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Every year at the seder, we are not sure if everybody makes their own kiddush, or if the leader makes kiddush and everybody says Amen.

I was recently told by a friend that the custom at his seder is that everybody makes kiddush. Is this universal? And does it apply to all four cups?

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Related (duplicate?): judaism.stackexchange.com/q/13664/5 – Seth J Apr 5 '12 at 9:05
Related, but not a duplicate because here I'm asking specifically about the Seder. – chaimp Apr 5 '12 at 18:28
That's why I wrote it with a question mark and didn't vote to close. However, I think it could be argued that this is a subset of that question. You are obviously assuming the answer to the other question is that it is preferable (or at the very least not negatively preferred) for everyone to make their own Kiddush and are wondering what to do at the Seder (though you fail to specify why the Seder would be different from any other night - LOL, I just thought that through but I don't intend to delete it!). Anyway, I think it's borderline. – Seth J Apr 5 '12 at 19:18
Shi'a harav 472,21-22 says everyone should drink they're own wine, its not clear however if they should make the kiddush I.e. say the words themselves – user5252 Apr 14 '14 at 4:04
Great question. I sense that one person can say for all, and this would be the same with the other 3 cups. My reasoning is that this is Kiddush just as any other Shabbat or Yom Tov. One person can fulfill the obligation of Kiddush for those that listen to him. Likewise, with the other 3 cups, one person can fulfill the obligation of the bracha for the others. However, everyone has to drink their own minimum for each of the 4 cups. So, unless the leader has a huge cup for the 20 or so people at the seder, that he can drink and pass around, everyone should have and drink from his own cup. – DanF Apr 18 at 22:50

By Chabad the boys make their own Kiddush and the mother/girls listen to the father.

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+1, but a source is appreciated. – Shmuel Brin Apr 5 '12 at 4:11
Also, I don't know if this is correct. I know Lubavitcher families where everyone present, men, women and children, all say kiddush together. – Alex Apr 5 '12 at 16:36
@Alex, do you mean they recite it together, or do you mean they listen together to one person who recites it for everyone? – Seth J Apr 5 '12 at 19:19
@SethJ: the former. – Alex Apr 6 '12 at 3:14

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