In my chassan classes I was taught that it is important to have relations on the night a wife returns tahor from the mikvah. I do not know the source of this idea. My question is: May the couple choose to forgo relations on mikvah night for any reason, out of convenience?
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It appears that yes, indeed, you can postpone relations if both spouses agree, but it is best avoided.
On the other side postponing shouldn't be taken lightly, see for instance this relating to the importance of the mitzvot post-tvila from yoatzot.org
According to yoatzot.org, "[y]ou are not required to be intimate on mikveh night." The situation under discussion in that article is where the couple wants to abstain because they are angry at each other rather than simply out of convenience; however, the claim is stated without qualification.
There is an inyan of the klipos being misdavek to a woman who goes to the mikva and does not subsequently have relations with her husband.
According to this it would be better to delay going to the mikva to a night when they do intend to have relations subsequently.
Bearing in mind that if she sees spotting etc. you will be soser the shiva nekiim.