not possess the soul that can be Bashert for a Jew.

As for the Jewish status of people prior to the giving of the Torah on Mount Sinai - that is a separate, unrelated topic.

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As I understand it, the convert's Jewish soul existed and was present at Mt. Sinai, but did not fully join his body until he converted. Nevertheless, there must be some element of that soul in one's body. I know that one reason I decided to convert was that all of my ideas on religion turned out to be Jewish. – Bruce James Mar 4 '15 at 21:30
@BruceJames The way I understand it is that the Jewish and non-Jewish souls are not two different, albeit comparable souls but two different type of soul. The Jewish soul is not an additional soul of the same level but rather a soul of a different type entirely, that comes in addition to the previously existing non-Jewish soul. This comment would make more sense in Hebrew, which possesses upwards of five words that describe the various aspects/levels/types of soul. – LN6595 Mar 5 '15 at 2:34
@LN6595 Are you referring to nefesh/ru'ach/n'shama/chaya/yechida (Alshich on B'reishis 43:33, based on Breishis Rabba 14:11 and D'varim Rabba 2:26)? – Fred Dec 21 '15 at 3:58
@Fred Precisely. – LN6595 Dec 21 '15 at 12:59

no and here's why... 1) a union of a Jew and a non-Jew is not a marriage. not only is it wrong to have such relationship of this type but doing so isn't even considered being married at all. 2) G-d would not have your bashert be someone you could not marry

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This answer would be much more valuable if you could edit in your sources. – Isaac Moses Jun 19 '14 at 6:14
Maybe they're supposed to convert. – Double AA Jun 19 '14 at 15:29
it would only be after a convert converts that they could be someone's bashert and not before. while this might sound the same at first there is a subtle difference – Dude Jun 19 '14 at 15:44
@Dude - I don't know how true that point is. What "religion" were Rivkah, Rachel and Le'ah, or for that matter, Abraham and Sarah? Joseph married an Egyptian, and Moshe married a Midianite. We assume those 2 converted, though there is no mention in Tana"ch of that. Are you suggesting theat each of these women were not already pre-destined (bashert) prior to conversion? – DanF Jun 19 '14 at 17:05
being Jewish is about the neshama. before manton toirah each individual had to live their lives a certain way to ensure this. after manton toirah it became solidified that the Jewish people were connected in way to G-d like never before and so this neshamah could now be passed on by birth from their parents – Dude Jun 20 '14 at 0:49

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