Is there a model of reconciliation in the Tanach?

Question

Monica asked an excellent question about how to correct someone who posts something objectionable on a public forum. I was struck by the suggestion that the usual course of action was "to take the person aside for a private conversation". That's sensible advice and (once you hear it) maybe a bit obvious. But it's also what we Christians are commanded to do.

So I got to wondering: Is this a case of convergent evolution (so to speak) or is this model of reconciliation found in the Tanach? Or would the early Christians have heard it from their rabbis?

Answer 1

Very conveniently, the answer lies plainly in one verse. VaYikra (Leviticus) 19:17 states, "Do not hate your brother in your heart; you surely must rebuke your neighbor, but you must not bear sin because of him." (My own translation)

Rashi there states: "but You shall not bear a sin on his account: I.e., [in the course of your rebuking your fellow,] do not embarrass him in public. — [Torath Kohanim 19:43; Arachin 16b]" (translation from here)

Answer 2

Torah says:

You shall surely admonish your fellow, but don't bear a sin because of him.

Which is interpreted as:

Even when it's necessary to admonish someone, do so in such a way that you won't bear the sin of embarrassing him publicly.