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If for whatever reason it was decided that a couple would get married then right away get divorced after the week of Sheva Brachos (believe it or not this happens!) Can they indeed still make Sheva Brachos during the week after the Chassanah? Is there any reason why if they have decided to get divorce and terminate the marriage after these days that the actual "Sheva Brachos" can't be made?

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@annex Yehoshua, I get that they want to get married so as not to break the engagement (at least I get that's what they want). What I don't get is why they keep at it for 7 days. – Double AA Jun 19 '13 at 23:29
@MonicaCellio: Here's an example of a Rav who talks about the severity of breaking an engagement: revach.net/halacha/tshuvos/… -- There are indeed certain groups who will marry and divorce rather than break of the engagement (I read about it a while ago and can't remember the exact details). That being said, they probably don't throw a huge bash – Menachem Jun 20 '13 at 4:15
I wonder whether the marriage is valid. After all, a couple planning to divorce cannot live together (citation needed), and kidushin shelo nims'ru l'via are invalid (citation definitely needed). – msh210 Jun 20 '13 at 6:34
@msh210 first citation is gruhsas libo in Nedorim, point 7 in he.wikipedia.org/wiki/… and according to second citations - it's "k" from "yaal kagam" where the halaha is according to Abaye against Rove (don't remember who say what). Anyway, I think that the prohibition of bnei tisha midos is not strong enough to invalidate the kiddushin. – jutky Jun 20 '13 at 9:13
@jutky it's kiddushin 51 we hold like abaye that the kiddushin works – Double AA Jun 20 '13 at 10:31

The question wording is actually inaccurate, Halachically speaking - make Sheva Brachos during the week after the Chassanah.

While common practise it to "make Sheva Brachos", Halachically, Sheva Brachos are said at meals after the wedding under specific conditions.

See the Kitzur Shulchan Aruch Siman 149 for details.

Essentially, in the case of 2 people who have never been married, then if there are Panim Chadashot - and it's not only close family at the meal, then Sheva Brachos are said.

Going back to your question, if they plan on getting divorced, they probably are not going to even be eating together. But if they do - and there are Panim Chadashot present - then they are obligated to add The Sheva Brachos after Birkat HaMazon.

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