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For someone who married without a halachic pre-nuptual agreement, are there any halachic authorities who recommend giving a conditional get (bill of divorce) which stipulates that it would go into effect if/when one of the parties wishes to end the marriage?

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Why would one do this? Why would having given a halachic pre-nuptual agreement (what did the agreement say?) have anything to do with this? – Double AA Apr 1 '14 at 17:29
"For someone who married without a halachic pre-nuptual agreement": do you mean a k'suba? (I'm guessing not, but then it'd be good if you clarify what you do mean.) – msh210 Apr 1 '14 at 19:37
In the time of King David, men would give a Get before going to battle in case they never return. – sharshi Apr 2 '14 at 0:34
@BackseatChazan but they didn't have an issue of a biya being koneh – Shmuel Brin Apr 2 '14 at 1:11
@DoubleAA to avoid aguna issues, I suppose. If he made a prenup, he can force a get when he needs it. – Shmuel Brin Apr 2 '14 at 1:43

I doubt you would find any Halachic authorities who recommend giving a conditional Get.

The reason being that after giving such a Get, he may not seclude himself with his wife.

If he did seclude himself - and there are witnesses, then even if she subsequently fulfills the condition on the Get, she is only possibly divorced - הֲרֵי זוֹ סְפֵק מְגֹרֶשֶׁת.

This defeats the purpose of what you're trying to achieve, and possibly aggravates the situation.

Find this in the Rambam הלכות גרושין - פרק שמיני:

ב: כָּל הַמְגָרֵשׁ עַל תְּנַאי בֵּין שֶׁאָמַר מֵעַכְשָׁו בֵּין שֶׁאָמַר אִם יִהְיֶה וְאִם לֹא יִהְיֶה הֲרֵי זֶה לֹא יִתְיַחֵד עִם אִשְׁתּוֹ כָּל זְמַן שֶׁלֹּא נִתְקַיֵּם הַתְּנַאי אֶלָּא בִּפְנֵי עֵד. וַאֲפִלּוּ עֶבֶד וַאֲפִלּוּ שִׁפְחָה חוּץ מִשִּׁפְחָתָהּ אוֹ בְּנָהּ קָטָן מִפְּנֵי שֶׁאֵינָהּ בּוֹשָׁה מִלְּשַׁמֵּשׁ בִּפְנֵיהֶם. וְהַדָּבָר יָדוּעַ שֶׁאִם נִתְיַחֵד עִמָּהּ בִּפְנֵי שְׁנֵי עֵדִים כְּאֶחָד אֲפִלּוּ נִתְקַיֵּם הַתְּנַאי אַחַר כָּךְ הֲרֵי זוֹ סְפֵק מְגֹרֶשֶׁת. שֶׁמָּא בְּעָלָהּ וּבָטֵל הַגֵּט כְּמוֹ שֶׁיִּתְבָּאֵר בַּהֲלָכוֹת אֵלּוּ:‏

And the Shulchan Aruch also Paskens like this in סימן קמח - דין המגרש בגט ישן, והמגרש בתנאי, ושלא יתיחד עמה

ב: כָּל הַמְגָרֵשׁ עַל תְּנַאי, בֵּין שֶׁאָמַר: מֵעַכְשָׁו, בֵּין שֶׁאָמַר: אִם יִהְיֶה וְאִם לֹא יִהְיֶה, הֲרֵי זֶה לֹא יִתְיַחֵד עִמָּהּ כָּל זְמַן שֶׁלֹּא נִתְקַיֵּם הַתְּנַאי, אֶלָּא בִּפְנֵי עֵד, אֲפִלּוּ עֶבֶד וַאֲפִלּוּ שִׁפְחָה, וּבְיוֹצֵא וְנִכְנָס סָגֵי, חוּץ מִשִּׁפְחָתָהּ אוֹ בְּנָהּ הַקָּטָן, מִפְּנֵי שֶׁאֵינָהּ בּוֹשָׁה לְשַׁמֵּשׁ בִּפְנֵיהֶם. וְהַדָּבָר יָדוּעַ שֶׁאִם נִתְיַחֵד עִמָּהּ בִּפְנֵי שְׁנֵי עֵדִים כְּאֶחָד, וְרָאָה הוּא וְהִיא אוֹתָם, אֲפִלּוּ נִתְקַיֵּם הַתְּנַאי אַחַר כָּךְ, הֲרֵי זוֹ סְפֵק מְגֹרֶשֶׁת, שֶׁמָּא בְּעָלָהּ וּבִטֵּל הַגֵּט, וְיִתְבָּאֵר בְּסִימָן שֶׁאַחַר זֶה:

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