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Does one say "HaMakom yenachem..." each time one visits/leaves a shiva house or only once during the shiva period? I recall someone telling me one only says it once, but I cannot find any source for this.

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Why only when leaving? – Double AA Dec 24 '13 at 15:38
I believe the minhag is to say this phrase before leaving the mourner. I have no source for this, only practical experience. – Jake Dec 24 '13 at 15:45
Then I would be a little more hesitant to call it a minhag – Double AA Dec 24 '13 at 15:50
Have you ever seen anyone say it at any other time? A minhag is just the way the general populace practices, it carries no halachik ramifications. Hence why there are good minhagim and inappropriate ones. A minhag Yisroel is one where the entire klal has accepted it and it can take on the status of halacha – Jake Dec 24 '13 at 15:55
Very well. If that's how you are using the terms, fine, just remember not everyone uses all those terms in the same way as you do. And yes I have seen it said other times. – Double AA Dec 24 '13 at 15:57

The minhag is to say it once for everyone but Rabbi Shurkin says that Rav Yoshe Ber Soloveitchik would tell it to every single avel individually.

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Every single avel individually or every single time individually? The question was about the latter, but you seem to be answering the former? – Yishai Sep 29 '14 at 21:07
@Yishai you are correct sir. I was going to delete it but thought maybe we can make a limud that there is no problem to say it multiple times. Shvach. Eh. – user6591 Sep 29 '14 at 22:08

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