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Being a high school teacher I am interested in better understanding what is realistically expected of boys of the age of bar mitzvah in this day and age.

Is, for instance, the non attendance to minyanim 3 times a day considered a travesty or is it accepted that because of (e.g.) maturity, safety and bedtime they would not attend.

Do chazal speak of leniencies for young boys (13+) in other mitzvot because of other considerations such as those mentioned above?

Perhaps this has to do with the distinction of the difference in punishments at 13 and subsequently at 20 and the level of responsibility and achieveability at the respective ages (related question).

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"chanoch l'naar al pi darko.." - "Train a child in the way he should go; when he matures, he will not deviate from it" (Mishlei 22:6). each individual case requires great wisdom on what to say and what not to say. i recommend you read "Reb Mendel" from Artscroll for many examples from the masterful educator Rav Mendel Kaplan zt'l. (my understanding from there is that you need to look at the big picture)

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Do you have any examples from the book or other things that must be considered in 'al pi darko'? –  bondonk Oct 17 '13 at 11:53
@bondonk see the book. needs to be seen in context –  ray Oct 17 '13 at 17:52
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