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Last night I was at a wedding, and when I stood up as the bride was passing by on the way to the Chuppa, a fellow in all seriousness told me "It is not proper and a lack of Tzniyus to stand up for the bride". I told him that I am certain that there is a valid source for doing so as we see that it is a Minhag Yisroel that people stand up when the bride passes by. What is the source?

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Is there any source for there being a tzeniyut issue in standing up for the bride? I'd say that tzeniyut-wise, if standing up for her is problematic, so is her being there at a public event in the first place; have separate parties for the men and the women, and have her send a shaliach (e.g. her father) to the chuppa! –  Isaac Moses Jun 22 '12 at 17:04
    
Neither Taame Haminhagim nor Nit'e Gavriel mentions rising for the bride as she passes, as far as I see. –  msh210 Jun 22 '12 at 17:14
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See Halachically Speaking (Volume 4, Issue 12, Page 8) where the author brings that many poskim [see footnote 108 for names] actually say to stand the entire Chuppah. (One reason given is because the Chosson is doing a Mitzvah, so we stand in his honor). Common custom however, is not like that.

He then goes on to say:

It is customary to stand when the chosson and kallah walk down the aisle. Some say this is out of respect for the chosson and kallah.

He brings Knesses Hagedolah E.H. 62[:2] as a source for that last reason [though the Knesses Hagedolah is referring to standing for the Chuppah Berachos].

So there you have it: a source.

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@msh210 I haven't read the entire thing (the copy you linked to is pretty bad), but towards the end of [:2] he does write בשעה שמברכין לכלה. Or it could be from somewhere else in the Siman... –  yydl Jun 22 '12 at 22:08
    
You're using Halachically Speaking's observing a common custom to justify the common custom? –  Double AA Oct 8 '13 at 21:55
    
@DoubleAA True. I was bringing a source for it being a valid custom though. And he himself does at least partially bring a source. –  yydl Oct 9 '13 at 2:49
    
Just because someone doesn't actively protest something doesn't mean he finds any value in it. –  Double AA Oct 9 '13 at 2:50
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I don't have a source for the custom, but I think it's irrelevant. The onus is upon him to show a source that it isn't tznius. Standing for a woman in general certainly isn't a violation of tznius - in fact the Gemara says one is obligated to stand up for the wife of a talmid chacham (Shevuos 30b).

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I have heard it comes from the mishna (Bikurim) that says people in Jerusalem would stand and greet people bringing bikurim, on which the g'mara (Kidushin) says chaviva mitzva b'sha'tah, a mitzva at its right time is beloved [and we stand up for the one doing it].

However, I'll have to find the source that connects that to a bride (and groom).

See also the comments on this answer.

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Did you see the post joshwaxman linked to? –  Double AA Jun 22 '12 at 17:22
    
@DoubleAA, now I have. Thanks. He mentions, but cites no source for, the Bikurim connection. The PDF he links to, from a R' Zev Cinamon, indicates that R'ZC could not find an old source for the connection. This answer may be worth deleting. –  msh210 Jun 22 '12 at 19:13
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