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Does one need to recite Kaddish for an unborn child? A google search produced only references to an unrelated book.

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No sources, but I would say that the answer is probably no. If the wife is sick as a result so a mi shebeirach should be said for her, that is a different matter. There are many people who do not even buy baby clothes before the baby is born because of ayin harah. Do you mean sponsoring a kiddush in shul? I have never heard of that being done until after the baby has been named. Some people have sponsored kiddush on the shabbos on which the father names a girl, but usually they wait until the wife can bring the baby to shul. –  sabbahillel Jun 2 at 22:40

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Kaddish is said as a merit for the deceased to shield him from the judgement of Gehinnom. If the deceased were not required to undergo such judgment (e.g. he was a complete tzadik) Kaddish would not be necessary, but is nevertheless said even for a child once he reached the age of understanding what a sin is. (Mourning in Halacha 39:29-30) based on Sdei Chemed (Aveilus 151), Pischei Teshuvah (376:3),.

For an unborn child, the child is a pure tzaddik who never experienced any sin and Kaddish is not said.

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Kaddish is part of the laws of mourning, which weren't instituted for the loss of an unborn child. (In fact, if a baby was born with severe medical problems and left this world soon after entering it, most rabbis would advise against shiva, kaddish, and the remaining mourning rituals.)

It's a sad and difficult situation, especially without the usual routines and recognitions of mourning. I suspect that when these laws were instituted, the state of women's health was such that they couldn't afford to go through full mourning for a lost pregnancy. (The Talmud has stories of people discussing plans for their newborns, with the caveat "assuming this one makes it.") Hopefully you find a good support network, a competent rabbi included, to be there for you. May God give you strength.

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Thanks for kind wishes. –  Michael Jun 4 at 1:33

Kaddish is usually said for someone for whom there is an obligation to sit shiva An unborn child or a child less than 30 days old there in no shiva, they under the halachic classification of a "nephel" ie. a non viable baby, meaning the baby was not considered alive in the utmost halachic sense (although its death does require a full jewish burial, see Avoda Zara 42a,REMA (OC 526:10, HAGAHOS MAIMONIYOS (Hilchos Milah 1:10) and the BI'UR HA'GRA (OC 526, and MAGEN AVRAHAM (ibid) and CHAZON ISH (OC 133:2) as well for a fuller discussion of the requirment to bury a nefel). thus kaddish is not said for them The Ohr Zarua (II:50) qoutes the Medrash:"Rabbi Akiva saw a strange and afflicted man who told him that he has been dead for many years and because he was particularly sinful in his lifetime he was judged harshly. When Rabbi Akiva taught the man's son to say Kaddish the man was spared the punishments”. thus we see clearly that inherent origin of the minhag is within the context of the chiyuv aveilus. However being that it is not a chiyuv gamur, one can appoint someone else instead to say it for them. the fact that one can appoint is not a proof agaisnt it that it is only for those who have a chiyuv aveilus 

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Often when there is no one who sits Shiva someone else takes on saying Kaddish. –  Double AA Jun 3 at 5:53
    
and therefore... –  Nafkamina Jun 3 at 5:54
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I don't understand your answer at all. Where do you see chiyuv avelut in that story??? –  Double AA Jun 3 at 18:37
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Read it again then, look at the medrash inside first. then ask questions. the Medrash is talking about a SON SAYING SHIVA FOR HIS FATHER (i.e son is chayav to sit shiva for his father...) –  Nafkamina Jun 4 at 18:51
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I would love to see that Midrash inside, except AFAIK the Or Zarua is the earliest source for it. What do you mean by "a son saying (?) Shiva for his father"? Finally, someone should be able to read your post and understand it. They shouldn't have to look up the sources to follow your logic. –  Double AA Jun 6 at 3:38

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