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Is it permissible to touch someone of the opposite sex with an object (for example: to get their attention)?

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I heard in person from a rabbi that it is permissible. (I have no source, though.) – b a Jun 22 '12 at 23:12
What about, can you touch her skin to get her attention? – Double AA Jun 24 '12 at 3:06
I've heard that Rav Shamshon Refael Hirsch was Matir shaking the other gender's hands while wearing gloves. – Hacham Gabriel Jul 5 '13 at 19:00
possible dupe? judaism.stackexchange.com/q/12512/759 – Double AA May 7 '15 at 5:25

The prohibition only applies to "derech chibah", so even without an object it would not be forbidden, though in practice it would not be recommended. However, with an object wouldn't be a problem.

See the beginning of this Hakirah article by R.Y. Henkin: http://www.hakirah.org/Vol%204%20Henkin.pdf

While poskim argue over what a handshake is classified as, they agree that something that isn't derech chibah is not forbidden.

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