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Back when Jews lived in the same communities for generations, they were obligated to follow the minhagim (customs) of their community. The classic example is that East European Jews held that one cannot eat dairy until after 6 hours following a meat meal, but that German Jews held that it was sufficient to wait 3 hours, and Dutch Jews wait only 1 hour. Now, Jewish communities in many countries include Jews from the four corners of the Earth and many people observe different minhagim.

Given that, how does a convert to Judaism know which minhagim are required of him? Would he look to the customs of his rav? Or would he look back at his geneology and adopt the customs of Jews from the area in which his non-Jewish ancestors lived? Could he choose the easiest or the strictest customs on his own?

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@MonicaCellio: I had answered the question you cited with insights from my own experience, and noted that many converts cherry pick their minhagim. Here, I'm trying to determine whether cherry-picking minhagim is valid or not. –  Bruce James Apr 10 '13 at 14:36
[cont'd] The three sentences I cherry-pick-quoted from each question seem to parallel the other. (And those are the only three question-sentences in the older question, and three of the main ones here.) Maybe I'm missing something, but this really does seem like a duplicate. Ping also @MonicaCellio. –  msh210 Apr 10 '13 at 15:17
I think that's an inadequacy in the answers there, not in the question. What you just asked in your comment seems to me to be covered in the other question. –  msh210 Apr 10 '13 at 18:02
Well: almost. The other question is specifically about Ashk'naz vs. S'farad and this isn't. –  msh210 Apr 10 '13 at 18:02
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I don't know for sure, but I do think that it would be a bit strange if a an Afro-American started davening in your local Yekkish shul and if a Dane started davening in your local Yemenite shul. It would make the most sense if he just followed the minhag of the place where his father's family lived.

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I don't think that would be strange. –  Double AA Aug 18 '13 at 15:24
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