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On Friday night we welcome the angels by singing Shalom Aleichem the question is why do we tell them:

צֵאתְכֶם לְשָׁלוֹם מַלְאֲכֵי הַשָּׁלוֹם מַלְאָכֵי עֶלְיוֹן

Essentially sending them away that seems to be a quite ungracious host so why do we do it?

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There are certain Chasidim, such as Bobov that do not say צֵאתְכֶם לְשָׁלוֹם. Perhaps it is for this reason. – Gershon Gold Nov 10 '11 at 17:39
@GershonGold, and some say tzes'chem uvoachem l'shalom. – msh210 Nov 10 '11 at 19:33
@GershonGold: and some that say "B'Shivtechem LeShalom" - en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shalom_Aleichem_(liturgy)#Words – Menachem Nov 11 '11 at 17:33
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  1. Machatzit Hashekel Siman 262: We don't know when they are going to leave. So we ask them to bless us whenever they decide to leave. Similar to "Blessed are you when coming and blessed when leaving".
  2. Avnei Nezer: Shalom Aleichem we say to the Malhachei Hashabat that "came" with us from Shul and Tsetchem Leshalom we say to the Malhacei Hachol (Mundane? weekday?) which were with us during the week. Similar to Ya'akov who had 2 groups of Malachim: One for Eretz Yisrael and the second for Chutz Laharetz.
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+1. Re Avne Nezer: See Rashi on "olim v'yor'dim bo". Sounds like we should first say "tzes'chem" and then "boachem". – msh210 Nov 10 '11 at 21:26
Maybe that in the case of Ya'akov the 2 groups couldn't be together (those from Yisrael couldn't be abroad and vice-versa) but if I understand correctly according to the Avnei Nezer the pair that came with us will stay for the rest of the week so there is no problem in saying it in this order. – rony Nov 12 '11 at 20:22

From here:

Although it seems strange to bid farewell to the angels so quickly -- why not invite them to join the Shabbat meal? -- Rabbi Yosef Yitzchak of Lubavitch explained that it is in bad taste to eat while others who are not eating (or in this case, cannot eat) are watching

I also once heard that the Lubavitcher Rebbe said that every second of an angel's existence is very precious and the angel doesn't want to waste time after it has given it's blessing, so we bid it farewell right away.

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