Sometimes we say that things in the Torah are not in chronological order. What are the parameters for this? do you need to have a mesorah (particular tradition) for this? Is there a list of all 'officially non-chronological events' that are agreed upon by all?
In a nutshell, no, there is no "official" list. See this short essay on the topic.
Basically, it seems that Rashi and Ramban disagree as to how to apply this rule (Rashi considers it a blanket rule which can be applied wherever it makes sense, and Ramban considers it a tool for last resort; incidentally, this is the reverse of what I thought their Shittoth were, but I defer to R' Leibtag), and they don't necessarily agree on when to apply it, either.