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At the Chuppah in some weddings I've been to, the father and father-in-law escort the Chosson and the mother and mother-in-law escort the Kallah. In others, the mother and fathers each escort their own children.

What are the reasons behind these two different customs? Is there a specific reason for each? And are there any other customs?

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@HodofHod See edit. How descriptive should I get? – yydl Mar 28 '12 at 2:35
@HodofHod, I suspect it's you. I've been at numerous orthodox Jewish weddings at which the bride and groom approach the chupa by walking between seats, walking in the direction the seats are facing: this is called an aisle. – msh210 Mar 28 '12 at 5:33
I have a strong suspicion that the difference is how strict the community is about gender separation in all circumstances. – Double AA Mar 28 '12 at 5:46
Replace "walking down the aisle" with "walking to the chuppah" and the question remains. Sometimes it's an aisle, sometimes it's not. – Menachem Mar 28 '12 at 17:18
A story about Rabbi Yaakov Kaminetzky IIRC. A chosson asked the Rav who should take him under the chuppah. The Rav did not want to answer. The chosson asked how the Rav’s children were married. Rav Yaakov said that he did whatever the parents on the other side wanted. It seems that bein odom lechaveiro takes precedence! – Avrohom Yitzchok Mar 29 '12 at 21:39

It is interesting to note that the Ramo (in Hilchos Aveilus! Yore Deah 391:3) brings the custom that two men take the Choson to the Chupa.

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Great find!! +1 – Double AA Apr 3 '12 at 6:15
And IIRC he somewhere mentions shoshvinos walking the kala, which would have to mean two women. (The question sought reasons. I suppose an early source arguably qualifies.) – msh210 Apr 3 '12 at 6:55

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