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Can a woman delay going to the Mikvah on her Mikvah night? That is, if it is the seventh day and she is scheduled to go to the Mikvah, but it turns out to be inconvenient (for example if a friend's wedding is that night) can she push it off to the next night?

Additionally, what if the husband is in agreement?

Please provide sources to your answers.

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This is an ask your Rav shaila,which can go both ways. –  sam Aug 18 '13 at 22:40
    
@sam for individual p'sak consult your rabbi (as with anything on this site), but the question is still interesting as a way of gathering relevant sources. –  Monica Cellio Aug 18 '13 at 23:42
    
If you know the scheduling conflict in advance, you could always delay the Hefsek Tahara by a day... –  Danny Schoemann Aug 19 '13 at 11:26
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@DannySchoemann Why is that preferable? –  Daniel Aug 19 '13 at 13:39
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@DannySchoemann - IIUC, the concept of טבילה בזמנה מצוה is not accepted as the halachah. Furthermore, all of our tevilos nowadays are anyhow שלא בזמנן, since a niddah can theoretically count from the very beginning of her flow, and a zavah can immerse even during the seventh day. (To complicated to explain more in a short comment.) –  Dave Aug 20 '13 at 13:09

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As sam and others point out this is a CYLOR question.

We have a sefer “Taharas Am Yisrael” by Rabbi S Wagschal.

In Chapter 9, Rabbi Wagschal points out that it is the woman's obligation (YD 197(2)) to go to mikvah at the proper time unless her husband is out of town. She may not delay teviloh even temporarily without her husband's agreement, unless she is ill.

FYI There's a lot of comment to read if you Google “delay going to mikvah”.

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אסור לאשה לדחות את ליל טבילתה כדי לצער את בעלה, אפילו עם היתה מריבה ביניהם, מפני שמכשילה אותו בהרהורי עבירה, ולפעמים אף בהוצאת זר''ל. ולכן תקפיד שלא לדחות את הטבילה בשם אופן שיהיה.1

Sefer Ween Lemao Mischol vol. 5.

Translation: It is prohibited for a woman to push off the night of her immersion in order to pain her husband, even if they are having a fight, because she might cause him to have sinful/lustful thoughts, and sometimes even to spill his seed. Thus she should be cautious to never delay her immersion for any reason.

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The case of the question is not where she is doing it malevolently. –  Double AA Aug 22 '13 at 18:33
    
@DoubleAA there a forsure some Diyukim you can make no? –  Hacham Gabriel Aug 23 '13 at 3:26
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I added the translation –  Ze'ev Felsen Oct 7 '13 at 19:11

This is a typical case where one should ask a competent Rabbi. I personally asked such a question when it was extremely uncomfortable for my wife to go. The Rav told me that if I have a boy and a girl already and I agree then she may delay.

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