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Can you go to a shul dinner or other formal function that is for social convention and not actually enjoyable if you are in aveilus?

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Similar: judaism.stackexchange.com/q/66666 – msh210 Dec 28 '15 at 18:27

From "The Jewish Way in Death and Mourning" by Maurice Lamm:

Community business meetings, such as synagogue or fraternal organization membership meetings, are permitted the mourner after shiva.

Social dinners, even though no music is played, and even though they are held for charitable causes, are not to be attended by mourners for parents for 12 months, and other mourners for 30 days.

I would advise reading the entire chapter, and obviously CYLOR for practical guidance.

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