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What responsibility do parents have to their children vis a vis Kavod? General Kavod HaBerioth? Some level of relational Kavod like spouses have or like children have to their parents, only to a lesser extent?

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(Sefer Machaneh Efrayim in the Hilchot Tzedaka section brings an opinion (from the Talmud?) that boys from the age of six and upward are not dependent on their parents and that anything the parents give to their children is tzedaka because they are no longer obligated to support them once they turn 6. ...i.e., kavod haberioth perhaps. – Adam Mosheh Aug 1 '12 at 22:15
Where does it speak about what parents must provide for their children and until what age? – Yehoshua Oct 27 '12 at 22:27
Sadly, and absurdly, related: gawker.com/5986916/… – Seth J Feb 26 '13 at 17:50

There is an issur of onaas devarim(hurting with words) Vayikra 25:17 see Rashi. The Sefer HaChinuch 338 brings down that this applies to ones children as well. Hurting someone else feelings is a severe prohibition(even through a gesture it is assur).

ונוהגת מצוה זו בכל מקום ובכל זמן, בזכרים ונקבות, ואפילו בקטנים ראוי להזהר שלא להכאיבן בדברים יותר מדי, זולתי כמה שצריכין הרבה כדי שיקחו מוסר, שאפילו בבניו ובנותיו ובני ביתו של אדם, והמיקל בהם שלא לצערן בענינים אלה, ימצא חיים ברכה וכבוד.ועובר על זה והכאיב את חבירו בדברים, באותן שפירשו חכמים זכרונם לברכה כבעל תשובה ובחולה ובכיוצא בהן, עבר על לאו זה, אבל אין לוקין עליו לפי שאין בו מעשה וכמה מלקיות מבלי רצועה של עגל ביד האדון הַמְּצַוֶּה על זה, יתברך ויתעלה. see the full thing inside,

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So are you saying that is the extent of one's responsibility to the honor of one's children, or that is the minimum? – Seth J Aug 28 '12 at 21:52
This is one source I found,might be more not sure. – sam Aug 28 '12 at 22:22
But this applies to everyone, not just your children. The Chinuch is saying even with children – b a Aug 28 '12 at 22:59
That was part of the question. If you read the q again you will see tgat I answered the q. – sam Aug 28 '12 at 23:14

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