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Why do we not make a Bracha (e.g. every morning) on the mitzvah of honoring one's parents?

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Why would we make a bracha? – Isaac Moses Oct 10 '10 at 22:37
@Issac Well don't we make Brochos on all Mitzvos (lulav, torah, tzitzis, tefillin). Certain mitzvos are excluded, but they have reasons. So I wanted to know what the reason for this one is – yydl Oct 10 '10 at 23:11
@yydl Perhaps you should add your motivation to the question (including sourcing its premises if possible). – Double AA Jan 27 '14 at 3:16
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The Rashaba writes in his Tshuvos siman 18 that kibud av vaim is like tzdakkah and charity is dependent on the receiver because maybe he will be mochel and he(the giver) wont be chayiv in the mitzvah. When the action of the mitzvah is not completely dependent on the giver then there is no bracha(from Sefer Pisgamei Oraisa which talks about many mitzvos without brachas and the reasons why.

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I think with most mitzvos between man and fellow man (bein adam lachaveiro) there's no bracha; I believe it has to do with "how do we know you're doing it for the sake of the mitzva?"

But with regards to the question of why no bracha over saying the Passover Hagadah, they point out that to say "okay G-d you commanded me to show gratitude so now I'm doing it" doesn't sound right. So imagine it:

"Chaim, can you please bring the groceries?"

"Um, wait a minute Mom. Thank you Hashem, you COMMANDED me to honor my parents ... Okay Mom yes I'll bring in the groceries."

The thought process should be a bit more natural!

Also, it's further complicated (as it is with many acts to fellow man) by the fact that a given action may or may not be kibud av v'em. You can feed your father the finest aged steak and degrade him ("just eat the food and be quiet, old man!"); or you could have him hard at work at the millstone and still be honoring him ("if not for the millwork they would have drafted you, I'm so sorry dad.")

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"Um, wait a minute Mom. Thank you Hashem, you COMMANDED me to honor my parents ... Okay Mom yes I'll bring in the groceries." - I took care of by saying once a day. But in the rest of it, you have good points – yydl Oct 10 '10 at 23:40

We do not make a Bracha on Kibud Av Vaim as by each person the Kibud manifests itself differently.

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Why should different manifestations warrant a lack of bracha? – Double AA Jan 27 '14 at 0:42

It is an ongoing mitzva that one is required to do at all times; therefore, you don't make a bracha.

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Why should ongoing obligation warrant a lack of bracha if you only fulfill the obligation occasionally? – Double AA Jan 27 '14 at 0:43
Benzion, welcome to Mi Yodeya, and thanks very much for posting this answer! You could make it much more valuable by editing in your source for this reasoning as well as something that addresses @DoubleAA's comment, above. Please consider registering your account, which will give you access to more of the site's features. – Isaac Moses Jan 27 '14 at 3:14
We do say a bracha on learning Torah, which is also an ongoing mitzva. But maybe Torah is the exception, since its bracha is min haTorah. – Ypnypn Jan 27 '14 at 17:44

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