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It says in Shulchan Aruch Evan HaEzer Siman 21 Sif 1 that it's ossur to look at the colored clothing of a woman that you know even if she is not wearing them, lest one come to "hirhurim" (to think about) that woman.

What about if someone's wife borrows a dress from her friend that you know, is it a problem then to look at one's wife when she is wearing that dress (or to specifically look at the dress.)

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Are you thinking of your wife or her friend when you look at her? This is a completely subjective thing. – Ariel Jan 10 '13 at 9:32
Perhaps it's also subjective the whole din...What about if when one sees clothing of a woman he knows he doesn't think about her, is it still a problem? – Yehoshua Jan 10 '13 at 9:38
As a practical matter ask your wife not to tell you who she borrowed the dress from. – Ariel Jan 10 '13 at 9:49

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