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Suppose someone really dislikes his mother and does not want to be known as (for example) "יוסף בן רחל". He's sick, and people wish to pray for him in a Mishebeirach.

Do his wishes have to be honored? And what is the alternative? יוסף בן שרה?

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As always, consult your rabbi for practical advice rather than relying on the answers you see here. – msh210 Mar 4 '13 at 18:12
up vote 3 down vote accepted

The Rabbi I consulted said that for the sake of shalom, Sara could be used.

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OK, that works for Shalom, but what about Chaim? – HodofHod Mar 21 '13 at 17:56
שלום שלום לרחוק ולקרוב – Yishai Mar 21 '13 at 19:02
@Yishai שלום שלום ואין שלום – Double AA Mar 22 '13 at 0:36

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