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The g'moro in pshochim 3 says one should (generally) use 'nice' language, like not use the word 'tomai' but 'not tahor'.

The g'moro in Eruvin 53b (the last line on the page) says that when a man is talking to a woman he should use the least amount of speech possible.

So if a man is talking to a woman and is faced with a choice, should he use 'tomai', or the longer but nicer 'not tahor'?

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An interesting question on the daf yomi. –  user2800 Jun 23 '13 at 1:45
Where does the Gemarah say that on Eruvin 53b? –  Bochur613 Jun 23 '13 at 1:53
Its a Mishna in Avos –  sam Jun 24 '13 at 5:07
@sam Not a mishna I am aware of. Anyway the answer is its a machlokes Ben Ish Chai and Chasam Sofer who proves from the way the angel spoke to Shimsons mother using the word 'tomai'. So even angels have to talk as short as possible to women. Interesting. –  user2800 Jun 24 '13 at 10:04

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