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Are you allowed to get a haircut during the Omer if you are going on a shiduch date?

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Why would a "shidduch date" be special, as opposed to a "regular" date? – AviD Apr 26 '13 at 15:19

See HALACHICALLY SPEAKING, Customs During Sefira Part 11:

Shaving for a date

One is not permitted to shave during his custom of sefira even if he has a date.(99)

(99)Harav Yisroel Belsky Shlita, see Piskei Shmuos pages 62-63 quoting the opinion of Harav Elyashiv Shlita.

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Interesting. R' Moshe Feinstein allows getting a haircut during Sefira to attend a wedding (assuming the people making the wedding have a different Sefira custom). I wonder what he'd say about this. – Shalom Apr 26 '10 at 14:00
One interesting difference b/t a haircut and shaving is that it is not obvious when one last got a haircut, whereas it is clear that many people shave during sefirah, usually for business purposes. the girl would know for sure if you shaved, but may not notice a haircut. – Jeremy Apr 26 '10 at 15:09
Shalom, Where is the source for that P'sak from Rav Moshe? – Yahu Apr 26 '10 at 17:20
@Shalom ^good question... – Hacham Gabriel Mar 31 '13 at 1:51
@Yahu It's definitely in Igros somewhere. I've seen it before. – Double AA Apr 15 '13 at 22:22

If the girl insists you shave during sefirah, is she really right for you?

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Well, if you were looking for an excuse... – Tzvi Apr 27 '10 at 21:38
@Tzvi good point. – Chanoch Apr 28 '10 at 13:12
Appearing unshaven during the sefirah is actually looking your very best. The Chazon Ish once remarked that walking around on Shabbat with a dirty hat (which one may not dust off) is Kavod Shabbat. Similar comments from Chatam Sofer and others. – Barry Apr 28 '10 at 20:56
@Barry Those are obviously not meant to be taken literally. No one would tell you to dirty your hat on purpose to maximize Kavod Shabbat – Double AA Apr 10 '14 at 15:40

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