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Would a baalat teshuva need a get from each previous sexual relationship? In light of the idea that marriage can be contracted solely through bi'ah/public knowledge of the couple's relationship (as discussed here and here), would a woman who has had previous sexual relationships--perhaps a baalat teshuva--need a get from each one in order to be married again? What other obligations rest on her previous partners?

NOTE: If this situation is relevant to you, please consult with your Rabbi.

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Even if your logic holds true, you'd prob only need a get from the first one. I don't think a woman can be married to more than one man at a time. –  Hahu Gavra May 4 '12 at 14:56
@HahuGavra ... unless each one creates an possible ("safek") marriage, in which case, it might be that we'd consider each one to possibly have taken effect, assuming all the previous ones hadn't. I expect, though, that this logic would only apply if it was logically consistent, which would be if the uncertainty is about a matter of fact that could vary per relationship and not about a matter of law that applies to all of them equally. –  Isaac Moses May 4 '12 at 15:33
... but the safek would IIUC be whether this sort of relationship takes effect; so the bottom line is still either the first took effect, or none. So need a get from the first. –  yitznewton May 4 '12 at 16:39
@yitznewton Only if it's a sefeika dedina. If it's a safek metzius (like did she have daat kiddushin) then she would need from all of them. –  Double AA May 4 '12 at 17:05
Agreed. I assumed that we are talking about no-daat-kiddushin unions here. –  yitznewton May 4 '12 at 17:46

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According to Even HoEzer 26:1 there is no need for a divorce when the relationship was not for the purpose of marriage.

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what if it was a long-term relationship where they lived together? –  Menachem May 6 '12 at 23:40
And wouldn't the public sexual relationship itself in fact be considered a marriage by some standards? –  SAH May 16 '12 at 13:15
@Menachem, even a long term committed relationship does not normally include marital intent. SAH, do you know people who say "oh, everyone knows they live together and are intimate, so they're married"? No one believes that public sexual relationships are some sort of de facto marriages. Maybe if they were together long enough that one might begin consideration of a common-law spouse, OK, I hear the question. I can't imagine this happens more than once in anyone's life, and never in most lifetimes. –  Ze'ev Felsen Jul 24 '12 at 4:40
@Ze'evFelsen: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Common-law_marriage - What about common law marriages? –  Menachem Jul 24 '12 at 4:57
@Menachem A) I explicitly mentioned this possibility in my response to SAH. B) It is going to be pretty rare. Common law marriage requires quite a few years. Again, see my comment immediately above. –  Ze'ev Felsen Jul 24 '12 at 5:02

simply "lying" with a woman does not create a marriage, a get is only effective to break the bond created by Kiddushin, if there was no Kiddushin, there is no need for a Get.

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Is it that simple? A woman can be acquired through bi'ah and "eiyn adam oeseh be'iyso bias znus".. –  Michoel Oct 10 '12 at 9:17
@Michoel Actually, adam oseh biyaso bias zenus all the time, especially in this case where it seems to be his intention –  Double AA Oct 10 '12 at 12:25
Administrative note: This was penned as an answer to another question and merged hither. –  msh210 Oct 11 '12 at 7:46
Reb Chaim, for the benefit of others, what's your source? –  Noach mi Frankfurt Feb 3 at 21:38

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