Recently a relative of mine who is a widow got engaged. The children were told that the Minhag is that children do not attend a wedding of their parents. What is the source of this Minhag? What is the reason?
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Per Ohr.edu in the name of Rabbi Yosef Shalom Elyashiv Shlita, Children have a Chiyuv to respect their parents even after the parents have passed away. Attending the marriage of a surviving parent would be disrespectful to the deceased parent.
See Hirhurim for more reasons.
I know of a family where the mother passed away at a young age, leaving her husband and 5 or 6 children, the youngest of whom was around three. I suppose because of this the husband re-married before a year had passed. Before the wedding one of the sons told me that he and his siblings would attend the wedding out of kavod for their father. And this while they were still in mourning.
He said his father had told him this from Rav Moshe Feinstein. If someone could find a source I would be grateful.